Equilibrium horse healing

02/12/2025

🌟 The Markings of the Soul

I believe that horses carry stories in their bodies.
Sometimes in the way they move, sometimes in the way they look at you, and sometimes in the tiny details you’d miss if you weren’t paying attention, like the patterns of hair on their forehead.

Recently, I began exploring whorl interpretation on horses.
It wasn’t something I’d ever really looked into before. But the more I read, the more it resonated. Whorls aren’t just physical markings. They tell you something about a horse’s inner wiring, their emotional style, their spiritual temperament.

🌀 Riley’s Double Horizontal Whorls

Riley has two horizontal whorls, placed close together, either side of the centre of his forehead.

This particular configuration is often associated with:
• Deep intelligence
• Heightened sensitivity
• A stronger-than-average intuitive connection to one person
• A horse who bonds at a soul level, not just behavioural

When I read this it struck me that is exactly who Riley is. A horse who doesn’t just look at you, but into you.

A horse who chooses his person. When I met him as a foal, he chose me the very first moment we met, walked straight up, pressed his muzzle into my face, and sniffed my hands . Riley didn’t hesitate. He picked me.

👁️ Eyes That Speak the Unseen

It made me think about markings in people, too. I have green eyes with a large freckle in my left eye. In the 30 years I’ve sat in clairvoyant circles and spiritual development groups, I’ve noticed something:

So many intuitives, empaths, healers, and clairvoyants have striking or unusual eyes. I can tell this in people I meet, even before they reveal what they do.

Eyes that draw you in. Eyes that seem to carry depth, memory, and something ancient.

Green eyes, in many traditions, represent:
• heightened intuition
• connection to the unseen
• healing gifts
• perceptive emotional awareness

That freckle in my eye has always felt symbolic, like a marker of the path I was meant to walk. And maybe Riley’s whorls are his own version of the same thing.

🐴 A Familiar Soul in a New Body

There’s another part of Riley’s story I can’t ignore.

He is identical to my childhood pony, Lloyd.
Down to his colour, white star and heel.

What are the chances?

I always say Riley is Lloyd reincarnated, half-joking.
But deep down it feels like recognition.
It feels like a soul who returned in a new form, ready for the next chapter.
Ready to continue something we started a long time ago.

🤍 A One-Person Horse With a Fragile Heart

Riley came to me as a foal, a blank canvas, emotionally open, sensitive, sweet, and entirely shaped by our bond. For years, it was just me and him, every day, forming a bond and connection. He was a sweet and calm boy.

A couple of years ago, life took a turn of events. I’d lost my grazing, was renovating a house and was going through some personal things, so I made the decision to put both my horses into working livery.

The yard was wonderful.
But the change was simply too big for him.

He wasn’t used to being without me.
He wasn’t used to strangers handling him or the change of routine and bustle of a livery environment.

He made it very clear that he was not happy and started being aggressive, towards me and others. His whole personality shifted, not because he had past trauma, but because the disruption of our bond and the changes was, for him, traumatic enough on its own.

He reacted.
He expressed his distress in the only way he knew how.

Not out of aggression…
Out of heartbreak and confusion.
Out of the pain of losing the consistency and connection he’d relied on since the day he was weaned.

It’s something I’ll never put him through again and it was a full year before he let down his guard and softened again.
It has taught me more than anything else in my life about sensitivity, attachment, and the way horses communicate emotional truth.

🌿 The Journey That Taught Me How to Listen

Both my horses have walked every step of this journey with me.

Ruby came to me scared, defensive and unwilling to be touched. Yet her character and strength remind me of the little mare I rode as a little girl. The one that makes me smile as she didn’t make it easy.
Riley came to me pure, unmarked, but his wound came not from his past, but from our disruption.

There has been pain, heartache, mistakes, and moments where I doubted everything.

But without all of it, without the mess, the missteps, the confusion, the learning I would never have the understanding I now carry into my healing work with other horses.

They didn’t just teach me.
They initiated me.

Their stories are the foundation of my work.
Their healing became the awakening of my purpose.
They are my proof that connection and trust is something that has to be nurtured.

When the three of us stand together, it often feels like something orchestrated rather than accidental. Like we didn’t just meet, we found each other again.

Maybe some souls return in different bodies when we still have work to do together.
Maybe certain horses come to us not by chance, but by design.
Maybe the universe nudges us into these partnerships because there’s a deeper purpose stitched beneath the surface.

I feel that with every fibre of my being.

Do you feel your horse came to you for a reason?
Have you ever sensed something deeper, something beyond coincidence, in your connection?

I’d love to hear your stories.
Share why your paths crossed.
Share what makes your bond feel fated, familiar, or soul-driven.

Because I truly believe:
Our horses don’t just walk into our lives, they arrive with meaning.

29/11/2025

Reading this today felt like someone had put words to the exact process I’ve been living with my own horses, and in the healing work I’m doing with others.

What I’ve been discovering is that the deeper the connection becomes, the more clearly I can see the ways my own nervous system patterns have shaped how I show up with my horses. For years I pushed through, masked overwhelm, ignored the knot in my stomach, and thought I just needed to “try harder.” And my horses felt every bit of that tension, even when I thought I was hiding it.

As I’ve slowed down, regulated, and allowed myself to really feel, not override, not push through,I’ve watched my horses meet me in a completely different way. Riley, who carried so much stored pain and guardedness, is opening emotionally in ways I never imagined. Ruby, defensive and guarded, is now seeking connection with a softness that still brings me to tears.

What this post says about nervous-system loops, conditioning, automatic survival patterns… it’s exactly what I’ve been witnessing in horses and humans. Most of the “behavioural issues” I’m called to work with aren’t stubbornness or resistance, they’re expressions of dysregulation, overwhelm, or past pain. And the moment the human shifts, the horse suddenly has room to shift too.

This is the heart of the healing work I’m stepping deeper into: helping horses and humans regulate together, listen to each other, and rebuild safety in relationship. Not fixing a behaviour, but restoring connection.

Because when we reconnect with our own nervous system , our truth, our signals, our presence, our horses finally feel us. And they respond with the most extraordinary honesty.

This post resonated deeply. It feels like the very path I’m on, unfolding step by step with my own horses guiding the way.

Thank you 💗🙏

This is the deeper layer behind what we shared yesterday, and it’s something Nicola and I are walking through right now. We’re doing the nervous-system work ourselves - facing our conditioning, seeing our reactions, catching our dysregulation, and trying to stay present even when it’s hard. It’s an uncomfortable truth but it's the MOST important one.

Because this is something that most people don’t realise- your nervous system literally controls almost everything you do. Your thoughts, your reactions, your patterns, your “personality,” your capacity, your triggers, your shutdowns… all of it.
Most people are not living from choice, nope, they’re living from nervous system loops. Stuck patterns. Automatic survival responses. And the worst part.... they don’t even know it. Realising this is an epiphany. It’s life-changing. And it explains why so many of us feel like we’re trying so hard but nothing shifts.

Most of us have been so thoroughly disconnected from our own nervous systems that we literally cannot see stress, overwhelm, or dysregulation - in ourselves OR in our horses. And this isn't your fault. This is conditioning and it's culture, it's also what we were taught. But it's also the single biggest barrier to truly understanding our horses and creating that connection with them that changes everything.

Sadly the disconnect runs deep, it's an epidemic for humanity as well as the animal kingdom.

We've been conditioned to:

Push through discomfort
Ignore our body's signals
Call exhaustion "lazy"
Call anxiety "overthinking"
Call shutdown "calm"
Call dysregulation "just having a bad day"

We've learned that emotions are:

Inconvenient
Weak
Something to control
Something to hide
Something to "get over"

And then we bring all of that - every bit of that disconnection - to our horses.

Think about what you were taught and how many of us learned to do:

Ignore the tension in our shoulders until it became chronic pain
Override the knot in our stomach that screams "something's wrong"
Push through bone-deep fatigue because "everyone else does"
Smile when we're struggling because that's what's expected
Numb discomfort with distraction, substances, busyness etc
Call our body's warning signals "dramatic" or "inconvenient"

We've been taught that our nervous system's communication IS the problem - not the things triggering it. Depending on where you grew up, what you were taught, what your family modeled - you absorbed messages like:

"Big boys/girls don't cry"
"Stop being so sensitive"
"You're fine, toughen up"
"Don't make a scene"
"Nobody wants to hear about your feelings"
"Just push through it"
"You're being dramatic"
"Other people have it worse"
"Children should be seen and not heard"

These messages didn't just shape how you talk about emotions.
They shaped whether you can even FEEL them anymore.
Whether you can notice:

When your breath has got more shallow
When your jaw is clenched
When your stomach is tight
When your thoughts are racing
When you're one more thing away from breaking

And then we go to our horses...
When we're this disconnected from our own bodies, our own signals, our own nervous system... We bring that same blindness to our horses. We miss the early signals:

The slight tension in their body
The quick breath
The tight jaw or pinned ear
The avoidance (head turn, step away)
The whale eye
The hesitation

We don't see these because we've been trained to ignore the exact same signals in ourselves. We normalise dysregulation:

"He's always a bit tense"
"She's just high-strung"
"He settles eventually"
"She's fine once she gets going"

Just like we say about ourselves:

"I'm fine, just stressed"
"I'm just tired"
"I always feel like this"
"I'll relax later"

We see behaviour, not communication:
When our horse:

Won't stand still → "being fidgety"
Won't load → "being difficult"
Spooks at something → "being silly"
Shuts down → "being good and quiet"
Bolts → "being disrespectful"

We see problems to fix instead of information to understand.
Because that's exactly how we've been taught to treat ourselves.

When the horse finally does "act out", because we missed ten thousand smaller signals then we:

Get frustrated
Take it personally
Punish the behaviour
Push harder
Demand compliance

Because that's what we do to ourselves when our body finally forces us to pay attention through pain, illness, breakdown, or burnout.
We shame it.
We override it.
We call it weakness.
We push through anyway.
And we bring that same approach to our horses.

Now this is the part that is so important and make this even more complex. Your horse is reading your nervous system constantly.
If you are:

Rushing but pretending to be calm
Tense but calling it "focused"
Anxious but masking it as "motivated"
Dysregulated but pushing through anyway

Your horse knows.
They feel the incongruence between what your body is doing and what you're trying to project. And that incongruence itself is dysregulating to them. You cannot bring a horse into regulation if you yourself are not regulated. You cannot teach a horse to feel safe in their body if you are not safe in yours. You cannot ask a horse to trust their signals if you have learned to mistrust your own.

And that is the reason why my friends, the work starts with YOU.
Not because you're broken. Not because you're doing it wrong.
But because you cannot see in your horse what you cannot see in yourself.

If you've been taught that:

Feeling is weakness
Bodies are meant to be pushed
Signals are meant to be ignored
Needs are inconvenient
Overwhelm should be hidden

Then you will bring those same beliefs into every interaction with your horse. And you will miss what they're trying to tell you.

The deepest work in horsemanship isn't about training techniques.
It's not about methods or tools or approaches. It's about coming back into your own body.

Learning to:
Notice your own nervous system states:

What does actual calm feel like in your body? (Not numbing, not pushing through - actual calm)
What does tension feel like? Where do you hold it?
Can you tell the difference between "pushing through" and "capacity"?
Do you know what YOUR early warning signs are?

Feel your feelings - even the uncomfortable ones:

Notice sensations without judgment
Let feelings be present without needing to fix them immediately
Breathe into discomfort instead of bracing against it
Recognise that emotions are information, not problems

Give yourself permission to have limits:

You are allowed to be tired
You are allowed to feel overwhelmed
You are allowed to say "this is too much right now"
You are allowed to need rest, support, space

Understand what regulation actually feels like:

Not numbing, not acting, not "being fine"
But genuine: breath flowing, body soft, mind clear, presence available. The ability to be with what is without needing to escape or override it

Once you start doing the work, your relationship with your horse will start to shift.

When you start doing this work with yourself:
You begin to notice what you're feeling when you approach your horse.
You begin to see what they're showing you before you ask for anything.
You start asking: "Is this a capacity day or a rest day - for both of us?"
You catch the small signals you used to dismiss as nothing.
You give your horse the same grace you're learning to give yourself.
You stop demanding they regulate around your dysregulation.
You stop punishing them for having the feelings you've been taught to suppress.

The horses are waiting for us to REMEMBER.
They've been waiting for us to stop performing calm and start embodying it. They've been waiting for us to stop overriding our signals and start listening to them. They've been waiting for us to stop treating our bodies - and theirs - like machines that should just comply. They've been waiting for us to come back into our bodies.

And when we do...
We stop projecting our disconnection onto them. We stop asking them to carry what we won't acknowledge in ourselves.
We can actually see them - not through the lens of our own dissociation, but as they truly are. And we become capable of being the regulated, safe, present human they need us to be.

This is the real work. Not because you need to be perfect.
Not because you need to have it all figured out. But because the relationship you have with your own nervous system is the foundation of every relationship you have with your horse (and the world...)

If you can't feel yourself, you can't feel them.
If you can't honour your own signals, you won't honour theirs.
If you can't give yourself permission to be dysregulated sometimes, you'll punish them for the same.

The work begins with you.
With your breath.
With your body.
With your willingness to feel what you've been taught to ignore.
Not to become perfect. But to become present.
And in that presence - everything changes.

29/11/2025

Yesterday I had the privilege of working with a beautiful, deeply empathetic horse and his human and what unfolded was a powerful example of how closely our horses reflect our inner world.

I’ve seen this horse before, so it was lovely to check in and notice what had changed. Where I previously picked up discomfort in the teeth, pain memory from ulcers and tension under the saddle area, none of those issues showed up this time. Instead, what came through was how much this horse internalises. He holds emotion in his body, particularly through the neck and poll, and it feels as though he absorbs what’s around him rather than letting it pass through.

I did a lot of grounding and gentle release work with him, and he gave some beautiful signs of letting go. But the most interesting part came with his human.

As soon as I connected to her energy, I felt the same tightness the horse was carrying, tension across the neck, shoulders and right-hand side of the body. I was getting sharp, shooting sensations up my own right finger and hand. This wasn’t mine, it was an energetic map showing me exactly where she was energetically blocked.

In energy work, the right side of the body represents the yang qualities: doing, giving, responsibility, boundaries, and taking action. When that side is overloaded, it can show up as tension or pain and this was mirrored in both of them.

Then she told me something that brought everything together. Her horse has been nibbling her right hand.

Not her body, her hand.

Horses don’t do this by accident. A specific body part carries a specific message. The right hand is all about action, overgiving, carrying too much, and pushing through instead of receiving support. It’s the part of us we use to manage, control, hold, and lead.

This horse wasn’t being “naughty.”
He was communicating.

He was drawing her attention to the very place she was overloaded… the same place he was mirroring in his own body… the same place I was feeling through mine.

After working with both of them, there was a noticeable softening. The horse’s energy felt more open and released, and his human became more grounded and aware of what her body had been holding. Supporting them together brought clarity to the connection between their sensations, allowing each of them to settle more fully into themselves.

It’s always a privilege to witness these moments. Horses don’t just respond to us… they reveal us.

26/11/2025

Wholeheartedly support this weaning approach having followed it myself. There are so many horses with separation anxiety caused by sudden and non holistic weaning practices. Be kind 💗🙏

🚨Trigger warning part 3🚨

A mare with her foal as we go into December (obviously both mine).

All of my foals self wean themselves around 10 months (the one in the photo is almost 7 months so he has plenty of time left suckling from his dam).

When self weaned, my foals are then popped the other side of a fence (often just electric) with their field friends, in sight, sound, touch and smell of their Dam. The only thing my foals can no longer do at this point is suckle! If you want to, you can return them to their dam after about 4 weeks.

As long as the foal stops suckling the mare WILL dry up even if she can see, hear, touch, smell her foal!

A foal left on a mare until self weaning will NOT “drag that mare down” if the mare has sufficient food. This is true even if she is back in foal. If your mare loses weight she is not being provided with enough suitable nutrition.

Stress associated with weaning is scientifically PROVEN to be caused by the sudden removal of the Dam. It has nothing to do with the withdrawal of milk.

The definition and correct welfare friendly method of weaning should be the gradual process of transitioning a foal from a diet including milk, to a diet comprising only other sources of nutrition.

Sn**ch weaning, with sudden withdrawal of the dam causes significant suffering to foals for which there is good body of scientific published evidence to show this is life lasting.

You can all make a difference by sharing this message 🙏

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26/11/2025

This morning I stood outside watching Ruby and Riley quietly sharing a pile of hay together, and it honestly made my heart melt.

For so long Ruby was incredibly resource guarding, ears pinned, charging at Riley, biting, constantly protecting her food. That kind of behaviour so often comes from a past where a horse has had to fight for their share, and Ruby’s history reflects that.

But I also have to own my part in it. After our accident I did favour Riley. My energy, my attention, my softness, it went more to him than to her. My thoughts and words were different towards them. Horses always feel that. And Ruby, already carrying old wounds, felt that imbalance even more deeply.

Over the past year I’ve made a conscious shift. They are treated exactly the same, approached the same, given the same and spoken about in the same way. The transformation has been beautiful. The aggression has melted away. No more charging, no more biting, nothing just calm, easy companionship.

Watching them today, shoulder to shoulder, simply being together… it reminded me again that there is always a reason behind a horse’s aggression. Behaviour is communication. When we listen, really listen, they show us exactly what they need to feel safe.

I’m just so proud of her. And so grateful for the quiet wisdom of both my horses. 💛🐴

25/11/2025

Beautiful, there’s a little girl inside us all when we are around horses 💗🙏

24/11/2025

Some lovely pictures from my demonstration at Horserenity
I just love how, when I’m working with one horse, the other naturally wants to join in.
It’s such a beautiful reminder that healing doesn’t have to be hands-on for it to reach those who need it. ✨🐴💫

23/11/2025

I’ve been revisiting Edgar Cayce lately, the “sleeping prophet” who could diagnose illness in a trance state and offer exact remedies. A phenomenal healer and a kind of modern-day Nostradamus.

About 25 years ago, during my spiritual awakening, I became deeply fascinated by him and bought this book. Yet I’ve only just discovered a powerful prediction he made about horses and the timing feels uncanny with the Year of the Horse coming up and the shifts happening with my own horses.

If you’re curious about intuition, healing, or the wisdom of animals, check out more in the video I shared here:
👉 Watch on Facebook

23/11/2025

I’m sharing this YouTube video because it really spoke to me. It’s about Edgar Cayce, the “sleeping prophet”, a man who could enter a deep trance state and give astonishingly accurate insights into people’s health and emotional blocks. He was a phenomenal healer, often able to describe exactly what was wrong with someone and what they needed to take or do to heal themselves. His wife recorded all of his channelings, leaving behind a body of work that still feels ahead of its time. He was also renowned for his predictions and premonitions, a kind of modern-day Nostradamus.

About 25 years ago, I had my spiritual awakening, and I went through a phase of being deeply fascinated by Cayce. I bought a couple of his books and felt very drawn to his energy, his wisdom, and the way he understood the body on an energetic level long before others were speaking that language.

But somehow, I never came across this particular prediction he made about horses and it’s absolutely fascinating.

With the Year of the Horse coming up next year, and with the deep shifts happening lately in my connection with my own horses, this feels like perfect timing. One of those little cosmic nudges.

If you’re interested in intuition, healing, or the soul wisdom of animals, this is a really interesting watch.

There is a prophecy by Edgar Cayce about horses that the world has ignored for nearly a century. He said a time would come when humanity, lost in its machine...

23/11/2025

This is an awareness and sharing post as unfortunately I’m unable to sign as I’m not an American national. Please share as someone reading your feed is and can sign on your behalf. Save horses from being lost in the slaughter pipeline 😢

21/11/2025

Tomorrow I’m hosting my first workshop at horserenitycic, a beautiful peaceful outside space. The horses here are used for equine therapy and I haven’t worked with these two before, which is exactly how I like to approach healing, without any preconceived ideas. I’m really looking forward to connecting with them both and all the participants, sharing experiences, and offering some practical tips on deepening your bond with your horse.

The greatest shifts with horses (and dogs) comes with owners who embrace the insights I share that I’ve found helpful in my own journey. Whether it’s come direct from the horse or intuitively during the healing. Horses simply want to feel safe and connected. And really, isn’t that what we all want too?

Think back to your childhood riding days, did you feel truly at one with your horse? Those idyllic, stress free, carefree days. Somehow, as we grow older, we lose that connection. Life pulls us into our heads, away from our bodies, from nature, from each other. Many of us now spend hours isolated at home, in front of screens, disconnected from the rhythm of life. But the beautiful truth is, it’s not lost. Like a muscle, that connection needs retraining. When we step away from the hustle bustle, go inside ourselves and reconnect with our bodies we find our inner peace.

And your horse is waiting there for you 💗🙏