13/11/2025
I was asked about “shadow work” the other day and whether it was safe, or whether it was demonic. For me, it is not just safe, it’s essential work. Parts of you are trapped deep inside your unconscious—where something happened to you that was so traumatising, so iniquitous, that you just can’t face it.
It’s a bit like a bad boot block on your computer, a part of you is so damaged that the system locks it off so it can’t stop the rest of you from running properly. So the bad boot block (or the damaged part of you) takes one for the team, and locks itself away, so the rest of you isn’t continuously traumatised by the event. Thing is, it’s your energy, and you’ve lost it to the shadows. So you need it back (and it wants to come back). So don’t leave it languishing in the shadows… can help you clear this stuff if you need; just ask!
But when people say that you need to heal yourself to arrive at divine union this suggests that somehow you are broken. Nonsense, you are not broken. Your soul isn’t broken either. There is nothing that needs to be fixed, nor is there anything that has to be “done” within this connection. Just release the shadow and bring your energy back cleansed, repatriated and ready for action…
Internal healing (“the inner work”) is a lifelong development process that takes practice, commitment, kindly patience with yourself and an awful lot of introspection. You’re effectively conducting a lifetime appraisal on yourself where you accept and forgive yourself for times you came up short, whilst also taking responsibility for your own actions (or inactions).
Under universal law, we act as mirrors to everyone we meet and attract towards us those who are closest to our own frequencies. If we sense negativity in people we meet, it’s time to stand in front of the mirror and see what needs to be looked at in ourselves to clear our shadow.
The great thing about shadow work is you’re freeing aspects of yourself that have been trapped and hidden deep within our unconscious self. Consequently, if you’re on a twin flame (or twin soul) journey (whether they be physical or non-physical), as you heal your inner wounds, your twin will be restored on an energetic level too. And if they are working on themselves at the same time, you will be restored at an energetic level too—so it’s win-win.
But, as in all things, the person you should be focusing on restoring is YOU. Knowing your core values and beliefs helps you magnetise your twin, someone who truly aligns with you, to foster a deeper and more meaningful connection.
Layers of shadow (negativity) are peeled away. This is the “unfoldment”. As time goes on, all you will feel is unconditional love for your twin. You don’t NEED them as such, but your desire to be with them is strong, like magnets that attract rather than repel. That is love in its purest form, where you’ve reached a high vibrational state but have no need of them or anyone else to complete you… because you’ve completed yourself.
Of course, when you are unfolded, you’re not only magnetising your twin, you’re magnetising everyone you meet. Your energy is palpable. (FYI: This is how twin flames are collectively supporting planetary ascension.) As unconditional love shared on a global scale. Boom! (Equally, if you have a twin in spirit, or as a discarnate connection, they will have tweaked your vibrational frequency to lift it up to theirs.)
But, if you’re blaming your twin for anything that didn’t work out, or finding fault with them or anyone else, you’re not fully healed.
This is what the process is all about: reaching a point where you love unconditionally with no expectations of anyone or negative intentions for anyone.
If you have no desire to be with your twin, (who is a part of you for eternity and always has been), due to circumstances that are out of your control in the physical world, live your best life.
Be of service to others and continue to look within to improve upon yourself. Again, any positive improvements made on yourself are transferred energetically to your twin no matter what the dynamic is.
But know this, you do not need to heal yourself, or the other person, to come into union within yourself or with your twin. Or to realign with Father Mother God as the embodiment of The Son or The Daughter.
This is a misconception, one I was guilty of at the start too.
First off, you and your twin are already one soul, and rooted in unity consciousness (which is the ultimate expression of unconditional love). Hence your soul is perfect, because God-Goddess made it that way.
Thus our journey to reunification with Father Mother God is a journey of the soul, not the mind. Healing centres on the mind (I could have done that better; I should have been kinder there…) There is much hype about healing your inner child, or healing your mother or father wounds or wounds of abandonment because it’s someone’s hustle…
So it’s not necessary to heal yourself at this level, nor is healing your attachment style at some expensive weekend retreat—and there is no need to revisit or heal past trauma, or righting the wrongs of a past life by clearing your karma, or deep cleansing your chakras with sound baths, mirror work, mindfulness, yoga, sound baths or drug addled sweat lodges…
By all means seek support for your mental health if something is do***ng you, because mental health is everything.
But the twin soul journey isn’t a journey of the mind. It is your soul’s journey, and your twin soul is there to mirror what you don’t (or won’t) see within yourself, areas that you need to shift and energetically clear.
Hence the twin soul journey is one of shifting up a gear and into your soul’s alignment (or realignment) with The Father and The Mother.
And frankly, it can’t come soon enough… (But for all of us, not long to wait...)