Deborah Dolby Wellbeing

Deborah Dolby Wellbeing At the end of the day the most important thing we all have is time. How we spend it is going to be down to where we focus our energy. Find your inner power now.

We can not get to the end of life going around in circles of habits that we have grown out of.

Let the fire of anger burn out alone It’s their anger, fighting anger with anger is fuel for more fire. The power is in...
12/12/2025

Let the fire of anger burn out alone
It’s their anger, fighting anger with anger is fuel for more fire. The power is in the pause, this isn’t passive it’s being wise. Once the fire of anger has naturally stopped burning you may wish to add your input but timing is everything with anger. If you didn’t light the fire don’t hold the match. Don’t go into attack with it. Remember their words are a reflection of them not you.
Growing older with the wisdom of emotional sovereignty. This is freedom

Saying no doesn’t spoil or end healthy relationships. Your self worth is not found in just what you do for others, if so...
11/12/2025

Saying no doesn’t spoil or end healthy relationships. Your self worth is not found in just what you do for others, if someone truly cares they won’t want you to over extend yourself. Be careful of teaching others one sided relationships. If your pattern is to to say yes and then wish you said no. Give yourself a window of time to pause before you say yes to things that you may not really want to do.

I could not eat a big mouthful of food so why would I think I could do everything at once. The way around overwhelm is c...
09/12/2025

I could not eat a big mouthful of food so why would I think I could do everything at once. The way around overwhelm is chunk everything down into manageable bite size pieces.
Now breathe in relaxation hold for 4 and breathe out tension.

This year I forgave the version of me that I adapted to feel safe. Everything is within us all. I would love us all to s...
08/12/2025

This year I forgave the version of me that I adapted to feel safe. Everything is within us all. I would love us all to stop carrying so much. We are not designed to keep it all.
I have healed parts of myself that have been buried way too long .
I have had to face facts that I simply can’t fix loved ones it’s hard. I can hold their hand whilst they face difficulties.
I have felt more in love than ever after 35 years of marriage by some very honest conversations. and prioritising quality time.
I have faced my weaknesses and realised they are actually my best friends.
I have anxiety at times
I doubt myself
I loose my confidence
I have hurt others
I have been hurt
It’s part of the human game.
We laugh, we love, we cry, we get messy. If we keep talking we come through.
But do you know I see the magic of dreams and I am an extremely caring individual. I have felt so well this year. The beauty of not overloading my inner systems.
What has this year taught you.
Here’s to playing my best hand in 2026 by not neglecting the magic of facing my weaknesses.
Fancy some support in sharing your journey. I won’t do any hard sell it really is up to you !
Wellbeing should not feel like something you have to do.
Do you dare to dream xx
What I haven’t done is live on autopilot, this is so incredibly easy to do.

On this Saturday Evening I reflect after a busy day of conversations. How we withdraw self love from ourselves due to pl...
06/12/2025

On this Saturday Evening I reflect after a busy day of conversations. How we withdraw self love from ourselves due to placing conditions on ourselves. When I am thin, when I’m rich, when I have a partner. Don’t make self worth conditional. Enjoy the build up to Xmas however you are. Much love ❤️

Make time in every day for a bit of fun no matter how busy we are. Happiness lives in you and wants to play Keep well an...
04/12/2025

Make time in every day for a bit of fun no matter how busy we are. Happiness lives in you and wants to play
Keep well and travel emotionally light. What’s yours own it, what’s not yours don’t carry it
See you in a couple of weeks you lovely people.
You won’t be on everyone’s good list and that’s ok !
Give yourself the gift of not needing to be
Thanks for showing up ❤️

03/12/2025

Reality Check

03/12/2025

Goodness me ! life has tested me but…
It is not what happens to you it’s how you react to what happens to you
Always act from a place of self compassion.

One of the harshest things we do to ourselves is to judge ourselves. Judgement is not fact it is an opinion based on pro...
02/12/2025

One of the harshest things we do to ourselves is to judge ourselves. Judgement is not fact it is an opinion based on programming. So notice the judgement and ask yourself what is true in this situation?
Remove the good or bad and replace with
Is this thought helpful or unhelpful ?
Is it necessary to judge?
Is it kind ?
Don’t try to be perfect at not judging we all do it but the noticing practice stops the mental spiral.
Buddha says
Is it true
Is it necessary
Is it kind
Direct these questions firstly to self as all of our judgement of others comes from self. So we must firstly send ourselves some acceptance.
The judgement of other people towards you is not your responsibility to change. If it’s becoming too much be honest and move away if it’s affecting your health it’s not worth it.
Do you fancy a chat tomorrow on ways to feel energised by changing our relationship to our emotional health?

Manage your expectations at this highly stimulating time of the year. High expectations of others leads to disappointmen...
01/12/2025

Manage your expectations at this highly stimulating time of the year. High expectations of others leads to disappointments as we have no control over that. We do have control over the capacity that we give out. It’s really helpful to consider where we spend our energy. Acceptance is much more fulfilling.
Do you have some big emotions in the run up to Xmas allow some space for these and don’t overload your diary.
Less is often so much more.

30/11/2025

The positive vibes only movement is so flawed and unhealthy. It is shaming us to feel all of our emotions. I have had some big emotions over the last few years to deal with, it has not been comfortable at times. Your relationship to your emotions shouldn’t be to deny them or be led by them but to process them. I have had to take time alone to do this. Our emotions are like our inner children. Would you tell a child to get over it and not spend any longer feeling upset, and yet this is what we do to ourselves locking emotions up in our bodies to keep repeating. Life continues perfectly felt when we accept all emotions If anxiety is present in you the courage to acknowledge it is your turning point to create a tiny gap with your breath
You are not anxiety.
You are experiencing anxiety as a passing sensation.
The way we talk to our emotions needs to be friendly not hostile. These emotions hold a powerful message for you.
Give yourself the gift of emotional regulation and nervous system balance.
Our inner world is the driving force behind our quality of relationships and life in general. It’s so worth the effort not just for yourself but for all those around you.
As human beings we regulate or dis regulate depending on who we are with. Stop spending time with people that drain your energy. Energy doesn’t lie.
Have a lovely real honest day x

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