Therapy with Teri

29/03/2026

29/03/2026

Sometimes, the best people come into your life, not through birth and blood but through other means.

Finding your tribe takes time, patience, and the strength to let go of those who dont serve us well.

28/03/2026

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It's a particular kind of loneliness when the people who are SUPPOSED to understand us, SUPPOSED to have our back— don't.

Complex trauma survivors know what it's like to feel OVERWHELMINGLY lonely in a household full of people who share our name & DNA.

28/03/2026

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28/03/2026

We are whole
We are unique
We are good enough , just as we are.

27/03/2026

Not everything needs a reaction. Sometimes, softly adjusting the position of people in our lives is all we need to do.

-love

27/03/2026

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Addicts did not "choose" addiction any more than abuse survivors "chose" abuse. I know that throws a wrench into many peoples' desperate need to shame both addicts & abuse survivors, but it's the f*ckin' truth.

22/03/2026

So many people misunderstand what trauma is, and this can lead to misinformation and low tolerance for those who are healing.

Trauma rewires the brain for protection instead of connection , it hijacked your system and created false narratives to try to protect you from a danger that may no longer exist!!

Trauma can stick you in a loop of uncertainty , always ready to take flight or fight. This is exhausting.

Therapy can help you to understand these coping mechanisms and unpick what helps and what doesn't so you can begin to build new strategies into your life that help you to navigate the world in a manageable way.

Will it stop those triggers completely ? Absolutely not, but what it will do is give you the ability to choose how you respond , how you react, and how you navigate when things dont go to plan.

12/03/2026

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The “let them” theory has taken off because, in many situations, it’s genuinely healthy. Not every behavior needs to be chased, corrected, or analyzed. Sometimes the most regulated response is to step back and let people reveal who they are.

But trauma psychology adds an important nuance.

Many people who grew up in unstable or emotionally neglectful environments were already trained to “let things go” long before it was healthy. They learned to tolerate disrespect, minimize harm, stay quiet during conflict, and adapt themselves to keep relationships intact. What looks like patience or detachment on the surface is often a survival strategy built in childhood.

From a clinical perspective, healing isn’t just learning to let people be. It’s also learning when not to abandon yourself. And yes, people will often point to the second part of the theory: “let me.” Meaning: let me decide where to place you in my life based on what you’ve shown me.

That idea has value. But like most things on social media, it can become overly simplified. Because in real relationships, it’s rarely that clean.

In therapy, I don’t usually see people struggling because they confronted too much. I see people who stayed quiet for years. People who tolerated patterns that slowly eroded their sense of self. People who kept adjusting themselves to preserve a relationship that was never adjusting for them.

Sometimes there are conversations that need to happen. Sometimes there are patterns that require confrontation, not passive repositioning. Sometimes silence doesn’t create clarity. It creates distance and misunderstanding.

Sometimes the healthiest response really is to let them. Sometimes it’s to let yourself step back.

But sometimes the healthiest response is simply to say the thing that needs to be said.

And learning the difference is part of healing. ❤️‍🩹

Thank you to who shared the original “let them” concept in a thoughtful and intentional way long before it became a viral soundbite.

Has the “let them” theory worked or fallen short for you?

11/03/2026

For many of my clients im the first person to believe what they are saying about what they have endured, not just at the hands of their abuser but also time and time again at the hands of family, friends and professionals who dont believe them or minimise their experience.