Peachstone Counselling

24/09/2025

I saw this video from Nika Diwa today that really hit me. She was attending an appointment and was asked about a pregnancy that she had sadly lost.

Her words were: “When they ask about the pregnancy you never delivered full term and keep going like you didn’t just share your biggest trauma.”

Ugh…I felt that deeply. Crikey, that hurts. Those questions can catch you off guard, making the weight of it all come flooding back. Perhaps you zone out for a bit. You’re back there for an agonising moment: the room, the sights, the sounds, the words, the pain…

Suddenly, you're jolted back into the room you're really in, the tick-box list of questions keeps coming, and you feel you have to hold it together.. keep listening, keep answering. So, you do your best to push it all down, hold back the tears, and crack on.

There is often a lack of sensitivity around how these questions are asked, but for those who’ve been through pregnancy loss, it can be extremely distressing.

If this resonates with you and you’d like a space to talk to someone who really understands, you’re welcome to reach out. X

Sarah@peachstonecounselling.co.uk

19/09/2025

Hello and welcome 👋

If you’ve been visiting my page recently and are thinking about getting in touch, you might like to know that I offer a completely FREE first ‘get-to-know-you’ session. It’s a chance for us to talk about what’s on your mind and see if working together feels like a good fit, with no pressure and no obligation.

I know taking the first step can feel a bit daunting, so this first session is simply an opportunity to get a feel for what counselling with me might be like, in a friendly, relaxed, supportive space.

My website messaging page is currently down and being fixed, so for now the easiest way to get in touch is to message me here on Facebook, send me a WhatsApp/text, or email me. 💬

07974281337
Sarah@peachstonecounselling.co.uk
https://peachstonecounselling.co.uk/

19/07/2025

Just a little reminder...

💭 If something’s on your mind between sessions, you’re welcome to text or email, whether it’s to have a rant, share good news, or let me know about something that’s happened, so we’ve both had time to think it over before we next meet.

Some therapists only allow contact for cancellations or rescheduling, but I believe a supportive therapeutic relationship can include those in-between moments too. I might not be available to reply straight away, but I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.

🆘️ If you’re ever in crisis or feel unsafe, please contact your GP, call NHS 111, or go to A&E. You can also call Samaritans anytime on 116 123. And do let me know as well - I’ll always do my best to offer you an urgent session if I'm able to.🫂

01/07/2025

Beautiful...

THERE’S A WOMAN IN MY MIRROR

There’s a woman in my mirror
And she looks a lot like me,
Though there’s lines around her eyes,
And her hair is wild and free.
She is plumper than myself,
And she is definitely grey.
Did I miss the day this happened
Has she always been this way?

And this woman in the mirror
Has an air of something calm,
Like a tide that’s going out,
And a beach that’s soft and warm.
She has seen the world in colour,
She has learned to know the truth.
There’s a wisdom in her wrinkles,
There’s a knowledge brought from youth.

And she seems to move more freely,
As though released from earthly binds.
Is she made of something lighter?
Perhaps the weight she left behind.
Like the press of expectation,
And the need to yield and bend.
I like this woman in the mirror,
She’s fast becoming my best friend.

Donna Ashworth

Here is my instagram link
https://www.instagram.com/preciouswellbeing/

21/06/2025

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17/06/2025

Parenting is tough and wonderful.
It’s exhausting and frustrating, and then it’s invigorating and joyful. It's messy… in all ways…!

One day you're laughing out loud at the latest hilarious thing your little one has said or done, thinking "This is the best, I love this parenting stuff!", the next, you're functioning on barely two hours of sleep, asking yourself "What is this life I’m living?!", while holding a crying toddler, a cup of cold tea, and your sanity by a thread...🤦‍♀️

Parenting can also stir up memories we thought we’d buried, or ones we believed no longer mattered. Our own childhoods come into sharper focus when we’re raising children. We notice what we had, and what was missing. We feel echoes of joy and pain we thought we’d outgrown. Parenting doesn’t just shape our children, it stirs up our inner child too.

This journey becomes even more complex when layered with loss or trauma. For some, it's pregnancy loss - something I’ve been through myself. For others, it’s the heartache of losing a parent while becoming one. Maybe a horrendous birth or unresolved past experience lingers just beneath the surface.

Grief, trauma, longing, and invisible heartache can quietly sit beneath the day-to-day, making everything feel that little bit heavier.

Counselling offers a warm space to make sense of it all. It's a chance for your inner child to be heard. It's an opportunity to heal so that the past doesn’t spill into the present. It's not about becoming a perfect parent (that doesn't exist!), it’s about being a more present, self-aware, and grounded one.

If any of this resonates with you, you're not alone. Get in touch for a free, no-obligation initial session.

(P.S. I'm human too, and I know the struggles. There's no judgement here, I promise!)

05/06/2025

There’s a fable I once heard that I often tell my clients. (I have no idea who or where I heard it from, but it stuck with me!) It highlights how unspoken feelings can deepen misunderstandings, leaving resentment to fester and relationships to fracture...

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A couple, married for five years, share a bread roll with their breakfast each morning. 🍞
The wife always gives her husband the domed top half of the loaf - she believes it's the best bit; crusty and golden. She takes the bottom half (through gritted teeth now, though it started with love)...

This small sacrifice at the very beginning of their relationship was, in her eyes, a silent but romantic gesture. Now, however, she is sad and angry that he has never once offered the 'best' part of the little round loaf to her.

What she doesn’t know is, that her husband longs for the bottom half that she seems to enjoy each day. He thinks THAT is the best bit, and he always has! He quietly believes she selfishly keeps it for herself, and with a practiced smile he's been wearing for years, he says nothing.

Day after day, they watch each other tuck into the part of the little bread roll they really want. 🙄

Eventually, a small disagreement esculates into a much bigger one, and the truth finally comes out - they were both trying to be generous! They were both quietly resenting the other, believing they were the one doing the giving each and every day.

If only they had been honest about their feelings. Think of all the passive-aggressive expressions of resentment they leaked throughout the years which divided them. 💥 Think of how they inaccurately perceived their partner as selfish, and how these faulty beliefs may have influenced their perception of other actions and incidents over time. 💭 How better they would have known, trusted and loved each other for those first five years, had they simply talked openly and honestly.

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A lot of couples’ arguments aren’t about grand betrayals - they’re about mismatched meanings, things unsaid, and years of small misunderstandings that never get cleared up.

Silence doesn’t heal - it only distorts. It breeds resentment, warps perception, and leaves both partners misreading each other through fractured lenses.

Counselling helps you pause, reflect, and speak the truth. My style is honest, down-to-earth, and actively involved; I don’t just nod along while you get more muddled and frustrated, or leave you lost in long silences. I help each person feel heard without taking sides, untangling misunderstandings with warmth, clarity, and straightforward questions that get to the heart of things. ❤️

06/05/2025

I offer more than just a place to talk - I bring deep care, real presence, and a grounded, no-nonsense approach. Whether it’s one-to-one therapy, couples work (partner, friend, family, colleague), or clinical supervision, I’m right there with you in the mess, the grief, the stuckness - feeling it with you, thinking deeply, and helping you make sense of it to find a way forward.

We’ll be honest. We might laugh. We might cry. Need to let out a proper swear? Don’t hold back!

18/03/2025

Grief is not just an emotion—it’s an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided.

In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never close. But over time, the raw edges begin to mend. The pain softens, but the imprint remains—a quiet reminder of what once was. The truth is, you never truly "move on." You move with it. The love you had does not disappear; it transforms. It lingers in the echoes of laughter, in the warmth of old memories, in the silent moments where you still reach for what is no longer there. And that’s okay.

Grief is not a burden to be hidden. It is not a weakness to be ashamed of. It is the deepest proof that love existed, that something beautiful once touched your life. So let yourself feel it. Let yourself mourn. Let yourself remember.

There is no timeline, no “right” way to grieve. Some days will be heavy, and some will feel lighter. Some moments will bring unexpected waves of sadness, while others will fill you with gratitude for the love you were lucky enough to experience.

Honor your grief, for it is sacred. It is a testament to the depth of your heart. And in time, through the pain, you will find healing—not because you have forgotten, but because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together.

~ Anonymous (author unknown)

**edited for fact check