15/11/2025
You get it.
Your life is not an Instagram dream.
Your living room is rarely immaculate.
You’re not entirely sure what’s at the bottom of the freezer, could be dinner, could be a body 🤷♀️
And yet you’re surrounded by “life advice” made by 22-year-olds in gymshark, who don’t have kids, haven’t lived in their own house yet, and still think a “flush” is a bathroom sound.
Why are you letting them make you feel bad?!
They don’t have a f*ing clue.
Yesterday, I saw a post from a stunning young woman with a 6-pack telling us we all have time to chase the dream bod.
*Cries in after school clubs, full time job and washing*
I’m sure she also swears she’ll never let her future children eat processed food.
👀
These women online, the ones with the tiny waists, spotless homes, and colour-coded ‘pantries’, cannot help YOU.
YOU, the perimenopausal woman who eyes a “beauty blender” with DEEP suspicion (how DO we clean them?), has a dishwasher that’s waiting to be unloaded, and a brain that’s juggling 27 open tabs.
✋
Here’s the thing.
When you feel bad about yourself…
Do you leap off the sofa shouting, “I’m saved!” and sprint to the gym?
No.
You buy chocolate.
Because chocolate judges no one. (Thank God)
But if you feel stuck and want something to change, you need people who don’t judge you.
Influencers who don’t demand perfection.
Social media that reflects real life.
If you want to start having a positive impact on your life you HAVE to remember, you are wonderful.
You’re tired.
Your house looks like a state.
You’re still wonderful.
You are doing an INCREDIBLE job and you’re not alone in how you feel.
If you were truly the only one with a messy life, a messy head, and Saturday-morning bed hair that rivals your once-toddler’s mohawk…
If you were the ONLY one…
Would I be writing this?