21/11/2025
*TRIGGERS*
Don’t let the smile fool you. I get triggered too. We all do. It’s what makes us human. It’s what we do with our triggers that counts.
Picture this: You feel the emotion rising, tension building, your body is quickly heating up and something is bubbling. In that moment, at that time, what’s your go to reaction?
Is it a meltdown, an explosion, an eruption?
Is it a freeze response where you shut down and zone out?
Some people are very good at using emotions in a healthy way to fuel their voice, have you ever listened to a person talk with passion about a topic, it’s truly heart warming 💕
In the wellness coaching we talk about ways to honour your emotions, soothe yourself when you need it and keep your relationships in tact. I haven’t always known how to do this.
When that emotion hits we can learn to notice it, honour it and show it compassion and curiosity. Give it a name. What is this bubble of emotion I’m feeling. Yes it’s nervous. This is called acknowledging.
Yes I see it and I honour it. I let myself feel it. I’ve learned to do that. This is called processing, and takes up to 90 seconds on a physical level in our bodies.
Next is the choice, what will I do with it? I like to breathe it or shake it out, dancing and humming work just as well. It’s energy that needs to be moved along. This is called releasing 💨
Next was something I had to work hard at to learn, replacing. We have a choice in how we feel, what do I want to feel now. I choose to feel empowered.
I do this at home and my son sees me doing it. Role modelling healthy ways to release emotions. And because I can regulate myself, I can also be present with him when he’s feeling the bubble of emotions. I stay connected with him as he is learning to notice, acknowledge, process, release and replace his emotions.
I truly believe that if we all learned what to do with emotions we wouldn’t hurt each other with words actions silence or inaction, or use other things like alcohol, food, shopping and I dare I say it s*x to escape from our lives and our experiences, and rather learn to enjoy those experiences in their own right for what they bring and offer to our lives 💕
