Your Birth Story

24/04/2026

24/04/2026

Action bias doesn’t just show up in you during birth, it shows up in birth partners, too.

When labour gets intense, the instinct to do something can kick in: offering constant suggestions, asking lots of questions, trying to “fix” what’s happening. It comes from love but birth isn’t a problem to solve.

It’s something to accept and surrender to

Here are a few ways your birth partner can support without overwhelming:

BIRTH PARTNER TIPS

• Be a steady, grounded presence your calm matters more than constant action
• Follow their lead, take cues from what they’re doing, not what you think they “should” do
• Pause before speaking, ask yourself if it’s helpful, or just easing your own discomfort
• Keep reassurance simple: “I’m here”, “you’re doing it”, “you’re safe”
• Get comfortable with the intensity, You don’t need to fix it for it to be okay
• Prepare ahead of time, talk through preferences so you’re not guessing in the moment

Sometimes the most supportive thing you can do is less, not more.

You don’t need all the answers, just your presence 🤍

SAVE THESE TIPS AND SEND TO YOUR PARTNER. If you want more indepth holding, send a DM and find out more about my birth team Ready course. Designed to take your birth partner from fixer to holder

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23/04/2026

Guidlines and the chefs special have the same legal power. When you realise this, you can feel more confident to gather the informatuon you need to make a decision that is right for you.

Simple reframing tools can be a powerful way to gain back control in your birth

17/04/2026

There is no right or wrong answer to how you manage this situation.

Ask yourself:

Where do I feel most safe and in control?

What do I need to put in place to navigate the challenges that might come with this option?

How does it feel and look to take this option?

When you have explored your options and found which feels aligned for you, you can start planning for it so it doesnt feel like an emergency in the moment, just a plan unfolding gently.

15/04/2026

What have other women used this hour for?

👶 planning a cesearean birth with ALL the frills that are not discussed with your midwife
⚖️ navigating a diagnoses of pre eclampsia and making an out of guidance plan
🧘‍♀️ preparing for induction of labour, only to have labour start by itself after the session *on several occasions....
🔎 Finding specific information that helped a family have access to the care they wanted
📖 creating a birth plan thatbis specific to your needs that likely falls out of guidance (which is most births)

Whatever it is you need support navigating, have a doula on standby who has walked this path many times before and can help clear the way a little for you 😉

14/04/2026

If I want you to do something a certain way, I am in control of how I present information to you.

This is possibly the most common thing I see during antenatal appointments. What may seem like benign statements can actually lead you one direction or the other before youve even realised!!

Look out for:

⚖️ relative risk being presented instead of absolute risk. Absolute risk is unbiased and fast based.

👶 statements like 'we just want the best for your baby amd we xant guarentee they'll be ok without this. The fact is, they can gurantee your baby will be ok with it either.

👨 saying to birth partners something like, "if it were my partner, I would want her to be ok". using your birth partner to reinforce their opinion is not ok.

⏲️ putting tight time frames in things or booking things "just in case"

Once you spot it, its impossible to un see. And now you'll be ready...

14/04/2026

And how did the story end??

My client decided to start induction after 48 hours. I met her in the induction ward to get started with some bodywork, aromatherepy and accupressure points to give inductuon the best chance of working. Labour started by itself whilst on the induction ward without any form of induction!!!! . Labour unfolded slowly and calmly without any further intervention or complications 🤩