Skylight Healing Room

14/01/2026

Some of us can only hope that we find our purpose in life and live it, and some actually find it and fulfil it!

Here's a small post joining in others who honour an incredible man who truly left the world a better place behind him: Gary Craig, the founder of Emotional Freedom Technique - EFT.

All I can say is THANK YOU. Just that. Immense gratitude!

Please see this letter from his daughter.

"Goodbye to Gary

It is with a heavy heart that I announce the passing of Gary Craig, Founder of EFT … and my father. He was his usual enthusiastic and charming self until the very last moment, and he went peacefully in his sleep, lying in his favorite recliner, overlooking the Pacific Ocean.

With the creation of EFT, he opened new doors, combining scientific approaches and an
energy component to revolutionize the healing of emotional issues, and bringing
awareness to the emotional causes of physical issues. Personally, I cherished the
opportunity to work by his side; in partnership with his teachings, with a front row seat to
his generosity, and inspired by his spirituality.

In hindsight, on his behalf, I would o er distinguished gratitude to the members of ACEP
who were first exposed to EFT. They were licensed mental health professionals willing to
give it a try, applying his truly unfamiliar approach to their cases with cravings, phobias, and PTSD. That’s how it all started, and clearly it grew in many directions from there, but without the opportunity to teach and develop EFT among those in the field, it may not have spread across the world as it has.

One day, shortly after EFT had been introduced, Dad found himself struggling through a
moment of deep frustration. Suddenly, in his description, he was transported to “the other
side” where he could see, feel, and experience the profound love that we as humans
cannot. It lasted only a few moments, but once he came back to his human experience, he
would never be the same. Through the teachings in A Course in Miracles, he understood it
at first as a Holy Instant, and later realized it to be a Revelation. Throughout the rest of his
life, he wished to have another.

As far as I know, he never went back, but that experience definitely worked its way into EFT. His final version, Optimal EFT, combined the best of EFT in a partnership with the unseen. Through decades of developing his EFT skills, it became clear that a greater force was just waiting to be invited into the sessions, and provide a powerful new dimension in healing. The mechanics of EFT have a way of opening our energy systems to this greater force, and by combining the two, he found a new horizon.

On his passing, Dad would hope that we all continue to find peace through genuine
healing, and his request is that we do not organize a formal ceremony to honor his life.
However, on the path of practicing any form of EFT, for ourselves or with others, we will
occasionally be called to stretch; to look deeper, to ask better questions, to improve our
connection with the unseen. As stretching toward anything greater can be uncomfortableand easy to avoid, I ask that we take those opportunities to stretch, in his honor, whenever we see them.

As I sit here now, in his favorite recliner, overlooking the Pacific Ocean, I can see that Gary Craig raised me in a Palace of Possibilities. He showed me, starting at 5 years old, that anything is possible, and he provided me with the tools to get anywhere I want to go. I
believe he has given the same to the world, and in exchange, his Revelation will now be
eternal. May he rest in paradise.

His loving daughter,

Christina (Tina) Craig"

10/12/2025

The magic is in a regulated nervous system. EVERYTHING runs better in life with a regulated nervous system (brain, spinal cord, nerves throughout your whole body).

A well regulated nervous system promotes overall homeostasis (that "just right" state of inner balance!) which unlocks better focus, emotional resilience, physical health, and clearer thinking. It allows you to experience life more fully rather than being stuck in survival mode.

There are so many ways to achieve this in a holistic way! Deep breathing, walking in nature, yoga, weighted blankets, mindfulness, meditation, sound healing, singing, progressive relaxation or sleeping to name a few. HOWEVER..... THE most pleasurable and relaxing modality that I have ever experienced, is Bowen Therapy. I have been a practitioner and regularly receiving Bowen myself for over 10 years now, and I can't imagine life without Bowen!

Bowen Therapy is a hands-on remedial therapy and consists of non-invasive, gentle yet precise touches that do not remain in constant contact with the skin, allowing you to drift in a therapeutic space, where you can deeply relax and repair.

Give it a go and finish this year on a high, or gift a voucher for 3 or 5 sessions to a friend or a loved one

11/11/2025

10/10/2025

Today is World Mental Health Day.
Mental health isn’t just a topic for me — it’s woven into my daily life, my work, and the choices I make. It’s also at the heart of so many people’s journeys as they navigate healing and overcome personal hardships.

That’s why I’m especially proud to share that the charity I’ll be supporting in next year’s Rover 75 John O’Groats to Land’s End Rally is Andys Man Club, supporting men through tough times and reducing male su***de.

Su***de remains the leading cause of death for men under 50 https://www.samaritans.org/about-samaritans/research-policy/su***de-facts-and-figures/latest-su***de-data/ — a heart-breaking reality that needs our collective awareness, compassion, and action.

The event involves driving across the UK, from the North in Scotland in John O'Groats to the farthest South point in Cornwall in Land's End, in under 24 hours with a convoy of Rover 75 and MG ZT's, all cars over 20 years old, a testimony of the wonder of the mechanical resilience of these fine classic cars and a test of endurance and determination on behalf of the drivers.

To help raise funds for this important cause, please access and donate generously. Give one pound, give a hundred, give whatever you can whole heartedly give, all the money will go directly to the charity, who just opened their 320th group across the country. YES, THEY ARE THIS MUCH NEEDED!! When they opened their branch in Bury, they put out 22 chairs to have some spares to what they thought would be the turnout. 25 men came.

There are no whistles and bells and stories on the donation page. Just action. We all know someone with a story, some have friends who are no longer here. For some is deeply personal. For some, it's collective consciousness of helping others.

https://www.justgiving.com/page/david-tomlinson-1?newPage=true

If you can't donate, please share this post far and wide, the team would be grateful for your support! Your actions could help save a man's life.

Help David Tomlinson raise money to support ANDYSMANCLUB

10/09/2025

Summer has ended. Harvest Full Moon shone its light this year and the most recent Lunar Eclipse is bringing wisdom calling for transmuting darkness into meaning.

This week the Sun is transiting Gate 47 (in the Human Design system) with a Virgo energy from the astrological wheel, combining the Virgo desire for order with making sense of past experiences, dealing with confusion, however, with the potential for mental anxiety and stress when trying to find clarity.

I am here to guide and support anyone wishing to explore the burden and the bliss of adversity, in their search for meaning and personal evolution. This time is deeply transformative, and using this powerful energy can result in spectacular breakthroughs!

Let's see what's possible in what you can transmute! What is your NO trying to tell you? What does your YES bring to realisation?

Book a session with me if you're called to do that, for a preferential price of £99 for this week only. Your heart will be lighter and will thank you for it!

01/01/2025

Happy New Year with much healing bringing fun and joy of life 🌞🤩💃🏻✨🥰🎁💕

07/08/2024

I believe that ​self-sabotage does not exist, it is merely a safety process that is not​ yet updated. ​

Sabotage comes from the French term saboter - to kick with sabots (heavy wooden/leather clogs) and it means to wilfully destroy. I just do not share this idea. ​We do NOT, ever, sabotage ourselves​ in this way.

That's why I don't believe the saying that "we are own own worst enemy". T​o me, this idea is self-shaming and hints towards ​a fragmented self, a bad story we tell to ourselves when others are not there to tell it to us.

​What I believe, is that I we are actually geniuses in formulating our own self-protection​, to the best that we can, at the time that is needed, and to the way our personality is inclined to react in self-defence or in the context of the dynamic that our family of origin (or event) dictated. Some of us picked fights to get attention, because even negative attention is better than nothing; some of us made ourselves small, almost invisible, "where we were put that's where we stayed" for fear of punishment, so freeze response worked best. Some dissociated to survive. Some run away, played outside all day long or even found solace in books and school, to flee the reality of an unsafe, chaotic home. Some played the part of good boy or good girl to please and appease because fawning got us to safety and pre-emptied a bad mood of one or both of our parents. We continued these mechanisms when we face conflict later in life because they are so well practiced and they did keep us safe in the past.

The problems start when what used to work in dangerous situations, does not serve us in times of safety. You know, any software needs updating against new viruses​. If we never experienced ​safety, love, respect, open communication, physical affection, kindness, generosity​ in our formative years​, in our adult lives, the brain ​may see ​these elements in a relationship as foreign, ​dangerous viruses that must ​be stopped.
​As modern days research shows​, our brain matures well into our early 20's, ​"formative years​" all of a sudden is not just early childhood, but ​​until we are​ about 25.​ ​T​hen, we ​continue beyond 25 to practice more of what we know, and the brain gets stronger in those types of neuro-networks and the cycle gets reinforced.

If in the beginning we had others who did things to us (consciously or unconsciously), as we grow, we tend to want to stay loyal to those programs and our primary caregivers, and we take those roles upon ourselves in their absence in adolescence and young years, because that's how the original programming is running.

Yes the brain is a complex machine, but in fact, instructions are really simple: what you put in is what the command obeys.

I see so many people asking themselves why am I doing this to myself? I know it's wrong, why can't I do better?

Of course they can do better, but is dangerous. There are situations (like domestic violence) that the danger of change is real, and in others, the danger is perceived. Ultimately, without updates, the brain knows no difference.

People who experience domestic violence and/or emotional abuse always need a plan, logistics to be put in place to assure real safety before they can attempt any further kind of healing. A new, safe environment is a solid foundation from where healing can occur.

For those who are prisoners of their own minds and have the resources and the safe environment, the plan to break free of their own prison is done in therapy.

​I believe that the fight with former versions of ourselves is real, but that we are not at all enemies, just friends that haven't openly communicated yet, to figure out they are in fact on the same page.

When we make friends with younger versions of ourselves from a place of higher wisdom, compassion, empathy, love, we integrate the message that it's ok to upgrade our system with new beliefs, new mechanisms of growth and protection. As adults we have the kind of discernment we never had as children.

I see people achieving more profound results in lowering anxiety, reducing depression and breaking through limiting beliefs while rising self esteem, self confidence, and re-writing their life story, when they are supported in therapy to communicate with younger parts of themselves, either through Inner Child work or even connection with the version of them yesterday. Because the comparison is not with others, it is always with the un-integrated versions of ourselves.

06/08/2024

In any stage of healing, accurately evaluating the situation and gently acknowledging where you are in life, bring in the possibility of opening up to receiving support if help is needed. No problem can be solved if it is not identified. And no healing can occur as long as one is not safe and basic life needs are not fulfilled. To me, context is paramount because it dictates timing.

In the past I made many mistakes to push for healing when healing wasn't possible. I learned through harsh lessons to allow things to unfold. And meanwhile hone my skills, tend to my soul, and be ready. Even now, well into many years of healing from complex trauma, I find myself occasionally blasting "​I thought ​I'd know better by now!" but actually, I notice how each layer peels off precisely when I have the necessary resources to address that wound, the necessary support network gathered around me and the necessary time to deal with what needs integrating.

Timing to stay and timing to grow new muscles. Timing to germinate and timing to shot new leaves and open new buds!

I will celebrate later in the year 10 years of owning my holistic clinic. As a Left Angle Cross of Uncertainty in Human Design, my answer to uncertainty, is revealed in time. 10 years have proven to me that I made the right choice when I did, and that what I do now, not only fills my soul, but brings so much healing to people who seek answers to their own questions. My capacity to connect deeply on an emotional level and facilitate positive change through showing what is possible is one of my greatest gifts in my personal relationships, in clinic and as I move through the world.

I wish that my post will gently inspire you to self enquiry: Where am I in life? What do I need to blossom? What would get me to the next stage? Where am I and where would I want to be? How big is that gap if there is any, and how do I bridge it? Who is the best person to connect with, in order to make it happen?

05/08/2024

If you think you are letting yourself down, please stay open to the possibility that you are just keeping yourself safe from the danger of the unknown.

And by getting used to stay in a situation that causes you pain and suffering, you are just in a state of freeze, because fighting is dangerous, fleeing is not an option, and fawning only works temporarily, it never changes anything, just lowers your self esteem with every bit that you compromise on and try harder for the other to end up not trying at all.

Ask yourself with gentle curiosity: what are the benefits of staying the way I am? What is the familiarity in the situation? To whom am I being loyal? Am I ready to receive support? Am I ready to face what needs integrating? Do I want this? Do I believe that I deserve healing? Do I believe that I deserve love? Am I ready to do the inner work to change my beliefs? Can I continue to compromise? Have I had enough of this situation? Can I afford to prioritise money to work with someone? What free resources can I access? Do I know where to start? What are my spiritual beliefs? What are my values in life that can guide me? What would the person wanting to help me need to know? Who would be the best therapist for me? And ultimately, am I ready to step into courage to find out what can be better than this?

You can identify where the problem lies: safety, timing, resources, willingness, deserving, loyalty to caregivers/ancestors even, lack of know-how, physical health and take one step at a time. Put your hand on your heart and in quiet and stillness, ask yourself difficult questions. The answers and clarity will come

18/06/2024

I am so very grateful to each of you who participated in my research about how empathy, emotion regulation, and social perspective-taking influence social competence skills! THANK YOU

16/05/2024

All my lovely FB fam, please help!

23/01/2024

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Yesterday, the 22nd of January 2024, we entered Human Design Rave New Year with Gate 41 activated in the Root Centre. 🌱

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