Hocokah Wellbeing

13/02/2026

Anticipatory grief is hard to explain and even harder to live through.

You’re trying to stay present while preparing for something you don’t want to face.
The days are full of pressure, sadness, stress, and moments you want to freeze in time.

These are three things I wish more people knew to do during this part of grief.
They won’t take the pain away, but they just might help you feel a little more held in it.

If this is where you are right now, I support people through grief, before and after loss.

DM me if you’d like to talk about what that support could look like for you.

12/02/2026

I'll be at the LizianEvents Wellbeing Show at Newark this weekend - do come and say hi and chat about all things life, loss, bereavement, grief and love with me! 💜 xx

There are a ton of reasons to come to the amazing Well Being Weekend. There’s so much to do at the show, from shopping to holistic healing and therapies. You can expect a weekend filled with pure happiness. Get ready for a weekend of fun and learning! There’ll be around 70 community exhibitors, and we’ve got a whole bunch of enlightening talks and presentations lined up. Plus, there’ll be some cool demonstrations, like the famous Sound Healing Demonstration by Richard using his sound tubes and Milla’s African Drumming Workshops.

Newark Well Being Show - Mind Body and Soul Experience

12/02/2026

Just sharing some of my reflections this morning.

I believe that love and grief are the opposite sides of the same coin and so when you grieve deeply it demonstrates just how much you loved that person 💜

The deeper you love, the deeper you grieve.

However that love doesn't disappear when your loved one passes away - it continues. You don't love them any less now that they are not physically with you 💜

Of course things change and we miss them profoundly - we miss their physical presence, their laughter, their kindness, their place in our lives, however they will always be in our hearts 💜 we take them wherever we go.

I am grateful for the love that I hold in my heart, for all of my loved ones that have passed ✨️

09/02/2026

Have you ever grieved the loss of someone before they were gone?

Anticipatory grief is what we call it.
It’s the emotional and psychological weight that comes when someone you love is slowly declining, often through terminal illness or declining changes in health.

I went through it when my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
She declined quickly, and I didn’t know how to hold everything I was feeling.

If you’re living through this now, you might be carrying sadness, fear, anxiety, guilt and a million questions. Please be gentle with yourself.

And if you’re looking for support, you’ve found me.
I’m Lindsey, a grief support coach, and I specialise in loss before it happens.

My DMs are open.

07/02/2026

I will be having a stand at this fabulous Wellbeing Show at Newark Showground next weekend if you fancy coming to say hello 💜 xx

There are a ton of reasons to come to the amazing Well Being Weekend. There’s so much to do at the show, from shopping to holistic healing and therapies. You can expect a weekend filled with pure happiness. Get ready for a weekend of fun and learning! There’ll be around 70 community exhibitors, and we’ve got a whole bunch of enlightening talks and presentations lined up. Plus, there’ll be some cool demonstrations, like the famous Sound Healing Demonstration by Richard using his sound tubes and Milla’s African Drumming Workshops.

Newark Well Being Show - Mind Body and Soul Experience

06/02/2026

This kind of emotional weight doesn’t shift on its own.

If you’re holding too much, and you’re ready for support, send me a message and I’ll send you the details.

05/02/2026

I've been writing a monthly blog for the last year and I've realised that I haven't shared this fact on my socials - how daft is that?

My blogs are generally about different aspects of grief, often providing practical prompts to support you in your grief.

If you'd like to sign up to receive my blog directly into your inbox on the last day of each month AND receive a free meditation, then you can do that from the home page of my website - link in Bio.

04/02/2026

Anticipatory grief is real, but some people don’t know there’s a name for it or if this is actually a thing.

It means you're already grieving someone you love, even though they’re still here.

This post is just to say: I see you.

If you need support, I’m a grief coach and I can help.
DM me if you'd like a safe space to talk about it.

02/02/2026

It’s not just your tears.
It’s your tight chest.
Your aching shoulders.
Your jaw you didn’t realise was clenched.
Your sleep that never quite feels restful.

If your body hasn’t felt right since your loss, that isn't unusual.
Grief hits your nervous system before your mind can catch up.
You might be getting through the day, but your body still feels like it’s bracing.

Your mind might be trying to stay logical, by trying to hold it all together, but your nervous system has already felt the impact.
Your physical symptoms are real. That’s how grief moves through you.

There are ways to help it settle. I’m Lindsey, and I’m a grief coach.
I support people just like you going through loss, before it happens, and after.

If you’re looking for support, everything you need is in the link in my bio.

30/01/2026

That’s what often surprises people.
Especially if they’ve only known therapy where you explain everything in detail.

With IEMT, you stay in control.
You’re fully awake, it’s not hypnosis.
You don’t forget what happened.
But the emotional intensity can ease.
The grip it has on your body, the emotions you have been feeling, the tension, the dread, the overwhelm, it does start to settle.

It’s a steady process and may take more than one session, but I’ve known people who’ve only needed one.

Some notice a shift quickly.
For others, it takes a few days before things start to feel a little easier, like the weight is lifting. It’s quiet work. However it works, for most people, most of the time.

If you’ve been carrying something that’s hard to put into words, this might be the kind of support that actually helps.

Pop me a message or check the link in bio if you want to talk it through.