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28/09/2025

DID is caused by so significant that the integrative capacity of the brain is overwhelmed. All of its symptoms make sense, even though they are confusing and distressing. Find out more on our course: https://www.carolynspring.com/shop/dissociation-and-did-the-fundamentals-online-training

19/09/2025

We live in a culture that promises five easy steps that will help you change in 21 days — break a habit, start a streak, fix yourself with enough willpower. But trauma doesn’t work that way.

What looks like a ‘bad habit’ is often a survival strategy — something your body learned to protect you when danger left no other choice.

Shutting down, lashing out, numbing, perfectionism…these weren’t flaws. They were your body’s way of keeping you safe.

And this is why quick fixes fall flat. You can’t punish or discipline a trauma response into disappearing. If willpower were enough, you’d have fixed this already. Healing happens deeper — in your nervous system, as it slowly learns that safety is possible again.

Real change rarely looks dramatic. It shows up in small shifts — a breath that settles you, a night of rest without dread, reaching for connection instead of isolation. These aren’t ‘small wins” that accumulate over time. They’re your nervous system practicing safety — and practice rewires.

The climb may be slow, but here’s what makes it worth it: healing doesn’t just take away pain. It creates space for joy, for connection you can actually trust, for feeling at home in your own body. And that’s something no quick fix could ever give you.

02/09/2025

Bill Bailey has openly discussed the grief he continues to experience after the death of his close friend, comedian Sean Lock, who passed away in 2021. Bailey shared how he still feels the urge to reach for his phone to call or text Lock, particularly when something triggers a memory, such as a funny moment or a piece of music that he knows his friend would have enjoyed.
These unexpected moments of grief can catch him off guard, sometimes feeling like an ambush. Bailey reflected on the power of these triggers, which remind him of the special bond they shared, from their long walks together to their conversations about life. The comedian also shared how Lock introduced him to Stoicism, helping him cope with life's unpredictability and emotions. Despite his grief, Bailey has found solace in reflecting on their memories, such as their picnics and walks, which continue to live on in his mind

01/09/2025

01/09/2025

I've been told so many times that I'm being selfish for having therapy. I can't think of anything further from the truth. It's the best thing that I can do both for myself and for other people.

Listen to my podcast for more: https://www.carolynspring.com/podcast/the-therapeutic-relationship

22/08/2025