Your Birth Story

24/03/2026

Happy World Doula Week 💛

Today I'm celebrating and honouring all the incredible doulas across Berkshire and Buckinghamshire, a special community built on shared knowledge, deep wisdom, and unwavering support for one another.

What makes this network so powerful is our diversity. We all come from different backgrounds, with unique life experiences and a wide range of approaches to this work. And that’s exactly the beauty of it, there is a doula for everyone. Every family can find someone who resonates with them, who understands their journey, and who can walk alongside them in a way that feels right.

Behind the scenes, there is a quiet but strong web of connection, doulas lifting each other up, sharing insights, offering guidance, and holding space not just for families, but for one another too. It’s an honour to be part of such a compassionate and collaborative community.

Thank you for the care you give, the wisdom you share, and the difference you make every single day.

Check out the amazing local doulas below



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23/03/2026

Sorry, not sorry. Investing money with an experience doula is not about "learning" in the traditional sense of NCT or mainstream Hypnobirthing.

Biirth sits deep in the reptilian brain, the same place that controls your heartbeat, your breath, digestion. You don’t learn how to digest your food. You don’t practice how to make your heart beat. And birth? It works in that same beautifully instinctive, automatic way… when it’s given the right conditions.

The challenge is that so many of us have spent years absorbing fear, tension, stories, and messaging that pull us out of that instinctive state.

So real birth education?

It’s less about adding more information… and more about gently unlearning everything that’s been layered on top of your instincts.

Peeling back the noise.
Rebuilding trust.
Creating safety.

Because your body already knows.

The work is remembering that. 🤍

Want to unlearn what you know about birth? Comment UNLEARN to get in touch

08/03/2026

A friend of mine just tried on her wedding dress and felt… wrong in it.

You know that feeling.

The zip wouldn’t quite close the way she imagined. The mirror suddenly felt harsh. The dress that looked perfect on the hanger made her question her body.

Immediately the suggestions started.

“Maybe lose a little weight before the wedding.”
“Cut carbs for a few weeks.”
“Just tone up your arms.”
“You’ve got time to change your body.”

And for a moment, she considered it.

Changing her eating.
Changing her routines.
Changing her body, all to fit the dress.

Then she paused and said something beautifully simple:

“Why would I change my body for the dress… when I could just change the dress?”

So she did.

She bought a dress that fit her body exactly as it was.
And suddenly she looked radiant. Relaxed. Completely herself.

Nothing about her body had been the problem.

The dress was.

And I think about this story a lot when I talk about birth.

Because so many women are being told to change themselves to fit a system.

To accept things that don’t feel right.
To bend around policies.
To adjust their instincts.
To reshape their plans to make the system comfortable.

But what if we asked a different question?

Where are you trying to change yourself to fit the dress?

Are you planning to birth in a location that doesn’t suit the type of birth you actually want?

Are you inviting people into your birth space because it’s expected not because it feels safe to you?

Are you agreeing to tests, meetings, timelines, or interventions just to keep the system happy?

Sometimes the problem isn’t you.

Sometimes the problem is the dress.

You don’t need to shrink yourself to fit it.

Change the bloody dress.

Choose the environment that supports you.
Choose the care that respects you.
Choose the people who make you feel safe.

Birth isn’t about becoming smaller so the system can manage you.

It’s about creating a space where you can be fully yourself.

Thanks for the inspiration Roxy Potts!!!

08/03/2026

Today is International Women’s Day, and this year’s theme about " giving to gain” has been sitting with me.

But the more I think about it, the more I struggle with the surface-level interpretation of it.

Because women already give.
We give our time, our care, our emotional labour, our energy.

Women do the majority of unpaid work and caregiving across the world, raising children, supporting families, caring for relatives, volunteering in communities, holding households and workplaces together in ways that often go unseen and unrecognised.

So when I hear “give more to gain more,” it doesn’t feel empowering.
It feels like the same expectation women have carried for generations.

Instead, I’m choosing to interpret this differently.

What if “giving” meant lifting each other up?
Sharing opportunities.
Making space at the table.
Advocating for women who aren’t in the room.
Recognising the invisible work that keeps everything moving.

Not giving more of ourselves away
but giving support, recognition, and solidarity to other women.

Because women don’t need to prove their value by giving more.
We’ve been doing that all along.

This International Women’s Day, let’s hold each other up.
Let’s make women’s work visible.
Let’s celebrate strength, community, and the power of women supporting women.

That’s the kind of giving that actually changes things.

19/02/2026

Most antenatal classes teach you how to breathe through contractions…

But not how to breathe through a system built on policy, hierarchy, and protocols rather than birth.

You can have the most beautiful birth plan.
You can have clear preferences.
You can have thoughtful, informed decisions.

But if it’s not documented, signed off, and in your notes… it can disappear the moment shift change happens.

Hospitals are structured around policy.
Midwives on the ground are often working within strict guidelines, layered management, and fear of professional repercussions.

When something is agreed in conversation but not written down, it leaves everyone vulnerable, including you.

✨ If a consultant agrees to something, ask for it documented.
✨ If a deviation from standard policy is approved, ask for it in writing.
✨ If your plan has been reviewed and supported, make sure it’s in your notes.

When it’s written and signed off, the midwife caring for you at 2am has the authority to follow it.
It protects them from reprisal.
And it protects you and your birth partner from unnecessary battles in labour.

This isn’t about being difficult.
It’s about understanding the system you’re birthing within.

And look, honestly I wish I didnt need to give you this advice, but until the system changes, we need to learn to navigate it.

Save this.
Share this with someone expecting.
And at your next appointment, ask:

“Can we put that in writing?” 💛

18/02/2026

Stop asking “Can I?” at your antenatal appointments.

When we frame our preferences as a request for permission, the answer can easily default to no. especially if it sits outside routine practice. Instead, try asking, “How can this be facilitated?” or “Who needs to be involved to make this happen?”

These questions shift the dynamic from permission to partnership. They invite discussion, creativity, and collaboration and that’s where truly individualised, woman-centred care lives.

Have you ever reframed a question and noticed a different response? Share your experience below 👇

12/02/2026

"I wish I had attended these classes earlier"

Never a truer word said. Don't wait until you are 30+ weeks pregnant. Pregnancy flow is a gentle mix of mindset and Movement safe during any point of your pregnancy.

You decide what topics are covered each week so each class is tailored to your unique journey. And the room is filled with the most beautiful women who are their to support each other both in class and in our whatapps community ❤️

Join next week when we discuss all the options to make a planned or unplanned c section birth beautiful and empowering 🥰