Jan Scoones Counselling & Psychotherapy

Jan Scoones Counselling & Psychotherapy MBACP (Accred)
Do you feel stuck, overwhelmed or sad. Perhaps counselling can help.

Is communication breaking down in your relationship? You're not alone.Active listening, assumptions, defensiveness, and ...
16/02/2026

Is communication breaking down in your relationship?

You're not alone.

Active listening, assumptions, defensiveness, and unresolved conflicts can all create distance between partners.

But here's the good news: healthier communication patterns are possible.

In my blog, I share the most common communication pitfalls I see in my couples counselling practice in Reading, and the practical strategies that can help you reconnect with your partner.

Whether you're struggling to be heard, finding yourselves in the same arguments, or simply want to strengthen your bond, this is for you.

Read the full post on my website and discover how to nurture the communication your relationship deserves.

Which mask do you wear most often? 🎭We all have them. Those roles we slip into without even realising. The perfectionist...
13/02/2026

Which mask do you wear most often? 🎭

We all have them. Those roles we slip into without even realising.

The perfectionist who can't rest. The people-pleaser who can't say no. The optimist who won't let themselves feel sad.

These masks protected us once, but sometimes they stop us from being truly seen.

Swipe through and be honest with yourself.

Which one feels familiar? Drop it in the comments 👇

(No judgement here. Awareness is always the first step.)

Procrastination isn't about being lazy or lacking willpower. It's often a complex response to anxiety, perfectionism, ex...
12/02/2026

Procrastination isn't about being lazy or lacking willpower.

It's often a complex response to anxiety, perfectionism, executive dysfunction, or overwhelm.

When we can't start a task, there's usually something deeper happening beneath the surface.

Maybe it's fear of failure, uncertainty about where to begin, or our brains struggling with focus and organisation.

Understanding what's really driving your procrastination is the first step towards being kinder to yourself and finding strategies that actually work.

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09/02/2026

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Life holds all of it at once.

The beautiful moments and the difficult ones, the certainty and the doubt, the laughter and the tears.

When we can embrace this truth, we stop fighting against the natural ebb and flow of our experience.

There's profound freedom in accepting that we don't have to choose between the light and the dark.

We can hold space for all of it.

That's what makes life real, what makes it rich, what makes it yours.

Understanding the difference between trauma responses and healing is crucial for our wellbeing. Trauma tells us we must ...
06/02/2026

Understanding the difference between trauma responses and healing is crucial for our wellbeing.

Trauma tells us we must carry everyone's emotional weight, but healing teaches us that we can offer support without losing ourselves in the process.

Before we can truly show up for others, we need to honour our own emotional needs first.

This isn't selfish, it's sustainable compassion.

If you've ever struggled with saying sorry (or wondered why others can't seem to apologise properly), this episode is fo...
04/02/2026

If you've ever struggled with saying sorry (or wondered why others can't seem to apologise properly), this episode is for you.

Brené Brown sits down with Dr Harriet Lerner for a powerful two-part conversation exploring the transformative art of apologising.

Based on Lerner's groundbreaking book Why Won't You Apologise?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts, this episode dives deep into why genuine apologies matter and how they can repair relationships, both big and small.

What makes this episode special is the authentic, vulnerable conversation between two thought leaders who aren't afraid to tackle the messy reality of making mistakes.

In our current climate of uncertainty and anxiety, where we're all struggling to be our best selves, the ability to apologise well has never been more crucial.

This isn't just about saying the words, it's about understanding what a real apology looks like and why so many of us get it wrong.

Ever feel like you're constantly showing love, but your partner seems distant? Or maybe your efforts go unnoticed whilst...
02/02/2026

Ever feel like you're constantly showing love, but your partner seems distant?

Or maybe your efforts go unnoticed whilst they insist they're doing everything they can?

You might both be trying your hardest, just speaking different love languages.

The disconnect isn't about lack of effort or care.

It's about understanding how we each give and receive love differently.

When you're expressing love through acts of service but your partner needs words of affirmation, both of you end up feeling unappreciated despite genuinely trying.

Recognition is where change begins.

Understanding your love language and learning your partner's can transform a relationship that feels stuck.

Curious about the five love languages and which one might be yours?

Read the full blog to discover how this simple framework could unlock deeper connection in your relationship.

You could spend forever trying to prove yourself to someone who sees you through a distorted lens, but you'll never chan...
30/01/2026

You could spend forever trying to prove yourself to someone who sees you through a distorted lens, but you'll never change their view.

Why?

Because what they see isn't about you.

It's about their unhealed parts, their unresolved stories, their unprocessed pain.

You are not responsible for correcting someone else's perception when it was never accurate to begin with.

Let them see what they need to see, and you keep being who you truly are.

The right people will see you clearly.

I used to think being at peace meant having everything under control. Every detail planned, every outcome predicted, eve...
28/01/2026

I used to think being at peace meant having everything under control.

Every detail planned, every outcome predicted, every variable managed.

But that's not peace.

That's exhausting.

Real peace isn't found in perfect conditions.

It's found in your ability to stay grounded when things don't go to plan.

When the meeting gets cancelled. When traffic makes you late. When life simply refuses to cooperate with your carefully laid plans.

The shift happens when you stop trying to control everything and start trusting yourself to handle anything.

That's where real growth begins.

Not in the absence of chaos, but in your steady presence within it.

What's one thing you're learning to let go of?

They said time heals. So why does it still hurt?Because grief isn't meant to end. It transforms.You don't "get over" som...
26/01/2026

They said time heals. So why does it still hurt?

Because grief isn't meant to end. It transforms.

You don't "get over" someone you loved. You learn to carry them differently. You become fluent in two languages: the one the world speaks, and the one only you and your grief understand.

There's no timeline. No final stage. No closure that ties it all up neatly.

There's just you, learning to live as someone new. Someone who knows both the weight of loss and the resilience of love.

You're not broken. You're not behind. You're exactly where you need to be.
Words by Nameen Arasi 🤍

What if the next time you felt angry, anxious, or sad, you didn't try to push it away? What if instead you asked, "Why a...
23/01/2026

What if the next time you felt angry, anxious, or sad, you didn't try to push it away?

What if instead you asked, "Why am I feeling this right now?"

So often we judge our emotions as good or bad, right or wrong.

But what if we approached them with curiosity instead?

Emotional curiosity is a powerful tool for self-discovery.

When you stop resisting your feelings and start exploring them, you unlock a deeper understanding of yourself.

Your emotions are messengers, not enemies.

What are your emotions trying to tell you today?

When did you last check in with your own self-care? We talk about it all the time, but how many of us actually know wher...
21/01/2026

When did you last check in with your own self-care?

We talk about it all the time, but how many of us actually know where to start?

This Self-Care Wheel breaks down the essential areas that support your mental health and wellbeing.

From sleep to boundaries, gratitude to social connection, each segment plays a vital role.

Which area feels most neglected in your life right now?

And which one could you focus on this week to make a real difference?

Self-care isn't selfish, it's essential.

Take a look at the wheel and ask yourself: where do I need to invest more energy?

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