Lee Kane Integrative Counselling & Psychotherapy

18/11/2025

16/11/2025

The part of you that you’re scared to look at is often the part that’s been hurting the longest.
It carries the memories you’ve tried to outrun, the emotions you’ve pushed down, and the stories you never felt safe enough to tell.
It shows up as fear, anger, insecurity, perfectionism, or numbness.
Not because it’s broken, but because it learned to protect you in the only ways it knew how.
When you turn toward that part of yourself with curiosity instead of criticism, everything begins to shift. What once felt like darkness starts to look more like a younger version of you asking for help. The pain softens. The patterns make sense. And beneath all the layers of defense, you often find something surprisingly human: a longing for safety, acceptance, and love.
Giving compassion to the part you’ve avoided isn’t weakness. it’s the beginning of integration. It’s how you reclaim the pieces of yourself you thought were unworthy. And often, it’s where your deepest strength is hiding.

19/10/2025

💗 What Is Love?

Love is one of life’s greatest mysteries — something we’re all meant to know, yet often struggle to understand or sustain.

It’s spoken of often, but rarely felt in its purest form. Shaped by expectations, beliefs, and attachments, love can become confusing and challenging in our relationships and families.

This 3-week in-person workshop invites you to gently explore what love truly means — within yourself, your heart, and your connections with others.

🕊 Facilitated by: Lee Kane Counselling & Psychotherapy
📍 In Person | ⏳ Coming Soon
💬 DM me for limited spaces and details

30/08/2025

When you notice the track beneath you isn’t taking you where you want to go, listen to that whisper. Step off with kindness. Every mile in the wrong direction only adds weight to your heart. So don’t ride further in the wrong direction, your peace is worth an early stop.

01/08/2025

In modern society now we often want instant gratification:

New clothes, get next day delivery, fancy a film, Netflix, a date, swipe right.

Though all long term beneficial and nourishing things take time. You can’t just gain a diploma or degree overnight, it can take years. You want to get fit it doesn’t take 2 sessions at the.gym.

Real transformation doesn’t happen overnight, and it rarely feels easy. In therapy, we often want quick change and relief from pain or clarity about what to do next. But true, lasting change unfolds slowly through consistent effort, self-reflection, and learning to sit with discomfort.
Like a caterpillar in its cocoon, growth requires stillness, patience, and trust in a process that often feels uncertain. Healing asks us to let go of old patterns, and that can be unsettling. But with time, support, and compassion, we begin to emerge more aligned, more grounded, and more whole. If you’re in a hard place right now, take heart. The discomfort is not a sign you’re failing; it’s often proof that you’re transforming and an opportunity to learn and grow.

06/06/2025

Feeling Stuck? Try This Gentle Shift.

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I just don’t know what to do, I’ve gone over it again and again, but I just don’t have the answer”?
It becomes a familiar pattern when the mind spins in circles, searching for answers it can’t seem to find.

Because sometimes, the mind doesn’t have the answer.
But that doesn’t mean the answer isn’t there.
There are other parts of us that are quieter, deeper parts, that often do know. Parts that speak in feelings, sensations, intuition. These inner guides don’t shout like the thinking mind. They whisper. And we can only hear them when we pause.
In silence, we begin to reconnect with our inner wisdom. The calm, compassionate, and grounded self that lives beneath the noise.
As the Gestalt therapist Fritz Perls said:�“Lose your mind and come to your senses.”
When thinking too much isn’t working, try softening into presence.�Breathe.�Feel.�Listen.
Sometimes the best way forward isn’t figured out — it’s felt.

12/05/2025

You are not broken. You adapted.

The ways you’ve learned to cope, be it by shutting down, being on high alert, becoming aggressive, people-pleasing or staying small weren’t flaws.
They were strategies. They helped you navigate environments that didn’t feel safe or predictable.
Healing doesn’t mean rejecting those parts of you.�It means understanding where they came from, how they protected you, and slowly inviting in new ways of responding that serve you much better.
It’s not starting over, it’s reconnecting with who you’ve always been, beneath the difficulty and hurt.

21/04/2025

Have you noticed behaviours in your relationships that cause harm to others and to yourself?

Have you’ve noticed patterns in your relationships that don’t sit right with you. At times is your frustration and anger affecting the people you most care about? Leaving you feeling unsettled or regretful.
Maybe you're feeling stuck, or you’re tired of reacting in ways that don’t reflect who you really are or want to be.

These behaviours may come from past pain, disconnection, or ways you’ve learned to survive. But now those patterns and behaviours are keeping you from the kind of relationships and life you truly want.

For over 15 years, I’ve supported people on an individual and group basis to look at these patterns without judgment and compassion. creating a safe space to explore thoughts, feelings and behaviours and what’s underneath these reactions. Then gaining more self-awareness, compassion, empathy and move toward more connected and fulfilling relationships and life.

It’s ok to not have all the answers right now. Sometimes the first step is simply being listened to and heard without judgment.

If this resonates with you it maybe time to take the first step. Change doesn’t happen overnight, but it can start by having courage, curiosity and support.
If you would like support to grow, heal and connect more deeply in your relationships please contact me.