Mindest

26/01/2026

Today’s vibe.
Deeply appreciated in the counselling room… 😁

20/01/2026

“Be a man about it.”
That’s when you stopped talking.

Men were taught to hold it in.
So they do.
Silence gets mistaken for resilience.

But emotional repression isn’t resilience.
It’s pain with nowhere to go, so it stays in and corrodes.

In reality, it takes bo****ks to speak up.
Real strength is being able to say how you actually feel.

The toxic idea of masculinity can be deadly.
And it deserves to be challenged.

Support exists, including therapy.

10/01/2026

This is what shows up when people stop pretending they’re fine and decide not to perform.

Healing isn’t always gentle. Sometimes it’s heavy, slow, exhausting, but people choosing to show up anyway.

Some weeks aren’t about breakthroughs or “progress”, it’s about sitting with grief, with fear.

No toxic positivity dressed up as hope, you don’t have to be “nice” or watch your words.

It’s a space with no judgement.

If this resonates, therapy might be the place to bring it.
Get in touch!

26/12/2025

Let’s be honest, sometimes we love to play judge. When someone spirals publicly, we point and say “What the hell happened to them?” Like we’re all born with equal wiring and self-control, just different PR teams.

Think about people like Katie Price and her love for plastic surgery, Britney Spears with her messy social media uploads and public meltdowns, Amy Winehouse or Kanye West - humans turned into headlines. Or your mate Dave who lost his job, hit the drink and stopped paying child support? Each one has been labelled unstable, reckless, self-destructive, toxic, manipulative, crazy or narcissistic. The verdict is simple: they chose to act that way! But psychology would whisper something far less convenient - maybe they didn’t. Maybe the version of them you’re seeing is the sum of a million invisible variables they never picked.

Kanye is a perfect case study, not to defend him, but to understand him. A man capable of building musical masterpieces and burning bridges with equal passion. What looks like ego might actually be a brain wired for intensity - reward circuits on overdrive, emotional regulation systems misfiring, and a lifetime of unresolved chaos driving the engine.

What if it’s not moral failure, but neurological momentum?

This is where the illusion of free will starts to crack… New blog is up!

https://www.mindest.co.uk/blog/the-illusion-of-freedom

22/11/2025

Not every room demands a performance.
Mine definitely doesn’t.

If you’re used to managing everyone else’s feelings, this is where you finally put that load down.

No masks, no politeness rituals, no emotional labour.

Just truth, edges and breath.

Welcome to therapy done properly.

20/11/2025

Christmas hits different when you are grieving, and it all starts in November!

Everyone else is slowly switching on fairy lights while your nervous system is just trying to survive the sensory assault - the lights, the songs, the stupid adverts…
Grief during Christmas is a psychological minefield in a social performance season.

Soon you start feeling two emotions at once: the pain of missing someone, and the guilt of not wanting to dim other people’s joy.

But you know what? You don’t have to perform joy, and you don’t owe anyone a half-smile when you’re fighting to stay upright.

You’re living through a period that keeps reminding you of someone who isn’t here, holding love in the hardest form it takes.
So if this is your first Christmas without someone, it’s okay that you don’t know how to do it. And if you’ve been grieving for years, it’s also okay that it still hurts.

There are ways to cope that don’t demand pretending everything is fine.

And if you need more than a caption right now - the full blog is waiting here:

https://www.mindest.co.uk/blog/christmas-hits-differently-when-youre-grieving/

12/11/2025

This beauty just arrived — can’t wait to bring some high-tech precision into trauma healing!

20/10/2025

Proud to announce my membership with the British Society of Clinical Hypnotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy.

Levelling up, grounded in science, empathy, and fuelled by pure rebellion. ⚡️

27/09/2025

If you’re not following me on Instagram yet, maybe you should? More casual posts on resilience, neuroscience, positive psychology… all the stuff that actually makes everyday life easier.

Instagram.com/mindest_hq

23/09/2025

Ever sat there, knowing exactly what you should do… but your body just says nope? 👀
Yeah, that. Let’s talk about why it happens (and how to unstick yourself)

New blog is up!

You know the moment—you want to speak, move, act… but your body shuts down. That’s not weakness. That’s survival. In this blog, I unpack the freeze response, why your nervous system hijacks you, and how to start breaking the cycle. Trauma-informed, no fluff, just real insight. Welcome to Min...

23/09/2025

Let’s be real, therapy is messy. Your voice will shake, you’ll say something and instantly want to swallow it back, you’ll panic that you’ve overshared. Good. That’s exactly where the real work begins.

I’m not here to judge, I’m here to listen. To hold the space while you unravel the parts you’ve been told to keep together. Healing doesn’t look tidy, but it looks like freedom when you finally let it out.

So if you’re waiting until you can say it perfectly - you’ll be waiting forever. Come as you are. Say it how it comes. That’s where the change starts 🖤

10/09/2025

Thoughts of ending it all are far more common than you think — about 1 in 5 people experience them.

People stay quiet because they don’t want to be a burden, cause worry, or bring “drama.”

But saying it out loud isn’t trouble - it’s relief.

Letting someone in isn’t pressure, it’s giving them the chance to stand with you.

These thoughts are a signal that something inside has hit breaking point and needs care, not silence.

🖤 SPEAK UP

If you’re supporting someone:

• Ask directly: “Are you thinking about suicide?” It shows you’re not scared of their truth.

• Stay close, no fixing. Just listening and being there matters more than perfect words.

• Encourage professional help and keep checking in - connection interrupts the spiral.

📞 UK support
• Samaritans: 116 123 (24/7, free)
• Text “SHOUT” to 85258
• If life is in immediate danger, call 999
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