Presently Me

01/04/2026

🧠Stress Awareness Month

April is Stress Awareness Month, and this year, the focus isn't just on noticing stress—it's about taking action.
Stress isn't something that's just 'part of the job' or 'being x y z (mom, carer etc)'. If left unmanaged, it’s a significant health risk.

🫵🏻This month, I want everyone to Pause, Identify, and Act.

📉 The Reality of Stress in the UK (2026)
Sometimes we feel like we’re the only ones struggling, but the latest data shows we are in the midst of a "stress epidemic": Anyone that met me during COVID knows that I said this was happening.
Recent surveys show that approximately 1 in 6 adults in the UK feel stressed every single day.
In the last year (2024/25), 22 million working days were lost due to work-related stress, depression, or anxiety.
On average, those suffering from stress-related ill health took 22.9 days off to recover.

🔍 Spotting the Signs
Stress doesn’t always look obvious. It often whispers before it shouts. Are you noticing any of these?

Frequent headaches or tension?
Feeling overwhelmed or "on edge"? Snapping at loved ones?
Difficulty sleeping/Fatigue?
Racing thoughts & constant worry? Withdrawing from social plans?
Digestive issues or "knots"?
Irritability or impatience?
Changes in eating/drinking habits?
Muscle pain or jaw clenching ?
Loss of confidence or dread? Procrastinating or loss of focus?

🫵🏻I want to encourage you to take three small steps this week:
When you feel those symptoms sneaking in, PAUSE- ask yourself, what just happened? Is it a specific person, a time of day, or a certain task?
IDENTIFY-Is the stress internal (expecting perfection from yourself) or external (workload/finances)?
ACT-You don’t have to fix your whole life today. But what is one thing you can do that will help manage the stress? Set a boundary with yourself, say no to someone else, allow yourself that extra few moments to focus on yourself.

💬 If you need specific support, you know where I am. I have clinic in Rugby these days but I am also available online.

09/03/2026

For anyone that needs it x

“It’s okay not to be okay — but you don’t have to not be okay alone.”

We all have moments where things feel heavy.
Stress builds up.
Sleep disappears.
Thoughts get louder.

And sometimes we convince ourselves we should just deal with it.

You don’t have to.

If you need someone to talk to right now, our free and confidential text support service is available 24/7.

No judgement.
No pressure.
Just support when you need it most.

If you’d prefer face-to-face peer support, our groups provide safe, welcoming spaces where you can talk openly and feel less alone.

Find out more here:
https://toughenoughtocare.help/support-groups/

17/02/2026

Hey all, I hope everyone is well and looking after themselves.
Today is random acts of kindness day, and though I advocate for kindness towards yourself and others every day I do have something very special for one of you.
One of my colleagues Adam Gross is offering a free session in exchange for some feedback. Adam does a lot of work with people experiencing anxiety and particularly over thinking so if you think you might be interested in learning more please drop a like or a comment and you will receive more information.
Kindest
Kendal

14/02/2026

💖 Happy Valentine's Day Everyone, I hope that you are well and looking after yourselves.
I know that today is typically focussed around relationships whether it's as a couple or friends but I thought it would be a good time to consider the relationship we have with ourselves, as that is one of the most important and influential relationships we can have in our lives.
♥️For many of us, the idea of self love is abstract, and can feel near impossible to achieve, with everything and everyone else being put ahead of ourselves. And whilst it's ok not to feel lovey dovey today, or any day, it's not ok to treat yourselves as an after thought.
Regardless of the reason, whether it's being too busy, having responsibilities or whether it is something more chronic such as low self esteem or a deep seated core belief, there are steps we can take to change this perception.
This is not a weakness or a character flaw, and as always, be kind to yourself especially when doing this sort of reflecting as it can be very emotional and difficult.
🗣️Start by talking to yourself a little gentler, when the inner voice speaks and says negative or critical comments, try to interrupt it and neutralise the thought. For example "I am human" "today is a hard day and I am doing my best".
🪞Stand in front of a mirror and speak to yourself as you would do to a close friend or a loved one, using the same words and tone of voice, try to do this while looking into your own eyes.
☕Take a few minutes for yourself today, whether this is to have a nice cup of tea or coffee, wrapping yourself in a cosy blanket, stepping outside for a few minutes in the fresh air, do this intentionally for yourself, allow your mind time to focus on this action so that it learns this is ok.
🧠Know that you do not need to do this alone, it takes time, patience and sometimes professional help, and that's ok.
👍🏼I am here if you need support, whether that's a 1:1 talking session, hypnosis, trauma therapy, coaching, I have lots of tools especially for this because I know how often people feel this way and over the years have worked with many going through this.
🫵🏻You are enough, exactly as you are!
Kindest
Kendal

19/01/2026

Hello everyone!
I hope that you are well and looking after yourselves.
I have seen lots of posts about 'blue Monday' and wanted to check in. I know I have not been so active the last few weeks but I do want to remind you that I am still here and available if you need support.
Whether you're feeling the weight of the winter months, the cold, the darkness, or finding it hard to get into your rhythm, maybe you set some goals and are already struggling, please know this is absolutely normal and ok.
If you wanted to try some simple things, to try and boost yourself,
Try and get outside each day for a 10 minute walk or something, getting fresh air and some steps in cam help regulate your mood and improve sleep.
Don't attempt to do too many things at once, it can be tempting with all the new years resolutions to start lots of new things at once and this is overwhelming at the best of times, try to focus on one thing at a time and when you are consistently doing that you can consider whether you want to add in another, but recognise and give yourself praise for being consistent.
Connect with those that bring you joy, a simple text, a short phonecall or a quick coffee, if you need something more you can drop me a message and see what else I can suggest.

I am here to help. I offer professional, private mental health support tailored to your unique journey.

How you can work with me:
In-Person Sessions: For those who prefer a face-to-face connection and are based in and around Rugby.
Online Therapy: Accessible from the comfort and privacy of your own home.

You can find more information about my approach, my background, and how to book a consultation on my website:
www.presentlyme.com
Remember, you don't have to navigate the "blues" alone. Whether it's Blue Monday or any other day of the year, your mental health is a priority.
Stay kind to yourself,
Kendal x

Welcome to Presently Me. I’m Kendal, a registered mental health nurse with a background in acute psychiatric crisis and as an advanced clinical practitioner in physical health. I now work privately, offering holistic, evidence-based therapy in a calm, compassionate space. I integrate EMDR, clinica...

25/12/2025

Merry Christmas, everyone! I know it's late in the day but I have been trying to take it slow and also stay off my phone.🎄
While today is often filled with joy, as a mental health nurse, I know it can also be a day that feels incredibly heavy, stressful, or even lonely.
Please remember: you have permission to do whatever you need to do to make today the best it can be for you.
* It’s okay to take a quiet moment away from the noise.
* It’s okay to set boundaries.
* It’s okay to focus on simple joys and just "be."
Wishing you a day of peace, comfort, and kindness toward yourself. ❤️
And let that apply to everyday!
I’m looking forward to supporting you all in the New Year. For now, be kind to yourself!

🐛I hope this little worm brings a smile to your face.

27/11/2025

Hi everyone, hope you are well and looking after yourselves. I have been asked a few times now about doing more events over in the black country so I will aim to do more in the new year. It would be really helpful to know what you would like to ensure I get the numbers to cover the cost of hiring somewhere as well as the journey from rugby and back.
I can do sound baths, guided meditation or longer events like retreat days.
Also, would anyone like to volunteer to be my guinea pig for some online events I have been thinking to do? In exchange for some feedback?
Kindest,
Kendal

16/11/2025

Hey all,
Hope everyone is well and looking after themselves.
As I've mentioned I have something very special to share with you and what better time than the present.
You will likely know that I am very much about self care and if you have ever received a gift from myself or seen a gift I have made/bought for someone I always try to incorporate something related to self care, I also do lots of different crafts and sell these at craft fayre's when I get chance.
Well, I have finally gotten around to doing something I have wanted to do for a while and combined both of those things to bring you 'self care packages'. These are carefully and thoughtfully curated aromatics for either yourselves or a loved one to enjoy at home. Each of the items have very specific mixtures of natural essential oils which I have chosen based on their potential benefits and then each item I have mixed and matched to make boxes that can support with rest, relaxation, stress, mood, emotional release, pain, brain fog, concentration and more.
Each box will consist of an aromatherapy candle, aromatherapy soap and then either shower Steamers, bath salts or a bath bomb. I then package each one with a write up to tell you what they help with as well as a pretty gift box.
Each box is just £13.50.
Let me know if you would like one and I can arrange getting it to you for an additional cost or you are welcome to collect it x

14/11/2025

Join me and my lovely colleagues for a day dedicated to all things self care.
"treat yourself" because Kendal says so 😃 also I will be showcasing what I am yet to announce on here so come and get a sneak peak x

We are looking forward to seeing you TOMORROW 15th November at the 'Treat Yourself Day'
Hibberts Kitchen - Hibberts Hall, Dunchurch Road, Rugby, CV226AQ

As well as lovely food and refreshments we also have:

Free ear checks with Amy
Japanese head spa chat with Koi
Indian head massage and Neals Yard with Leanne
Bespoke Jewellery with Dawn
Lovely crafts with Michaela
Chair massage with Hayley
Ear acupuncture and ear seeds with Kendal
Lymph support chat with Kate
Crystal and crafts with Laura
Tropics skincare with Nikki
Reiki and face massage with Julieann
Essential oils and gift vouchers

Free entry and book on the day treatments - 10am start

Lots of gifts for Christmas and treatments to recharge yourself

For more info: Julieann - 07745 616284

13/11/2025

🌍Today is World Kindness Day🌍
While the world needs our kindness, the first person who deserves it is YOU 🫵🏻
We are often our own harshest critics. Notice the critical voice in your head today. If you hear a thought like, "I'm not good enough" or probably something more subtle "I'm so stupid for doing x y z" or "I'm so clumsy" etc pause and challenge it. Replace negative self-talk with compassionate, truthful statements like, "I am enough," or "I handled that the best I could." Maybe even try and prepare these ahead of time so that when you do notice them you can Interject which may feel easier than in the moment.
Treating yourself with the same compassion you'd offer a best friend is a really effective way to learn how to treat yourself. If you would not say it to a friend in need, do not say it to yourself, simple.
Beyond our thoughts, self-care is essential. This isn't selfish—it's necessary. Take a moment to check in: Do you need rest? Water? Quiet time? Honor that need. Prioritize one non-negotiable act of self-care every day.
When we practice self-kindness, it strengthens us and creates a powerful, authentic energy that we can share.
Let's make today about starting a kindness ripple, Make the world a kinder place.
How will you fill your cup today?

07/11/2025

Morning all,
As we reach the end of Stress Awareness Week, I thought I would take time to reflect on my week, which has been a bit busier than usual and some things I've been doing that i guess have helped with regards to stress.
I have been working as normal and taken on some new clients which is wonderful but does increase my work load, so I have prepared what I can in advance and allocated myself time specifically for the admin.
I attended Nursing Live at the NEC which again is wonderful and contributes towards my professional development as well as staying up to date with best practice etc but has taken me away from the clinic, I have utilised the time spent on the train to do some reflections and respond to emails.
I am in the process of completing revalidation so again have carved out time for that but also allocated myself small breaks in between to try and keep me motivated.
I am also working on something very special which I will share next week, this has allowed me to be creative and do some crafting which I enjoy as well as learning something new which I do tend to enjoy as I find new ways to help myself and my patients.
I also have an event tonight so I've been preparing for that and practicing.

Things I have done that help towards managing stress,
⌚Allocating time specifically for tasks,
Including mini breaks,
🌤️Getting outside,
🚴🏻‍♀️I've been riding my bike this week,
💑Seeing family and friends,
📖I started reading a new book,
🫟I did some crafts,
🎬Watched a film,
🎁Started Christmas shopping,
💭Reflecting/practicing gratitude,
🧼Took a nice long bath with candles and essential oils.

How you manage stress is completely up to you, what works for one does not always work for another and even at different times different things will help so it's good to try different things and implement them in to your everyday lifestyle as a way to prevent stress accumulating as chronic stress leads to burnout and we want to avoid that.
As ever, if you need support with stress management or mental health and wellbeing in general, drop me a message or book on my website www.presentlyme.com.

Look after yourselves,
Kendal x

01/11/2025

Hey everyone, hope you are well and looking after yourselves, I wanted to take the opportunity to Welcome in November!

❄️The upcoming colder and darker months can be a real challenge for our mental health. If you're already feeling a dip in mood or energy, please know that's completely normal—you're not alone.
However, today—the first of the month—is a gentle reminder that we get a clean slate. Let's set some intentions to protect our peace:
🛏️ Prioritize Rest: Give yourself permission to slow down and listen to your body's need for extra sleep or cozy downtime.
🍲Stay Hydrated & Nourished: Simple self-care foundations are even more critical when your energy is low.
📚Plan for Joy: Schedule small, enjoyable activities to look forward to—a new book, a favorite movie, or a warm bath, it doesn't have to involve going out or spending money.
Need a dedicated space and professional tools to help you set and achieve your mental health goals this season? I provide supportive sessions face to face in Rugby or conveniently online.
Sending you warmth and strength this month! ❤️