Know Your Own Mind

27/01/2026

It’s mad how stress can hit you out of nowhere.
Like today… I’m just popped to the shop, and on the way home driving along, and boom — hit a pothole, tyre bursts, day instantly derailed.
And of course, it never stops at one thing.
I take the tyre to the garage hoping they can just patch it up… only to find the sidewalls split more than a teabag that’s been squeezed too hard.
Then taking the bags i the house and the handle on my bag decides it’s had enough of life, the sugar in the bag has leaked everywhere… and when I try to fold the bag, I tip the rest of the sugar out like some kind of budget snow globe.
It’s those moments where you just stand there thinking, “Really? Today? All of this?” and the list from that poit kept growing.

But stress doesn’t always arrive in a big dramatic scene.
Sometimes it creeps in slowly, quietly, building up bit by bit until something tiny tips you over.
Neither version is easy. Neither has a quick fix. And neither means you’re doing anything wrong.
It just means you’re human, carrying a lot, doing your best.
So if today’s been a pothole‑burst‑tyre‑split‑broken‑bag‑sugar‑everywhere kind of day… you’re not alone.

Stop step back and take a breath. Be gentle with yourself. Tomorrow is a new one.

And if you need help navigating through your stress, you’re welcome to contact me for 1‑2‑1 counselling — you don’t have to figure it all out on your own.

15/01/2026

When someone you love is gone, life doesn’t “go back to normal”
Grief isn’t something you “get over.” It’s something you learn to live alongside.
For many people, the world keeps moving while they feel stuck between heartbreak, numbness, anger, confusion, and moments of unexpected calm. It can feel impossible to make sense of life when the person who mattered so deeply is no longer here.
You don’t have to navigate that alone.
💛 How I support people living with loss
- A space to say the things you can’t say anywhere else
Whether your grief feels heavy, complicated, or hard to put into words, you’re welcome exactly as you are.
- Understanding the emotional waves
Sadness, guilt, anger, relief, disbelief, loneliness—grief rarely comes as one feeling. We explore these shifts without judgement.
- Making room for your story
Your relationship with the person you’ve lost matters. Their impact, your memories, your questions, your pain—all of it has a place.
- Support for the “after”
The world often expects you to carry on. I help you find your footing in a life that has changed, even when you didn’t choose that change.
- Gentle, steady guidance
We move at your pace. No pressure, no timelines, no expectations to be “strong.”
🌱 You’re not failing at grief
You’re human. You’re hurting. And you deserve support that honours the depth of your loss.
If you’re living with grief and need a safe, compassionate space to talk, reflect, or simply breathe, you’re welcome to reach out. I offer in‑person sessions in Northamptonshire and online support across the UK.

07/01/2026

The festive season isn’t joyful for everyone. For many, Christmas and New Year bring up grief, stress, family conflict, or the heartbreak of a relationship ending. It can feel like the world is celebrating while you’re just trying to get through the day.
If you’re missing someone, feeling overwhelmed, arguing with loved ones, or facing separation or divorce, please remember you don’t have to cope alone.
I’m here to offer a safe, compassionate space where you can talk, process, and feel heard. Whether you need one conversation or ongoing support, you’re welcome exactly as you are.
If this resonates with you — or someone you know — please reach out. No one should struggle in silence, we all deserve to feel heard

26/11/2025

What is SAD?
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is sometimes called “winter depression”. It’s more than just feeling low when the days get darker — it’s a recognised condition that can significantly impact wellbeing.
Common symptoms include:
- Persistent low mood and loss of interest in everyday activities
- Irritability, feelings of guilt or worthlessness
- Fatigue, oversleeping, and difficulty waking up
- Cravings for carbohydrates and changes in appetite
- Difficulty concentrating and reduced motivation
For some, symptoms ease in spring and summer, while others may experience SAD during warmer months.

How SAD Impacts People
SAD can affect every part of life:
- Work and study: Concentration and productivity often drop.
- Relationships: Irritability and withdrawal can strain connections.
- Physical health: Changes in sleep and appetite may lead to weight gain or lethargy.
- Mental health: Feelings of despair or hopelessness can become overwhelming.
It’s important to remember that SAD is not a weakness — it’s linked to biological changes such as disrupted circadian rhythms, reduced serotonin, and vitamin D deficiency.

How Know Your Own Mind Can Help
At Know Your Own Mind, support is tailored to meet people where they are, with warmth and understanding. Here’s how counselling can help:
- Safe, non-judgemental space: To talk openly about how SAD affects your life.
- Exploring coping strategies: Together we can look at ways to manage energy, routine, and self-care.
- Understanding triggers: Identifying how seasonal changes impact mood and finding personalised approaches.
- Trauma-informed support: Recognising how past experiences may intensify seasonal struggles, and working gently towards resilience.
- Flexible access: Sessions available face-to-face in Higham Ferrers, or online/phone for convenience.
AD can feel isolating, but you don’t have to go through it alone. At Know Your Own Mind, you’ll be met with empathy, clarity, and practical support to help you navigate seasonal changes and reclaim your wellbeing.
📩 Reach out today to begin your journey towards balance and brighter days.

Contact Nikki
07507176719
www.knowyourownmind.co.uk

21/11/2025

🌸 Postnatal Depression: Let’s Talk About It 🌸
Bringing a baby into the world is often painted as a time of joy. But for many new mothers, the reality can feel very different. Postnatal depression affects
around 1 in 10 women, and it can leave mothers feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or even guilty for not experiencing the “happiness” they expected.
This is not a personal failing—it’s a real, common condition that deserves understanding and support.
💜 Symptoms can include persistent sadness, anxiety, loss of interest, or difficulty bonding with the baby.
💜 It can happen to anyone, regardless of background or circumstances.
💜 With the right support, recovery is possible.
At Know Your Own Mind, we want mothers to know: you are not alone. Talking about postnatal depression helps break the silence and stigma, and opens the door to healing.
👉 If you’re struggling, please reach out. Whether to a trusted friend, a professional, or a support group, connection is the first step toward feeling better.
Let’s share this message widely—because every mother deserves compassion, care, and hope.

Contact Nikki : -07507176719
www.knowyourownmind.co.uk

05/11/2025

Trauma isn’t just what happened. It’s what’s still happening inside you.
Flashbacks. Nightmares. Feeling constantly on edge. Using alcohol or distractions just to cope.
If you feel stuck, exhausted, or like no one understands — I see you.
At Know Your Own Mind, I offer trauma-informed counselling for adults and young people (10+).
Whether you’re neurodivergent, grieving, anxious, or carrying invisible pain — I’ll meet you where you are, with warmth and understanding.
Y- Feeling numb, detached, or emotionally overwhelmed
- Avoiding places, people, or memories that remind you of what happened
- Using alcohol, drugs, or distractions just to cope
- Experiencing guilt, shame, or irritability
- Feeling like you’re just existing, not living
These are common symptoms of trauma and PTSD — and they’re Trauma isn’t just what happened. It’s what’s still happening inside you.
You might be:
- Reliving the event through flashbacks or nightmares
- Feeling constantly on edge or hypervigilant
- Struggling with sleep, concentration, or trust
- not a sign of weakness. They’re your nervous system trying to
- protect you, even when the danger has passed.

At Know Your Own Mind, I offer trauma-informed counselling for adults and young people (10+) who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or unheard. Whether you’re neurodivergent, grieving, anxious, or carrying invisible pain — I’ll meet you where you are, with warmth and understanding.
You don’t have to explain everything.
You don’t have to go it alone.
I’m here — when you’re ready.

📩 Message me to book a free initial cha

27/10/2025

🌪️ When Anxiety Hits: That heavy, looping worry isn't who you are. It's just a pattern your mind is running.
​Feeling trapped by anxiety is exhausting. It makes simple decisions huge and quiet moments rare. We hear you, and we see your strength in pushing through it every day.
​At Know Your Own Mind, I don't treat anxiety as something to simply tolerate—we treat it as a message to decode.
​The Truth: You have the power to interrupt the loop.
​🔑 It starts with curiosity, not criticism. Instead of judging the anxious thought, ask: What is this thought trying to protect me from? This small shift in perspective is the first step in taking back the lead from your worry.
​Knowing Your Own Mind means understanding the signals so you can respond intentionally, instead of just reacting instinctively.
​If you're ready to move from feeling overwhelmed to feeling in control, click the link in our bio. Let's work together to redefine your relationship with anxiety.
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23/10/2025

🚀 The 5 Steps of Counselling: A Quick Guide
​Curious about counselling but want the simple version? At Know Your Own Mind, the journey to healing is clear and supported.
​1. Connect 👋
​A quick, confidential chat to see if we're a good fit and understand your goals.
​2. Build Trust 🔒
​We create a safe space so you feel secure and ready to share without judgement.
​3. Explore 💡
​We dive into the roots of your challenges to gain powerful insights into your thoughts and patterns.
​4. Get Tools 🛠️
​We develop and practice practical coping strategies for resilience in your daily life.
​5. Move Forward 🌅
​We review your progress and ensure you feel confident and strong to continue your journey independently.
​Ready to take that first brave step?
​➡️ DM us now or click the link in our bio for your initial chat.
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22/10/2025

Meet the Founder: Know Your Own Mind (10 Years of Service!)
​Hello everyone! As we launch our new business-sharing initiative, I wanted to formally introduce the other hat I wear and share the powerful background that led to the creation of Bring 2Gether \text{CIC}.
​My business is Know Your Own Mind, where I work as a qualified Counsellor. I have been proudly providing professional, confidential support to the community for 10 years!
​My Approach
​My decade of experience means I offer a steady, non-judgemental space where individuals can explore their thoughts, feelings, and challenges with confidence. But my commitment to this work is also deeply personal.
​The Origin of Bring 2Gether CIC
​The true catalyst for starting the Bring 2gether CIC came after my own accident. When I desperately searched for help and found there was nowhere to turn for the kind of comprehensive community support I needed, I realized I had to create it.
​Bring 2Gether CIC was born out of that lived experience—a commitment to ensure others would have a resource and a community to connect with when they needed it most. It's about bringing together people, support, and local resources.
​If you or someone you know is looking for individual counselling support rooted in 10 years of trusted
experience-driven practice, please feel free to reach out.
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21/10/2025

Are you facing a new diagnosis, trauma, loss, ADHD, ASD, Dyslexia or relationship struggles, and feeling the loss of your old identity? contact me and lets see how I can help you

20/10/2025

If you’ve been through trauma and feel like no one truly sees you… I do.

You’ve carried pain that others couldn’t see. Maybe you’ve been let down, dismissed, or told to “move on.” But trauma doesn’t work like that.
At Know Your Own Mind, I offer counselling that’s gentle, grounded, and tailored to you. I bring over 10 years’ experience—and lived empathy—to help you feel safe, heard, and supported.
Whether you’re navigating grief, betrayal, anxiety, or the weight of past trauma, you don’t have to do it alone.

Let’s talk. Your healing starts with being truly heard.

Call now to connect with business.

10/10/2025

I'm here to listen so you feel heard. Your a work in progress