Jo's Somatic Trauma Informed Life Coaching

31/12/2025

Reflection of 2025
This is the first reflection I have done and it is due to participating in the #54321 Show and Tell for Adults on Linkedin from Bower and others

Making time to spend with friends. We all lead extremely busy lives, however, it is about scheduling in to make time to spend with friends, to catch up over drinks or lunches. It is really good to be able to catch up. I also catch up with colleagues who I have worked with over the years as well.

Stepping out or your comfort zone. By attending concerts, Jason Donovan at King’s Lynn Corn Exchange and then Gary Barlow at Forest Live. Attending parties of colleagues who celebrated birthdays and leaving organisations, I find this hard in being in large gatherings, but making that effort is so important. Attending first Major Football Match for work; and then going to watch it from the highest point in the stadium with lots and lots of people; really did take me out of my comfort zone, I was supported by my colleague who looked after his work Mum!!! Face to face presentations for work, starting off small, then ending the year with nearly 100 delegates!!!

Getting stuck in an automatic car wash – umm it was down to using my common sense and attracting attention to resolve this issue. A good old honk of the car horn!!! Garage came to the rescue with a fork to re-set the system.

Realising the fragility of life – life is precious – be grateful for the small moments and step out of your comfort zone to make memories – you are so worth it!

My day job keeps me busy and reflecting on how I support clients with their journeys.

In the early part of the year I had some case studies, but I have now had my first proper client. They have started to feel emotions which they have not been able to feel before and are able to name them. We have used Brainspotting to help them to become more attuned with the bottom up approach of healing and the connection with their body.

Looking forward to 2026
2026 will bring collaboration with Lucy Wade and being part of her Podcasts.

May 26 is a milestone for me and hubby; 25 years married.

July 2026, we will be going to see Mamma Mia

23/12/2025

As I reflect on 2025 and using my skills as a Somatic Trauma Informed Life Coach in the domestic abuse field, I notice how much of the work has lived beneath words.

It's not just about sessions, tools, or outcomes. It has been about safety in its many forms, and how each layer impacts the nervous system. Often physical safety was only the starting point. Emotional, psychological, relational, internal, and environmental safety were the quieter work unfolding alongside it.

Much of the work involved supporting nervous systems is to recognise physical safety, sometimes for the first time in years. To notice when the body could soften, even briefly, without scanning for threat. Emotional safety was built slowly, through being heard without judgement and allowing feelings to exist without needing to be fixed or minimised.

Psychological safety became a powerful part of the work. Reclaiming the right to think, to question, and to trust one’s own reality after experiences of control or manipulation. As this safety grew, many clients began to feel less confused and more anchored in themselves.

Relational safety was explored gently. Learning that connection does not have to come at the cost of self abandonment. That boundaries can coexist with care. Trust can be built at a pace the body agrees with, not one that is forced or rushed.

Internal safety is often the most tender layer. Many bodies had learned that disconnecting was the safest option. Somatic work supported a gradual reconnection, helping clients experience their bodies as places of information rather than danger.

Environmental safety also mattered deeply. Creating spaces that felt predictable, calm, and respectful allowed nervous systems to settle enough for any deeper work to happen at all.

For me this year meant meeting people where they were, being flexible and creative, and trusting the body led process even when it took me beyond what felt familiar.

I have witnessed the quiet courage it takes to speak when silence once kept someone safe. I have held space for bodies that arrived braced, guarded, or exhausted, and slowly learned they did not have to do everything alone.

22/12/2025

Boundaries are not walls. They are clarity.

They are how your nervous system learns where you end and someone else begins.

They are how safety is built from the inside out.

If you struggle to set boundaries it is often because your body learned that saying no was not safe.

That pleasing kept the peace.
That silence was protection.
That is not a personal failure.
That is adaptation.

Boundaries are a skill your body can learn gently and at your pace.

If boundaries feel scary, confusing, or come with guilt, let us work with the body not against it.

Book your FREE 30 minute discovery call

Contact me and we will start where you are.

21/12/2025

Connection is not a luxury. It is a nervous system need.

When connection is missing your body does not relax.
It scans. It braces. It prepares for impact.

This is why loneliness hurts physically.
Why being unseen feels exhausting.
Why you can be surrounded by people and still feel unsafe.

Healthy connection is not about needing others to fix you.
It is about your system knowing it does not have to do everything alone.

If connection feels hard, overwhelming, or unsafe for you, nothing is wrong with you.
Your body learned what it had to in order to survive.

And it can learn something new.

If you are craving connection but do not know how to feel safe in it, reach out.

Book a FREE 30 minute discovery call to find out more - You are Worth It!!
You do not have to navigate this on your own.

05/12/2025

#54321 Show and Tell for Adults
I don't always want to create this, however it shows that I am human.

Success
First discovery call for my Somatic Trauma Informed Life Coaching!

Hurdle
Not knowing whether my current Specialist role will extend beyond end of March 26 because of funding for VAWG from MOJ! This has brought up lots of questions:- Do I start looking for a new role now? Do I wait until after Xmas? Do I sit it out? I am sitting with the feelings which are showing up, as things happen for a reason and synchronicities too!! Lets watch this space and see what manifests……

Mistake
Hubby’s car battery saga, RAC had been out and car needed a new battery, mechanic booked it in originally for 1st Dec but then said oh no we can do it on 28th Nov, hubby asked for it in the afternoon, ok. Afternoon of 28th Nov, came and went, did we see RAC mechanic? Oh no, text to say it would be mid morning Mon 1st Dec, this came and went and late afternoon, mechanic and battery appeared!!

Action
I had an appointment for a filling at my dentist’s, this is a trigger for me as it takes me back to childhood and having a gas mask placed over my face at 5 years old. I was put at ease and the dentist said to me, you’ll be fine!!! Anyone who knows me and the use of the FINE acronym, I challenged this with him, he did laugh and said he will now have to think about what phrase he uses towards patients!!

Lesson
Not believing everything you hear as it happens, as everyone has a different version of events which happen. Looking at a situation from a different angles and also getting various viewpoints to enable you to understand a situation and move forward from there, one step at a time.

04/12/2025

Micro resets are the quiet moments that bring you back to yourself.

You do not need a full ritual or a long practice.

Your body loves the simple things.

These tiny choices interrupt the spiral.

They tell your nervous system you are here, and you are safe enough.

Small acts of care change more than force ever will.

Start with one.

Your body will meet you there.

03/12/2025

Real life nervous system moments are the ones we rarely talk about.

The tight chest that arrives out of nowhere.
The sudden heaviness.
The mind that starts racing even though nothing obvious happened.

These moments are not random. They are your body remembering, reacting, protecting.

You are not weak for feeling them.
You are human.

When you pause, breathe and notice what is happening inside you, your body starts to settle.
Not because you force it, but because you listen.

Your nervous system is speaking.
You deserve to hear it with kindness.

02/12/2025

Are you overwhelmed?

Somatic Trauma Informed Life Coaching might be able to help you understand yourself better. We can learn about your nervous system and where you are right now.

The first step is always the hardest, but you are worth it.....
Email: josomaticlifecoaching@gmail.com to book a free 30 minute discovery call

https://jojacklin.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

02/12/2025

Behind the scenes, healing is not pretty. It is me sitting in my car taking one slow breath before walking into the world. It counts.

I remind myself that steadiness grows through consistency, not force. My body responds to kindness far more than pressure.

My growth is not loud. It is in the moments I choose to pause rather than push. It is in the times I speak kindly to myself instead of shutting down.

01/12/2025

Brainspotting gives your system a clear path to release what talking alone cannot reach. It works with the deep instinctive part of your brain that holds the memories, sensations and reactions that feel stuck. When your eyes settle on the spot that links to that unfinished experience, your body finally has space to soften and process.

This work is gentle, steady and powerful. You stay present, I guide the space, and your nervous system leads the way. Many people describe it as a sense of calm rising from the inside out.

If you want healing that feels real in your body and creates lasting change, Brainspotting can be the shift you have been looking for. Reach out if this speaks to you.

30/11/2025

Self growth is not about forcing yourself. It is about widening your window of safety.

Every small action you take that stretches you just a little bit teaches your system, “I can handle this. I can try new things.

I can survive discomfort without abandoning myself.”

29/11/2025

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I have had to visit the dentist this morning to have a filling; this was planned from my checkup about a month ago. However on Saturday, the tooth next to the one being filled had a large gap appear. Fight/flight showed up, with the what if's; root canal treatment, crown, cap, how much 🤔 - howeve...