02/10/2025
Hi, how are you?
I turned 50 recently so thought I'd write a post about it 🎉
Alot of my friends are turning 50 too and it's been interesting hearing how differently we all feel about this milestone.
Some are finding it hard and dreading it whilst others are embracing it. You then have those who arnt quite sure how they feel. These are peoples feelings so neither are wrong.
How do I feel? I think I have been through all the emotions above but my feelings right now are mixed.
A mixture of embracing and letting go ❤️
The letting go - Difficulties in the last few years have definitely been my body and mind being affected by the menopause. I don't think anybody is prepared for the rollercoaster horrific at times journey this brings. I had to make the necessary lifestyle changes that I now need, letting go of anything that impacts me negatively. My body and mind are definitely thanking me for making these changes as my body and mind are in a much better place currently. ❤️ So what helps me and what did I let go of.
Less sugar
Less alcohol
Better food choices, no processed food.
Anything that reduces stress, yoga, breathwork, meditation, listening to music, reading.
Regular therapy
More rest and relaxation
Lots of supplements too.
The transition is very very tough for lots of women as I and others suddenly realise that we cant do everything we could do 20 years ago and this realisation is tough. I am all about supporting one and other through this whilst respecting each others choices and how we choose to navigate our own way through this. We are all unique and our menopausal journey is also unique, so we must, above all else, have compassion. Compassion for ourselves as we visibly see ourselves ageing and compassion for others. No judgement.
Now for the embracing ✨️
My 50th birthday has been incredible 🥰. I have received so many gifts, messages, special cards and had special days, nights and weekends with people very dear to me. I still have plans until mid November - how lucky am I ❤️
My 50th has reminded me of what is important. My family, My friends, how I live, what I choose to do for a living (my purpose) ..Priorising myself. The biggest reminder though has been love. Love for all of the above, so much love ❤️
I am in Corfu right now with my rock of a husband by my side. He stands by me always. A few months ago my mood swings were I imagine hard to live with but this is yet another reminder of love ❤️
I am drinking a nice peppermint tea whilst looking out onto the ocean. Peppermint tea!!! I hear some people say who knew the part of Nicola with an alcoholic drink in her hand usually 😊. I am still that Nicola but just not today. I am now at a place of acceptance doing whats right and better for me. This is just another part to me just better. As i head into this new decade I feel strong, proud, compassionate, graceful and grateful. Very very grateful for so many things. Family and my beautiful friends who have helped me on the difficult days you are my world ❤️, My work and my clients are the most AMAZING people. I love you all and are forever thankful for you 🙏
See you all from the 8th October all refreshed and reset to give you what you need ❤️
Love 50 year old Nicola - let's do this 💪 ❤️
