10/02/2026
Confidence is not loud...........
Confidence is often misunderstood.
It gets confused with being outspoken, unshakeable, or always certain.
For many people, especially those with lived experience of trauma, confidence does not arrive like that at all.
Real confidence is quieter.
It lives in the body before it ever shows up in words.
Confidence can look like pausing instead of pushing.
It can look like listening to the tightness in your chest and choosing to slow down.
It can look like saying I need a moment, or this does not feel right for me.
For a nervous system that has learned to stay alert to survive, confidence is not about forcing bravery.
It is about safety.
When your body feels safer, confidence grows naturally. Not as a performance, but as a felt sense of trust in yourself.
This kind of confidence says
I can notice what is happening inside me
I can respond rather than react
I can stay connected to myself even when things feel uncertain
Confidence is not the absence of fear.
It is the ability to stay present with yourself when fear shows up.
And that matters.
Because confidence rooted in the nervous system is sustainable.
It does not burn you out.
It does not require you to override your needs.
It allows you to be authentic, boundaried, and compassionate with yourself.
If confidence feels out of reach, nothing is wrong with you. Your system may simply be asking for more safety, more choice, and more gentleness.
Confidence is not something you become.
It is something you remember when your body feels supported enough to be you.
Take your time. I am ready when you are.
