Inspiring Changes - Counselling, Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy

13/11/2025

Thank you Nicolette for all your help with my sleep. Although there was nothing specific I was worried about, my mind would not switch off at night so I rarely got to sleep before 2am. Now, I am falling asleep soon after going to bed AND I sleep through until my alarm goes off. Unheard of! I feel so much better I can’t tell you.

12/11/2025

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11/11/2025

10/11/2025

Clinical Hypnotherapy for Menopause Symptoms — Restoring Calm, Clarity, and Confidence

Menopause is often framed as a purely hormonal event, a biological milestone marked by hot flushes, irregular cycles, and the end of fertility. But for many clients, it’s far more than that. It’s a neurological recalibration, an emotional reckoning, and an identity-level shift. It touches every part of life: sleep, mood, memory, relationships, work, and self-image.
Clients navigating perimenopause and menopause often describe feeling 'foggy,' 'wired but tired,' 'not like myself.' They may experience anxiety, disrupted sleep, brain fog, low libido, and a loss of confidence. These symptoms aren’t just inconvenient, they can feel destabilising. And because menopause is still under-discussed and under-supported (though gradually improving), many clients feel isolated in their experience.
Clinical hypnotherapy offers a gentle, non-invasive way to support this transition. It doesn’t suppress symptoms; it supports the system. By calming the nervous system and working with unconscious beliefs, hypnotherapy helps restore internal coherence and emotional resilience.
In sessions, we begin by exploring the client’s experience of menopause. What symptoms are most disruptive? What beliefs have they internalised about ageing, visibility, or worth? Many clients carry unconscious narratives like 'I’m fading,' 'I’m no longer desirable,' or 'I’m losing control.' These beliefs can amplify distress and disconnect clients from their bodies.
Hypnotherapy helps reframe these narratives. In a relaxed, focused state, we use guided imagery, suggestion, and therapeutic dialogue to plant new beliefs: “My body knows what it's doing,” “I am evolving, not declining,” “I deserve rest and respect.” These aren’t just affirmations, they’re neural rewrites. The brain begins to build new associations with this life stage: calm, clarity, and empowerment.
We also work directly with physiological symptoms. Hypnosis can improve sleep by helping the body downshift into parasympathetic rest. It can reduce cortisol spikes, which fuel anxiety and inflammation. It can support temperature regulation, emotional stability, and body trust. Clients often report sleeping more deeply, thinking more clearly, and feeling more grounded after just a few sessions.
This approach is especially helpful for clients juggling multiple roles: work, caregiving, relationships, while navigating hormonal shifts. Therapy becomes a space to pause, reflect, and recalibrate. We explore pacing, boundaries, and self-care not as luxuries, but as necessities. Clients learn to listen to their bodies, their needs, and redefine productivity in ways that feel sustainable.
Importantly, hypnotherapy doesn’t replace medical care. But it complements it beautifully, especially when emotional and neurological factors are at play. It’s ideal for clients who feel dismissed by conventional approaches or who want to explore holistic, mind-body support.
In my practice, I’ve seen clients move from overwhelm to empowerment. They begin to see menopause not as an ending, but as a transition - a chance to reconnect with their values, voice, and vitality. Therapy helps them reclaim a sense of control, rewrite internal narratives, and restore emotional safety.
Menopause isn’t a decline, it’s a recalibration. And hypnotherapy helps make that recalibration restorative, meaningful, and deeply personal.

07/11/2025

Counselling for Identity Work — Exploring Who You Are, Safely

Identity isn’t a fixed label, it’s a living, evolving experience. It’s shaped by culture, family, neurobiology, relationships, experiences, trauma, and choice. And for many clients, identity can feel confusing, fragmented, or even painful. They may ask: “Who am I, really?” “Why do I feel so different?” “Why don’t I fit?” “Can I change?” These questions aren’t superficial, they’re existential. And they deserve space.
Psychotherapeutic counselling offers that space. It’s not about diagnosing or defining, it’s about exploring. It invites clients to unpack the layers of their identity with curiosity, compassion, and care. Whether they’re navigating transitions, neurodivergence, sexuality, gender, cultural shifts, or self-worth, therapy becomes a mirror; one that reflects truth, not judgment.
In sessions, we explore how identity has been shaped. What messages did you receive growing up? What roles were you expected to play? What parts of you were celebrated, and what parts were silenced? Clients often discover that their identity has been edited to survive, to please others, avoid conflict, or stay safe. Therapy helps them reclaim the parts that were lost or hidden.
This work is especially important for clients who feel:
• Disconnected from their body or emotions
• Conflicted about sexuality, gender, or neurodivergence
• Caught between cultural or relational expectations
• Stuck in roles that no longer fit
• Afraid to be seen or misunderstood
Counselling supports integration, the process of bringing all parts of the self into coherence. It’s not about choosing one label or identity. It’s about making meaning. Clients learn to hold complexity, honour contradictions, and build a sense of self that feels true and whole.
We also work with emotional regulation. Identity work can stir grief, anger, fear, and shame. Therapy offers tools to navigate these emotions safely. Breathwork, grounding, and pacing help clients stay present and embodied. They learn to feel without being overwhelmed.
Importantly, identity work is relational. It happens in the context of a therapeutic relationship that’s safe and respectful. Clients often feel they've finally been 'seen.' That sense of being witnessed, without agenda or expectation, is healing in itself.
In my practice, I always approach identity work with respect. I don’t assume, label, or rush. I listen. I ask. I reflect. And I hold space for whatever emerges, whether it’s clarity, confusion, or transformation.
Clients often leave therapy with a stronger sense of self - not because they’ve found a perfect label, but because they’ve found language, meaning, and emotional truth. They begin to live more authentically, relate more deeply, and make choices that align with who they are becoming.
If you’re navigating questions of identity, whether quietly or urgently, know that you don’t have to do it alone. Therapy can be your companion, your mirror, and your safe place to explore. Because who you are matters. And you deserve to know, feel, and live that truth.

06/11/2025

Dear Nicolette, Since I started seeing you, as you know I have been promoted and I thought I’d let you know I am now in a very happy, stable relationship. Before I saw you I would never have even thought of applying for that job, but thanks to you, I did and it has been just the start of what has turned out to be a brilliant year. I’m sure you’ll say it was ‘me’ who made the changes, but without your help I’m convinced I wouldn’t be where I am today. I have been together with my girlfriend for 6 months now and life just seems to be getting better and better. I cannot recommend you highly enough. Thank you.

06/11/2025

04/11/2025

Having this shift in perspective can help you focus on what matters. 💙

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03/11/2025

**Hypnotherapy for Confidence & Self-Worth - Reclaiming Your Inner Voice**

Confidence isn’t just about being bold or outspoken, it’s about feeling safe enough to be yourself. And self-worth isn’t a fixed trait, it’s a felt sense of value that can be nurtured, reclaimed, and restored. For many clients, low confidence and fragile self-worth stem from unconscious beliefs formed early in life. These beliefs shape how they speak, move, relate, and even dream.

Hypnotherapy offers a gentle, powerful way to access and reframe these beliefs. It doesn’t force change or push performance. Instead, it creates a safe, focused space where clients can explore the roots of their self-perception and build new, empowering narratives.

In a hypnotic state, the unconscious becomes more receptive. This is where many limiting beliefs live: 'I’m not good enough,' 'I shouldn’t speak up,' 'I’ll be rejected,' 'I’m too much,' or 'I’m not allowed to take up space.' These beliefs aren’t logical, they’re emotional. They often come from childhood experiences, cultural conditioning, or moments of shame or silence.

Hypnotherapy helps clients gently challenge these beliefs. Through guided imagery, suggestion, and unconscious dialogue, they begin to plant new truths: 'I am worthy,' 'My voice matters,' 'I can be seen and still be safe.' These aren’t just affirmations, they’re neural rewrites in which the brain begins to build new pathways that support self-trust, expression, and resilience.

This work is especially powerful for clients struggling with:
• Body image and visibility
• Assertiveness and boundary-setting
• Fear of judgment or rejection
• Imposter syndrome
• Social anxiety or performance blocks
• Internalised shame or criticism

Sessions often include visualising confident moments, anchoring positive sensations, and rehearsing new behaviours in a safe, internal space. Clients might imagine walking into a room with ease, speaking clearly, or standing their ground with grace. These visualisations help the nervous system feel what confidence actually feels like, not just think about it.

Importantly, hypnotherapy doesn’t aim to create a 'new you', it helps you reclaim the parts of yourself that were silenced, shamed, or forgotten. Therapy becomes a space of integration, where vulnerability and strength coexist, and where confidence is rooted in authenticity, not performance.

Ultimately, clients report feeling more grounded, expressive, and emotionally clear after hypnotherapy. They begin to trust their instincts, speak with more ease, and navigate relationships with greater self-respect. The shift isn’t always dramatic, sometimes it’s subtle, like choosing to say no, asking for help, or showing up without apology.

Within therapy, I see confidence as a relational experience. It’s not just how you feel about yourself, it’s how you feel in relation to others, to your body, and to your story. Hypnotherapy helps you rewrite that story.

If you’ve ever felt like confidence is something other people have, something you have to fake or force, know that it’s already within you. It may be buried under old beliefs or emotional debris, but it’s there. And therapy can help you find it, nurture it, and let it grow.