MJB Counselling

04/03/2026

Its been a long wet winter and I'm sure most of us can relate to feeling the heaviness of this passing season. The magnolia trees are saying hang on in there. Spring is on its way. Spring is such a beautiful time of year. I invite to step outside into nature and notice the growth and beauty all around. Listen to the birds chirping away. Your nervous system will thank you.

03/03/2026

02/03/2026

📣 Pop-up mental health drop-in support across the East

Following the recent closure of Access Community Trust, we know many people across Great Yarmouth, Gorleston and Waveney may be feeling uncertain or worried. Norfolk and Waveney Mind is putting additional support in place to help.

On Friday, we shared an update about the impact of the closure and the support that remains available across our region. You can read that full statement here: https://rebrand.ly/hs9af8t

Over the next two weeks, we’ll be running pop up mental health drop in sessions across the area.

These sessions offer:
• A safe, welcoming space to talk
• Friendly face to face wellbeing support
• Advice, information and signposting to further help

If you or someone you know could benefit, please take a look at the timetable attached and drop in, no appointment needed.

You’re not alone. We’re here to help. 🩵

02/03/2026

No one woke up this morning & said, you know what, I think I need to go "no contact” with someone who has been in my life for decades & with whom I share countless important memories, for "no reason."

Save the guilt trip. No survivor goes "no contact" casually or thoughtlessly.

14/02/2026

Love can be a like a double edge sword for those that created the strong childhood belief of ‘I’m unlovable’, originating from the felt sense of feeling unlovable. This type of belief stems from parents/caregivers not being able to give love to the child in a healthy, secure and consistent way. When the baby’s needs to feel loved are not met, the baby starts to numb and cut off from the desire to connect. As holding onto the need for love and not receiving it is a very wounding experience. So, it becomes safer to freeze/cut off the desire to be loved, rather than risk feeling rejected and abandoned. This isn’t a conscious decision; it is a survival instinct. However, this coping strategy is very problematic as it creates barriers to letting healthy love in from those that are able to give healthy love.

But there is hope, as it is possible to rewire faulty negative beliefs, provide healing to release the fear of letting love in, and release feelings of hurt, rejection, abandonment and shame. When the adult self is able to start to let healthy love in and experience how nourishing this is. The adult self can start to repair and give their younger parts that are stuck in the past, a healing experience of compassion and love.

This is a rollercoaster journey of emotions. But boy is it a powerfully healing experience. You just have to commit to yourself and trust the process. Life can be more fulfilling and nourishing.

04/02/2026

These pairs often get confused because they can look identical from the outside - and sometimes even feel similar in the moment.

The key isn’t waiting to see how you feel after. It’s getting clear on what outcome you’re actually working toward.

⭐️Accountability vs. Shame: Do you want to learn from this mistake and do better next time? Or are you just beating yourself up on repeat? Accountability is future-focused. Shame keeps you stuck in the past.

⭐️Processing vs. Ruminating: Are you working through the emotion to reach understanding? Or are you replaying the same thoughts without resolution? Processing has movement. Ruminating is a closed loop.

⭐️ Boundaries vs. Walls: Do you want to protect yourself while staying open to connection? Or are you shutting people out completely? Boundaries are selective. Walls are total.

⭐️ Assertiveness vs. Aggression: Are you standing up for your needs while respecting the other person? Or are you bulldozing over them to get your way? Assertiveness honors both people. Aggression only honors one.

➡️ The distinguishing question: What am I trying to create here?

When you’re clear on the outcome you actually want - growth, resolution, safety with connection, mutual respect - it becomes easier to recognize which path gets you there.

02/02/2026

One of the greatest barriers to the acceptance of psychotherapies that stimulate acupuncture points by tapping on them, such as EFT and TFT, has been a persistent question: How does tapping on the skin lead to psychological change?

For decades, practitioners have known that therapies and self-help approaches involving tapping on acupuncture points are unusually fast and effective, but articulating a clear, science-based explanation has been more challenging. Over the past two decades, researchers such as Dawson Church, Peta Stapleton, and David Feinstein have steadily advanced the evidence base through peer-reviewed studies. In November 2025, David published a landmark synthesis of this research, offering the most coherent and comprehensive scientific account to date of the physiological and psychological mechanisms underlying EFT and TFT.

Recognising the importance of this work — and knowing that most practitioners don’t have time to read lengthy academic papers — Nick Ortner used AI to translate the research into a beautifully designed, 10-page illustrated infographic. David then reviewed the entire piece, making numerous corrections and refinements to ensure scientific accuracy.

It is perhaps the most engaging, accessible, and efficient way available to become conversant in the science behind tapping. The infographic can be easily viewed on a laptop or downloaded as a printable PDF. It also links to the original academic paper (bottom of page 1) and has an area at the end for posting questions. David will be checking in at least weekly as long as a discussion is going and happy to tackle any questions you present.

To see the infographic, click https://energytapping.com/how-tapping-works-infographic/

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28/01/2026

As a holistic, trauma-focused psychotherapist, I help you heal old wounds through emotional regulation, nurturing mind, body, spirit, and heart.”

26/01/2026

'Your miracles are an inside job. Go there to create the magic you seek in your life.'