Lottie Passell-Syms

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Lottie Passell-Syms

I work with couples and individuals to address relationship challenges such as communication, intimacy and s*xual concerns.

I provide a confidential and supportive space so clients can strengthen connection and move towards more fulfilling relationships. About Me
I have experience working across a broad variety of issues and difficulties that include: relationship difficulties, stress, anxiety and depression, s*x and intimacy issues, s*xual dysfunction in both men and women, low self esteem, specific age and stage related issues. As well as s*xual abuse, addiction, infidelity and childhood trauma. I have a vast array of tools, techniques and templates for all manner of issues, that have proven to be incredibly beneficial in repairing and healing the lives of those I have worked with. How I Work

I am here to work through your goals whether that is to increase passion and pleasure in your relationship, communicate openly with ease or reconnect with yourself and partner. Of course, at its heart, therapy is about forming a relationship, working with a person you can both trust and build a rapport which is vital. I would also say it is probably the most important element of successful therapy. I describe myself as a progressive therapist who generates change. The focus will be coming out of crisis to develop a new contract which will allow for a healthier happier relationship. Individual and couples therapies are available by appointment, as well as via FaceTime and Zoom. As a member of the National Counselling Society (NCS) and College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) I adhere to their Code of Ethics and practice guidelines.

03/11/2025

So many relationships falter because one or both partners fall into the trap of ‘give to get.’ This approach breeds resentment, entitlement, and emotional distance. When giving is conditional, love becomes a bargaining chip rather than a bond.

In contrast, when couples adopt a ‘give to give’ mindset, they nurture a relationship rooted in selflessness and sincerity. Here's why that matters:

It builds trust. When you give out of love, not obligation, your partner feels seen, valued, and secure.

It Heightens emotional intimacy. Acts of giving create connection, vulnerability, and warmth between partners.

It prevents power struggles. Reciprocity keeps the relationship balanced. No one feels like they're carrying all the emotional or practical weight.

It encourages growth. Giving inspires giving. Your generosity naturally encourages your partner to invest back into the relationship, not out of pressure, but from a place of love.

Lottie x
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31/10/2025

Why is "give to give" the key for couples?

There are so many coupes who are struggling and finding it difficult to talk let alone share their time together.

A healthy, thriving relationship, means that you are showing up for each other, It's not about keeping score, who does more, but about mutual investment, empathy, and care.

True reciprocity means giving to give, not to get. When you are with the person that is making an investment in you and you with them reciprocity guides the relationship to a more respectful and humbled relationships.

To read my full blog post follow the link below ...

https://www.lottiepassellsyms.com/post/reciprocity-in-relationships

Lottie x
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29/10/2025

My FREE monthly workshop for couples is tonight (29th October) at 8pm and this month's topic is:

"Recovery from affairs"

Join me, where will talk about how to recover from an affair.

HOW TO ATTEND:
If you're on my mailing list and you will have been sent the link. Otherwise you can head over to my private Facebook Group: S3x, Intimacy and Relationship Workshop join from there.

Please like, share and tag anyone who you feel would benefit from this FREE Live Workshop.

NOTE: This is for Couples, however Therapists are more than welcome to join and learn for personal or professional reasons.

Lottie x
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27/10/2025

S3x represents more than just the physical act, it also signifies intimacy, connection and desire.

Therefore, a loss of s3x can mean much more than just the absence of physical connection.

When you have a continuous emotional connection it can foster physical intimacy, which strengthens the bond between two people - bringing closeness, love, and affection.

Intimacy in a relationship is the pivotal pillar of healthy relationships.

I see so many couples each week bringing a variety of different problems, however the one thing they have in common is lack of intimacy.

In my experience, couples who are seeking therapy due to the lack of intimacy feel less significant.

When was the last time you felt significant in your relationship?

Lottie x
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24/10/2025

Richness is not only in what you have, it’s in how you live and breathe. A positive mindset allows for positivity to come to you.
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Take a moment with me:

Deep breathe in, pause, deep breathe out - in through your nose, out through your mouth, 3 times slow and measured.

Now consider:

How rich am I in health?
How rich am I in friendships?
How rich am I in purpose?
How rich am I in love?

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Now, gently close your eyes.�
Deep breathe in, pause, deep breathe out - in through your nose, out through your mouth, 3 times slow and measured, each breath slower than the last.

As you settle, imagine yourself in a version of your life where there is already abundance:�

- of friendships.�
- of health.�
- of exercise and energy.�
- of love, connection, and joy.�

You are not reaching for it—it’s here now. You are already living it.

Allow gratitude to rise up in you, just for this moment.

Let it expand with each breath. Stay here for a little while.

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Then, when you feel ready, come back to these questions:

How rich am I in health?
How rich am I in friendships?
How rich am I in purpose?
How rich am I in love?

Give each area a number that feels right to you today.

Notice if it shifts after spending time in abundance and gratitude.

Lottie x
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22/10/2025

As autumn settles in, I’ve noticed something rather striking: the trees aren’t turning golden just yet.

Across the country, they’re staying green for longer, working overtime to protect themselves through this season of drought and fluctuating weather.

Underground, they communicate through an intricate network of roots and fungi, sharing nutrients, warnings, and resilience a living community quietly supporting one another.

It reminds me of us , how we too find ways to stay connected, to share what we can, and to keep each other steady through uncertain times.

We need to focus on doing this more…

Let’s take a cue from the trees and be gentle with ourselves and kind to one another.

Lottie x
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20/10/2025

My FREE monthly workshop for couples is Wednesday 29th October at 8pm and this month's topic is:

"Recovery from affairs"

Join me on my next live Wednesday 29th October at 8pm where will talk about how to recover from an affair.

HOW TO ATTEND:
If you're on my mailing list and you will be sent the link. Otherwise you can head over to my private Facebook Group: S3x, Intimacy and Relationship Workshop join from there.

Please like, share and tag anyone who you feel would benefit from this FREE Live Workshop.

NOTE: This is for Couples, however Therapists are more than welcome to join and learn for personal or professional reasons.

Lottie x
*xandintimacycoachforcouples *xandintimacy *xandrelationships

17/10/2025

Remember that the happiest people are not those GETTING more but those GIVING more ..

Why is "give to give" the key for couples?

There are so many coupes who are struggling and finding it difficult to talk let alone share their time together.

A healthy, thriving relationship, means that you are showing up for each other, It's not about keeping score, who does more, but about mutual investment, empathy, and care.

True reciprocity means giving to give, not to get. When you are with the person that is making an investment in you and you with them reciprocity guides the relationship to a more respectful and humbled relationships.

Lottie
*xandintimacycoachforcouples *xandintimacy *xandrelationships

16/10/2025

If your relationship feels a little strained right now, Christmas can sometimes highlight the distance between where you are and where you’d like to be.

Talking with a therapist can bring fresh perspective, help you realign, and open up new possibilities for connection.

From October to December, I’m offering a free 30-minute consultation (usually 15 minutes) a gentle space to explore what might be missing, and what’s worth nurturing as you move forward together.

Text 07788 492 202 and I will respond with 24 hours

Stay safe and kick some leaves when they start to fall.

Lottie x
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14/10/2025

When we hear the word RICH, our minds often go straight to money.

But richness is not only about what sits in your bank account: it’s about the wealth of your senses, your consciousness, your reality, and your ability to live in the here and now.

To read my full blog post follow the link below:

https://www.lottiepassellsyms.com/post/how-rich-are-you-really

Lottie x
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09/10/2025

When we hear the word rich, our minds often go straight to money.

But richness is not only about what sits in your bank account.

It’s about the wealth of your senses, your consciousness, your reality, and your ability to live in the here and now.

Let’s look at different areas of life where richness can be found:

- Health: the strength of your body, the vitality of your energy, and the resilience you carry.
- Spirituality: your connection to something greater, your sense of meaning, your inner peace.
- Money: not just survival, but choices, opportunities, and the freedom it can bring.
Friendships: the laughter, the shoulders to lean on, the souls who see and accept you.
- Family: the bonds of love, the shared histories, the connections that anchor you.
- Love: the giving and receiving of care, intimacy, and warmth.
- Purpose: the drive that gets you up in the morning, the work that fulfils you.
- Growth: your ability to learn, stretch, and evolve as life unfolds.
- Joy: those small, fleeting moments that fill your heart with lightness.

Now consider, how rich are you?

Lottie x
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08/10/2025

If you’re in a relationship and you’re thinking about long term commitment or even if you’ve been married for years try this together:

- Each of you write down five ‘don’ts’ for your relationship.
- Share them one at a time, without judgment and with curiosity
- For each ‘don’t, ’work together to reframe it as a ‘do.’

Notice where you match and where you differ these conversations are gold for understanding each other’s expectations.

Lottie x
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