Mindest

20/11/2025

Christmas hits different when you are grieving, and it all starts in November!

Everyone else is slowly switching on fairy lights while your nervous system is just trying to survive the sensory assault - the lights, the songs, the stupid adverts…
Grief during Christmas is a psychological minefield in a social performance season.

Soon you start feeling two emotions at once: the pain of missing someone, and the guilt of not wanting to dim other people’s joy.

But you know what? You don’t have to perform joy, and you don’t owe anyone a half-smile when you’re fighting to stay upright.

You’re living through a period that keeps reminding you of someone who isn’t here, holding love in the hardest form it takes.
So if this is your first Christmas without someone, it’s okay that you don’t know how to do it. And if you’ve been grieving for years, it’s also okay that it still hurts.

There are ways to cope that don’t demand pretending everything is fine.

And if you need more than a caption right now - the full blog is waiting here:

https://www.mindest.co.uk/blog/christmas-hits-differently-when-youre-grieving/

12/11/2025

This beauty just arrived — can’t wait to bring some high-tech precision into trauma healing!

20/10/2025

Proud to announce my membership with the British Society of Clinical Hypnotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy.

Levelling up, grounded in science, empathy, and fuelled by pure rebellion. ⚡️

27/09/2025

If you’re not following me on Instagram yet, maybe you should? More casual posts on resilience, neuroscience, positive psychology… all the stuff that actually makes everyday life easier.

Instagram.com/mindest_hq

23/09/2025

Ever sat there, knowing exactly what you should do… but your body just says nope? 👀
Yeah, that. Let’s talk about why it happens (and how to unstick yourself)

New blog is up!

You know the moment—you want to speak, move, act… but your body shuts down. That’s not weakness. That’s survival. In this blog, I unpack the freeze response, why your nervous system hijacks you, and how to start breaking the cycle. Trauma-informed, no fluff, just real insight. Welcome to Min...

23/09/2025

Let’s be real, therapy is messy. Your voice will shake, you’ll say something and instantly want to swallow it back, you’ll panic that you’ve overshared. Good. That’s exactly where the real work begins.

I’m not here to judge, I’m here to listen. To hold the space while you unravel the parts you’ve been told to keep together. Healing doesn’t look tidy, but it looks like freedom when you finally let it out.

So if you’re waiting until you can say it perfectly - you’ll be waiting forever. Come as you are. Say it how it comes. That’s where the change starts 🖤

10/09/2025

Thoughts of ending it all are far more common than you think — about 1 in 5 people experience them.

People stay quiet because they don’t want to be a burden, cause worry, or bring “drama.”

But saying it out loud isn’t trouble - it’s relief.

Letting someone in isn’t pressure, it’s giving them the chance to stand with you.

These thoughts are a signal that something inside has hit breaking point and needs care, not silence.

🖤 SPEAK UP

If you’re supporting someone:

• Ask directly: “Are you thinking about suicide?” It shows you’re not scared of their truth.

• Stay close, no fixing. Just listening and being there matters more than perfect words.

• Encourage professional help and keep checking in - connection interrupts the spiral.

📞 UK support
• Samaritans: 116 123 (24/7, free)
• Text “SHOUT” to 85258
• If life is in immediate danger, call 999
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25/08/2025

Are you thick? Or just running around undiagnosed?

If you’ve been carrying ‘I’m not good enough’ for years, this one’s for you

New blog is up!

Ever been called thick, stupid, lazy, or weird? You’re not. You’re probably neurodivergent. 1 in 7 in the UK are officially diagnosed — and the real number’s way higher. This blog rips apart the lie of ‘normal’ and shows why your quirks aren’t flaws, they’re your blueprint

23/08/2025

Interested in the neuroscience of why we do things we do?
‘Behave’ by Robert Sapolsky breaks down the biology, psychology, and culture behind every choice — from your neighbour’s gossip to world wars. Absolute lightbulb read.

Add to your reading list here https://amzn.to/3JsXJwM

21/08/2025

Keep moving…

20/08/2025

There’s always a candle lit in my therapy room.
Not for show — but for presence.

Candles are important, the flame holds space in silence.
It reminds us to breathe, to stay. Because therapy isn’t just conversation. It’s ritual and energy. And today’s session was intense.
The flame never flinched…

19/08/2025

Quitting hurts.

So does becoming the version of you that scares the people who gave up on you.

Choose your hard.

Will you keep choosing pain that leads nowhere?
Or pain that shapes you?

This is the part where most people fall off.
But if you’re ready to go deeper — therapy, healing, actual change —
You know where to find me.