Kairos Counselling

Kairos Counselling Integrative counsellor offering empathic and personalised 1:1 counselling sessions. Experienced in working with neurodivergence.

09/01/2026

Psychologists emphasize the window of tolerance because it explains why people may struggle to cope even with small triggers during high stress periods. Trauma, chronic stress, burnout, and lack of emotional safety can narrow this window over time. The good news is that research shows the window can expand through practices like emotional regulation, grounding techniques, therapy, secure relationships, and nervous system awareness.

The window of tolerance is a core concept in psychology that explains how the nervous system handles stress, emotions, and daily challenges. It refers to the optimal zone where your brain and body function at their best. When you are inside this window, you can think clearly, regulate emotions, communicate effectively, and respond rather than react.

When stress pushes you above this window, the nervous system enters a state of hyperarousal. This can show up as anxiety, racing thoughts, irritability, panic, or emotional overwhelm. When stress pulls you below the window, the body shifts into hypoarousal, often experienced as numbness, exhaustion, disconnection, brain fog, or shutdown. Both states are survival responses rooted in neurobiology, not personal weakness.

09/01/2026

Boundaries vs Ultimatums

09/01/2026

Emotional Regulation… 🙂😖😡😵‍💫😄

09/01/2026
07/01/2026

DBT Skills. Emotion regulation Module.
Our emotional world is far more complex than we often realise.

What we feel in any given moment is rarely just one emotion — it’s usually a blend shaped by context, memories, and internal triggers.

As humans, we experience a few core emotions.

When these combine, they create more nuanced, layered emotional states — sometimes softer, sometimes more intense.

Understanding these combinations helps us respond with awareness instead of judgment.

Because naming what we feel is often the first step toward regulating it.

by Tanu Chokski

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07/01/2026

The past doesn't define you…your next choice does. We can't redo what's already happened, but we have complete power over how we show up from this moment forward. Stop letting old stories convince you that you're broken or unworthy. That cycle of rumination? It's not protecting you, it's keeping you stuck.

Your subconscious will always work to prove whatever story you feed it, so start telling yourself a better one. You're not a collection of your mistakes. You're someone who's learning, evolving, and choosing differently.

(Excerpt from “Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible”)

04/01/2026

For many, January is a hard, cold month…

When everyone is setting new goals, laying down righteous ground rules and striving to become a better version of themselves, some of us are fighting to find our feet each day...

You see, December is a month of giving, and some of us, come January, are completely and utterly spent.

A month of remembering everyone, and remembering absolutely everything.

A month of including everyone and of reaching out to each and every person we have ever known.

A month of reaching breaking point every day trying to have fun, to be the ultimate hostess, to be the perfect guest.

A month of stretching ourselves financially, emotionally and of letting our boundaries be breached by many... in the spirit of the season.

And then January hits and bam... before we can even begin the arduous task of clearing away the festivities, we are expected to jump on the ‘new year, new you’ bandwagon and transform ourselves entirely.

For some of us this is just too much.

January is the darkest and most depressing month of the year and for many sensitive souls, the barrage of ‘advice’ on how we ‘should’ be living, is just too much.

So perhaps this is a safe place to say that maybe it’s okay to take a week or two to recover and to just be kind to ourselves before demanding better.

And for those of us who really do fall low in the darkest month of the year. For those of us who have given too much and to whom the future looks bleak - perhaps this is the right place to say - you are absolutely fine the way you are. Just stay.

Take some time to breathe.

Take some time to not think about anything much at all except breathing in and breathing out.

Take some time to build back up, not tear your yourself down.

For many, this month is a mountain that looks unclimbable.

Be kind, my friends. Always.

Donna Ashworth

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