Naomi Light

❤️‍🩹 Should I stay or should I go?
🌪️ Relationship crisis
👇🏼 Evidence-based resources

08/12/2025

"We have communication problems" is the most common complaint I hear. But it’s almost never true.
You communicate perfectly fine when you are calm.
The real disease is a lack of Co-Regulation.
You aren't keeping each other safe. You are accidentally triggering each other's fears. And when the brain feels unsafe, it can’t communicate; it can only attack or defend.

03/12/2025

Did you grow up being told to “be good,” “be helpful,” or “don’t make a fuss”?
For many women, saying “no” still triggers guilt—even when it’s the healthiest choice.

But a boundary isn’t selfish.
It’s what keeps you from losing yourself.

👇 I’m curious — which is harder for you?
Saying no, or not apologising after you say it?

30/11/2025

Score for communication skills?? 0/10 💩

Not only were they not listening or talking to be understood they jumped right into a cycle of blame, attack, defend and contempt.

I’d give them a fail ❌ for this.

I created a resource for rescuing those moments of escalation in your conflict. Comment “RESCUE” for the download link.

28/11/2025

Your attachment style isn’t a life sentence — and the science backs that up.
If you’ve felt “stuck” in anxious or avoidant patterns, this is your reminder that your adult brain can rewire toward security through consistent, gentle relational habits.

Creating a secure bond isn’t about perfection. It’s about small moments of reaching out, repairing faster, and choosing closeness even when it feels unfamiliar.

If you’re ready to build a calmer, safer connection with the person you love, this is your sign: you can reshape your patterns, and it’s never too late to start.

Comment "Quiz" to know your attachment style.

25/11/2025

Same argument on repeat, nobody feels heard!

If you’re tired of the same fights, this is where the shift begins. 💛

I created Getting Unstuck to help couples start understanding what’s really happening underneath these conflicts and how to break the cycle with clarity, calm, and connection.

Comment STUCK and I'll send it to you.

couples therapist | marriagehumour | stay or go?

22/11/2025

"If they loved me, they'd know what I'm thinking." Sound familiar?

This is one of the most common and damaging myths in relationships. Expecting your partner to be a mind reader is not only unrealistic, it's unfair. Their guesses are often just projections of *their* own needs.

The real secret? Being clear is kind. It gives them the opportunity to actually get it right for you.

What's one thing you wish your partner just knew?

couples therapy | stuck in relationship | relationship tips | ambivalence | should I stay or go? | leave or stay | reconnection | marriage tips

20/11/2025

What actually separates couples who stay deeply connected… from those who slowly fall apart?
Psychologist John Gottman discovered a simple but powerful predictor: the 5:1 ratio.

For every one moment of tension, criticism, or conflict… thriving couples have at least five positive interactions—a warm touch, a shared laugh, genuine appreciation, or small moments of care.

Think of your relationship like a piggy bank of emotional connection.
The more positivity you intentionally deposit, the stronger you’ll feel when conflict shows up.

You don’t need perfection.
You just need a relationship where the good massively outweighs the hard.

If you’re rebuilding connection, healing after distance, or navigating conflict with more safety—start here.
One positive moment at a time. 💛

John Gottman | relationship therapist | couples therapy london | relationship limbo | should I stay or go

18/11/2025

Most people think the solution to relationship problems starts with talking.

But the truth?

Talking doesn’t work when your nervous system is in threat mode.

A simple 20-second hug can calm your body faster than hours of discussing, analyzing, or arguing.

Safety first. Solutions second.

If you want more practical, science-based tools like this, I’m teaching them live in my free webinar.

Comment CALM and I’ll send you the registration link.

couples therapist london | stuck in relationship | stay or go | chronic ambivalence | marriage therapist

17/11/2025

Most arguments are won or lost in the first 30 seconds.
If you want calmer conversations, deeper understanding, and fewer blow-ups, learning how to open a hard conversation is the real game-changer.

I’m teaching the framework inside my free live training, When Talking Makes It Worse.
Comment CALM and I’ll send you the link. 💛

couples therapy | couples therapist | stuck in relationship | stay or go | marriage tips

16/11/2025

When things get heated, do you ever reach for the nuclear button — “Maybe we should just break up”?

It’s a moment of panic. 🫨 But it chips away at the safety that keeps love alive.

Secure couples know this:

You can argue, but you can’t threaten the relationship.

That rule is what makes conflict

safe enough

to find real solutions.

If that resonates, you’ll love what I’m sharing in my free webinar.

Comment

CALM

and I’ll send you the invite.

14/11/2025

I’m thinking of running for MP 😂 JK!
What's your thoughts?

10/11/2025

💥 Wanna be in my next free training? Comment CALM for the link to join live.

This a a truth that we always miss but that is so critical to our contentment as a couple:

You are interdependent.

Your partner is the fastest way to get secure, but they are also the fastest way to get triggered.

You have to choose which one you're building.

Attachment theory is often misunderstood and almost always misapplied. If you are struggling with connection with your partner but find that ‘just having more communication’ isn’t helping then you want to be at my live training.

I am running a free webinar called “When Talking Makes It Worse: How to Rewire Your Relationship for Calm and Connection”. Comment CALM to get the link to register.

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