10/10/2025
LISTENING TO OUR BODIES
After years of therapy, some of it incredible, some less so, and three decades on the hamster wheel of the self-help industry, I reached a point where I instinctively knew enough was enough.
What if I wasn’t broken?
What if I didn’t need to be fixed?
What if I stopped pathologising myself and stepped out from under the shadows of the labels I’d been given?
It was around this time that it became obvious my body was screaming for me to pay attention.
I realised I had become completely cut off from it, which in truth was no great surprise.
My body had carried a lot of pain.
It had become a battleground through years of chronic illness and survival.
So of course I had learned to disconnect from it.
I had floated above it, living from the neck up swimming in a world of thoughts and endless chatter.
That’s when I knew it was time to come home,
to learn to speak my body’s native language.
When I first started searching for a somatic practitioner, I thought Somatics would help me cross that longed-for threshold, the one where you leave the old version of yourself behind and emerge as something new, like a butterfly fully formed.
But in reality, something else happened instead.
There wasn’t a leaving behind.
There was a deep turning toward.
A remembering.
What I found wasn’t just resilience,
but prosilience,
the sacred act of turning s**t into fertiliser.
This work didn’t polish me into a brighter version of myself.
It helped me root more deeply into the truth of who I already was.
Messy. Tender. Whole.
And that, I think, is what real healing feels like.
You don’t process, discard, and emerge as the butterfly.
You compost, integrate, and grow roots that can hold more of life.
Because healing isn’t about becoming someone new,
it’s about becoming more fully you.
What does your body say to you when you stop & listen? Is it a whisper or a shout?