Rhian Kivits

12/02/2026

Decision paralysis after s*xual betrayal can feel terrifying.

You're used to being decisive, clear and capable in other areas of your life. Yet suddenly you can't work out what you feel, what you want or what your future should look like.

I'm here to reassure you about this. You haven't gone crazy and you're not over-reacting or being unreasonable.

When your nervous system is in survival mode after betrayal, it prioritises protection. Everything feels overwhelming. You have no idea what's feels right for you, and it can seem too risky to make decisions.

It's unfair that you're now being pushed to make important choices when you never chose or wanted this path.

Honestly, trying to force clarity when you don't have safety and stability usually makes the distress worse.

But once your body begins to feel safer, your capacity to think, to weigh up your options and to make solid choices will return.

Your decision paralysis is totally understandable. It's a sign that your mind and body are fighting to help you survive.

Save this post if it helps you in some way.

Rhian xo 🦋

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09/02/2026

You can’t think your way out of survival mode.

If you’re struggling to decide what to do after s*xual betrayal, this new article explains why.

If you’re coping on the outside but still feel stuck inside, you'll benefit from reading this.

Find it here: https://betrayalprescription.com/survival-mode-after-s*xual-betrayal/

Rhian xo 🦋

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20/01/2026

Betrayed partner, I see you coping. I see you managing work, children and home, pouring yourself into keeping everything going.

But I also know the cost of living this way. 🌹

The constant anxiety as you wait for the next disclosure, scanning for signs that you’re still being betrayed.

Waking at 3am, your mind replaying the details of what you discovered, unable to fall back asleep.

Feeling reactive and depleted, with no capacity for conversation, rest or even half an hour of distraction in the evening.

If this resonates, you’re not alone.

After discovering a partner’s serial cheating, compulsive s*xual behaviour or ongoing deception, it’s common for your body and nervous system to remain in survival mode.

This is protection. It's a normal reaction to an abnormal situation. And it’s a sign that your system is still trying to keep you safe.

Moving out of survival mode is often the first step to healing after s*xual betrayal. You deserve to experience a sense of safety that's real and sustainable.

With time, understanding and the right support, your body and mind can begin to settle again.

Rhian xo 🦋

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18/01/2026

Healing after discovering that your partner has been betraying you isn't one decision. It's a process. 🌹

I meet so many women feeling too shocked and distressed to know how to move forward after their partner's s*xual deception has been exposed.

They're often being pushed to forgive, repair or decide whether to stay or go before they’ve even had space to understand what has happened to them.

But how can you make these huge life decisions when your whole world feels like it's crashing down around you?

In my work I see early recovery unfold in 3 essential phases. Without this kind of orientation, you'll probably get stuck in overwhelm and self-doubt.

And if you never had the chance to move through this process, it may be exactly what you need now, even if time has passed since you discovered your spouse's hidden secrets.

The focus isn't about fixing your partner or saving the relationship.
It's on your own stability, clarity and protection.

Only after this foundational work are you truly equipped to address deep emotional or relational wounds or make solid decisions about what the future holds.

Slow down and offer yourself the space to take one step at a time.
This matters because it's how you can breathe again.

This early healing path is your Recovery Compass. It's where we begin.

Rhian xo 🦋

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12/09/2025

Betraying spouses often construct a complex system of emotionally abusive relationship behaviours. 💔

This enables them to dominate and control your relationship while they continue engaging in their s*xual cheating.

We can think of this as 'integrity abuse' – behaviours like gaslighting, denial and projection can keep you trapped in a web of lies that were never of your own choosing.

This is an issue that has to be addressed, whether you stay with your partner or whether your relationship comes to an end.

If you're a betrayed partner, I know it's painful to see your spouse's behaviour in this light. But without recognising the reality of what's happened, healing is elusive.

Integrity is essential for healthy, happy relationships. You deserve nothing less.

Rhian xo 🦋

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10/09/2025

If your partner has betrayed you through serial cheating, p**n misuse, s*x addiction or other problematic s*xual behaviours one of your biggest questions is probably WHY... 🤦🏻‍♀️

I know that your partner may confuse you with complicated explanations or excuses, but the reality is that there is a way to look at things that could be more helpful for you both.

This is a way that:

✨ Highlights your partner's responsibility and fosters accountability.
✨ Ensures you're not taking any of the blame for his choices.
✨ Emphasises zero tolerance of toxic relationship behaviours.

I believe this puts both your healing and his recovery at the centre.

Head over to my new magazine site to read more in the article 'The Roots Of S*xual Cheating: Exposed' and let me know what comes up for you.

https://betrayalprescription.com/roots-s*xual-cheating/

Rhian xo 🦋

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08/09/2025

When you recognise what’s been driving your partner’s problematic s*xual behaviours and cheating, it can feel both distressing and overwhelming. 💔

But with the right education, tools and support you can find a way forward.

Seeing the problem clearly is a meaningful first step.

Follow the link at the top of my page to read my article 'The Roots Of S*xual Cheating: Exposed' on The Betrayal Prescription magazine site.

https://betrayalprescription.com/roots-s*xual-cheating/

Rhian xo 🦋

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04/09/2025

The Betrayal Prescription magazine site is now live! 🙏

My articles are aimed at women recovering from s*xual betrayal trauma, offering education, inspiration and healing for those who are navigating their journey of recovery.

You can find the site at the top of my page – thank you for supporting this growing resource by reading, sharing with anyone who'll benefit from the support and leaving a comment on my social posts. 🩵

Today I'm sharing this one: 3 Signs Your Partner Is Still Engaging In S*x Addiction. I hope it helps those who need it.

Rhian xo 🦋

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03/09/2025

If you’ve been the partner of a s*x addict or a serial cheat, or lived through lies and deception in your relationship, this will resonate. 🙏

That ‘sixth sense’ you’ve developed for spotting a lack of integrity is real. It’s a skill you didn’t ask for, but one that's become fine-tuned. You’re alert to the subtle signs that something isn’t right. ✨

Learning to trust your instincts again is an important aspect of your healing journey, especially if your partner has the tendency to slip into denial or blame-shifting. 💔

You deserve to feel secure, grounded and fully in control of your own life again. It's your instincts that will keep you safe. 🥰

Rhian xo 🦋

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02/09/2025

The secrecy hurts. The lengths he went to to protect his hidden s*xual life. 💔

He used lies, half-truths, omissions or manipulation to create a false reality in the relationship while he cheated, misused the internet or engaged with compulsive, entitled s*xual behaviours.

Secrecy isn't just an inevitable part of betrayal.

It's a strategy to keep the deception going.

It's also a form of relational abuse, because it undermines trust.

Secrecy robs you, the betrayed partner, of your right to make informed choices.

If you're struggling with the secrecy, please know you're not alone. It's not acceptable and never will be. 🌹

Rhian xo 🦋

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01/09/2025

Discovering your partner’s compulsive s*xual behaviour can be devastating. In the weeks, months and even years that follow, there could be evidence that your partner continues to betray you. 💔

However, if he’s highly deceptive, the signs can be difficult to spot. 🧐

Understanding the signs that you’re continuing to be betrayed and manipulated is essential for your well-being. 🙏

You can read more on my new magazine site: https://betrayalprescription.com/signs-partner-still-engaging-s*x-addiction/

Rhian xo 🦋
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29/07/2025

It was great to be asked by Stylist Magazine to help with this article on S*xual Wellness Myths. 🥰

Enjoy the article! 🥰

Because not every woman will lose their s*x drive during perimenopause, and spontaneous s*x isn’t always the most pleasurable.