Deborah Dolby Wellbeing

Deborah Dolby Wellbeing At the end of the day the most important thing we all have is time. How we spend it is going to be down to where we focus our energy. Find your inner power now.

We can not get to the end of life going around in circles of habits that we have grown out of.

We all struggle to understand relationships sometimes.We can’t just have things our way. 1st perspective is I see things...
17/11/2025

We all struggle to understand relationships sometimes.We can’t just have things our way.

1st perspective is I see things from my point of view, I know and feel what it’s like to live with me. You expect the other to know that too without any explanation.

2nd perspective I see how it may be for you relating to me and how this may affect your feelings. There is an open discussion

3 rd perspective is the bird on the fence detaching from both personal feelings for a moment. Looking at the facts, the truth, the actual behaviour of each party. The home of direct communication.

I’m sure you have worked out in life by now if someone is unwilling to take accountability for their part in a relationship. It can’t move on as they are expecting you to turn a blind eye to their behaviour without discussion. They may even blame you further for trying to bring things up.

2nd dimensional people may not agree with you but are willing to see things from your point of view and not want to cause suffering. At this stage it’s wise to pause the argument long enough to understand the other. This is not avoidance it is wisdom.
Often here communication is reactive and needs connection before talking. Agree to both calm your own storm and then talk.

3rd dimensional is making a decision on facts and finding a solution to a healthy way forward. This may mean loving someone enough to recognise you’re not a match. This looks like a very honest connective space.
Hope this helps

Thank you for your words of encouragement yesterday they really helped. A wonderful day in London The human journey is a...
16/11/2025

Thank you for your words of encouragement yesterday they really helped. A wonderful day in London
The human journey is always meaningful but when we go through challenges it can be easy for anyone to loose their way to remembering their uniqueness. It can send us on a path of searching for what we believe is missing and try to search for it in in others. It can send us on a destructive path to comfort ourselves with habits that don’t align to our soul. No judgement !
Then we realise the only thing that truly matters is we dissolve the illusion of needing to be like anyone else and share our gifts, our conversation we are all magical there. It takes courage to be true to yourself not everyone will follow as we are all on different timelines. We recognise we were never our habits these we put in place to protect ourselves. So be proud to remember today there is only one of you. In a world that feeds comparison be happy for others success, recognition of true success to me is being happy in my own skin. All parts of it the polished and the unpolished.
Keep your mind open and have a teachable heart ❤️ and recognise that we are always learning so we will make mistakes, it’s how we learn.

15/11/2025

My page followers isn’t growing in fact I lost a few
Got triggered feeling not good enough!
Then I reminded myself my self worth doesn’t rely on how many followers I have. Keeping it real is important. My motivation is pure to create content that adds value and support. I believe I do that.
Beyond the measure is magic.
You and me are always enough.
Doing life the best we can ❤️

Do life messy, imperfect but don’t wait to get it all perfect there is no such thing as perfection. Take action steps every day.

14/11/2025

What turns us humans into safe mode.

Is the person that is genuinely interested in listening to our response before launching into their own story.
Conversation without space is just lip service.
If you want others to listen we must be prepared to listen too
When we feel heard it’s medicine
Reduce your anxiety today by not explaining everything if someone is not listening there is zero point.
The great thing to learn here is that you can listen to you. Have you tried to make others understand for so long and no joy, time to say F..K it and do you ❤️😀
Don’t interpret this frustration as a bad thing, this is the collapse of you being buried in the weight of others expectations. This is course correction not a crisis.
Need a helping hand through this my soul has a big heart ❤️ it has been course corrected many times. I trust myself fully.
Have a fabulous weekend everyone.

13/11/2025

Intimacy starts way before the bedroom
It starts by noticing that your partner is tired and making a cuppa for them. It really is the thoughtful glance of I’ve got you ! It’s the ability to let the other rant and not take it personally, it’s the holding of hands and the touch on the shoulder.
It’s respect on both sides. Want more intimacy get more observant of the other and lead with thoughtfulness.
We all need others to notice when we need a hand.
And it’s the sharing of how we felt in the day.
Life gets busy but we need to prioritise people over tv, phones, I pads just enough to notice.
I struggle to remember this too but posting is universal. It sets as a reminder to self too.

12/11/2025

Say this to yourself today
I minute on a grey day x

12/11/2025

1 minute on a grey day x

Feeling very passionate about men’s mental health right now ❤️Look after your boys/men. It’s so confusing for them. Men ...
12/11/2025

Feeling very passionate about men’s mental health right now ❤️
Look after your boys/men.
It’s so confusing for them.
Men are masculine for a reason they are driven to protect. Male energy will show up as a different thing. It’s not about dominance but we must recognise that men/ boys need to be encouraged to talk and not feel the pressure of life by bottling everything up.
Often us ladies wear our hearts 💕 on our sleeves and talk things through. Men carry it internally, they need a hug too.
Hyper independence in ladies is resulting in males feeling lonely as they go through life.
So independent women I am one is to be admired, but I need my man, I adore my adult sons with all their flaws.
Interdependence is the healthy way. Being a team of open sharing with space between us all.

11/11/2025

Relationships you can’t google them they are felt energy. Energy that wants to pass through.

Self Respect comes from knowing your own limits. You don’t need to earn your right to rest. You don’t need to keep carry...
10/11/2025

Self Respect comes from knowing your own limits. You don’t need to earn your right to rest. You don’t need to keep carrying the baggage of others projection.We are often taught that ❤️ has to be earned it does not.
Touch your heart, listen to your body and give yourself what you need. Swop pressure for the present moment. In this moment I can remember that I matter.

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