Kolas Space

24/01/2026

Nurturing empathy starts with us.💚
via Generation Mindful

16/01/2026

Proprioception is one of the most important senses you’ve probably never been taught about.
It’s the 'body awareness' system that helps a child know where their body is in space, how much force to use, and how to move smoothly and safely.

When it’s not working smoothly, children can look clumsy, crash into things, press too hard, avoid certain movements, or constantly seek deep pressure (tight hugs, squeezing, heavy work).

This isn’t laziness or attention-seeking.
It’s their nervous system asking for information.

Save this post for the next time a child is climbing, crashing, leaning, or “too rough” — it might be proprioception doing its best to cope.
To save, click on the image, tap the three dots, and choose Save.
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14/01/2026

When kids act out, push back, or fall apart, it’s not defiance. It’s a signal.
A signal that something feels too big, too hard, or too overwhelming.

Instead of jumping straight to consequences, try this:
💬 “That was a big reaction — are you okay?”
💬 “Looks like something’s feeling tricky right now.”

This doesn’t mean we excuse the behaviour.
It means we meet the need behind it — and guide them from there.
Because connection is what builds cooperation. 💛

📘 Find more tools like this in my book Guidance from The Therapist Parent — available at www.thetherapistparent.com or via the link in bio.

BigFeelings ParentingWisdom

15/12/2025

A charity says the system is “under severe strain” as parents recount addiction and mental health battles.

20/11/2025

Just in Case

Sarah Dillon (c)

Children who have lived through early trauma often hold on to objects that others see as useless or strange.

A dart taken from the pub, hidden under the bed even though there is no dartboard.

Empty boxes stacked in corners.

Sweet wrappers folded away.

Pens and pencils that no longer work.

Bits of silver paper, old buttons, broken toys, stones, shells.

All of it gathered and kept

Just in case.

For these children, collecting isn’t about the objects themselves.

It is about safety.

It is about having something of their own.

It is about creating a sense of control in a world that once took too much from them.

So they keep things, any things

Just in case they might need them one day,

Just in case something goes wrong,

Just in case they are left without what they need again.

Because when a child has lost so much,

letting go can feel dangerous.

Keeping objects becomes a kind of protection,

A thin layer of security built from scraps and leftovers.

A way to feel prepared.

A way to feel less empty.

A way to make sure they are never caught off guard again

Just in case

16/11/2025

Our Children Don’t See What We See

It’s instinctive to try to make our traumatised children to ‘feel better’ about themselves. The problem is that our children don’t see themselves in the same way that WE do.

Because of experiences when they were young, our children’s internal working model tells them they are useless, invisible, stupid, ugly, not worthy, or just plain bad.

If our child communicates (through behaviour), that they believe they are bad, stupid or ugly, our immediate instinct is to ‘correct’ them and tell them they are beautiful, worthwhile and wonderful, giving them lots of reasons why WE think this.

But here’s the thing- If the child FEELS and BELIEVES that they are bad, you TELLING them that they’re not, doesn’t resonate.
It feels like a lie. It feels like YOU lied. It feels like you just became one more person not to trust.

We have all had those days when we feel unattractive, tired or overweight but someone tells us we look fabulous! We know they mean well but….. Imagine if that happened all the time!
Where is the reality check?

This is a really hard truth that we must deal with in order to help our children heal.
The way we do this is by making sure we KEEP IT REAL!
We base our praise and encouragement in reality.
“I see you are struggling at the moment, but I have faith in you because I saw how you handled it yesterday”

“I know you feel bad about **** but I know you have a good heart, because I saw you help your brother this morning when you thought no one was looking”.

This low level, factual, alternative positive feedback is much easier for our children to accept and internalise than over praising and over compensating.

Little by little, we see our children’s view of themselves change.
The moment when they start to see their true reflected self and realise that maybe they ARE beautiful, worthwhile, and that they matter, is wondrous indeed.

written by Sarah Naish, CEO of the Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma

Have a good Sunday Everyone! 💛
www.coect.co.uk

13/10/2025

A busy weekend was had

08/10/2025

So true

So important to keep in mind! 🙌

01/10/2025

Perfectly explained

28/08/2025

22/08/2025

via Let Grow

20/08/2025

Taken from The Sensory Spectrum