14/02/2026
How to stop smoking and quit va**ng in one hypnotherapy session. Find the trigger and drive.
Smoking, Va**ng, Stress & Mindset: A Late-Night Pub Chat with Charlotte Hypnotherapist and Salisbury Landlord Jonty
Clinical hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner Charlotte Phillips chats with Jonty, landlord of the Duke of York Pub in Salisbury, about how the pub handles smoking and va**ng and how Jonty quit smoking.
Charlotte describes her own smoking timeline, quitting finally in February 2011 after her young son asked her not to die like her father, and explains how desire, purpose, and mindset support change.
Charlotte outlines smoking-cessation stopping strategies and a hypnotherapy case where a 64-year-old who started smoking at 14 and stopped smoking after one session, quit, by identifying triggers like stress, anxiety, changing routines and access to ci******es, using aversive associations (a sealed jar of cigarette butts and smell), and committing to a quit date.
Jonty links his past heavy smoking to stress relief, says quitting alcohol was essential to quitting smoking, and explains he has bipolar disorder (diagnosed manic depression) and found he is seasonally affected; he feels healthier without drinking and smoking, with fewer hangovers and less coughing. The conversation ends with Charlotte encouraging viewers to seek support (including NHS tools), focus on wanting to quit, and explaining NLP as reframing language and using the senses to help reprogram habits.
00:00 Meet Charlotte & Jonty at the Duke of York: Setting the Scene
00:19 Pub Rules on Smoking vs Va**ng (and Where Smokers Go)
01:05 How Many Customers Smoke or V**e? Trends Over the Years
02:05 Jonty’s Smoking History: 80 a Day, Roll-Ups, and Starting at School
04:16 Charlotte’s Story: First Ci******es, Holiday Smoking, and Quitting for Good
07:27 Jonty Quits Ci******es—But Swaps to Va**ng
08:48 The V**e Pen Problem: Dependence, Panic, and Finding Alternatives
11:13 Patches vs Hypnotherapy: What You’re Really Addicted To
12:05 Hypnotherapy Client Example: Readiness, Triggers, and Stress Smoking
13:42 Making the decision to quit: mindset, triggers & ownership
14:55 Practical anti-craving hacks: remove access, reframe the ‘reward’
16:08 The ‘cigarette jar’ + hypnosis aversion story (and why it worked)
17:57 Quitting after 50 years: choosing the date and being truly ready
18:34 Alcohol, stress relief & bipolar triggers: why drinking kept smoking alive
19:56 Life as a sober landlord: health changes and seasonal energy dips
22:36 Building a pub community: consistency, regulars & staying present
24:05 Va**ng, late licenses & final quit advice (NHS support + boundaries)
25:55 What is NLP? Reframing language to change feelings and habits
27:38 Closing thoughts: ‘I can cope’ mindset, encouragement & sign-off
I Can Cope Method With Charlotte and Jonty Relaxed talk about running a pub, coping with stress, anxiety, depression and bipolar. "We started I Can Cope Method podcast to help people cope with overthinking, stress and anxiety, and ‘I can cope’ moments, so we hope this helps you." These episodes offer real-life conversations, techniques and tools for anyone feeling overwhelmed by stress, anxiety, overthinking or low mood.
I have been manic depression since the age of 27. I have an anxiety disorder. I do a lot of worrying and I overthink massively. Hopefully this will help somebody in a similar situation to me."
The podcast started off so that we'd be able to help people reframe their story, because the story when we're overthinking or when we're having negative thoughts are usually the stories we don't want to be playing in our mind. By reframing our language we’re playing the stories we do want. I had a lot of, I can cope a, a lot of, I can cope. We call stress ‘I can cope’ because you've coped before, you'll cope again.
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Charlotte Jane Grimaldi Phillips is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner at What Is Your Story Hypnotherapy. www.whatisyourstoryhypnotherapy.co.uk
Jonty Newbery is the Landlord at The Duke of York Pub, Salisbury, UK. https://www.dukeofyorksalisbury.co.uk/ and https://www.dukeofyorkmagazine.co.uk/
Charlotte runs hypnotherapy sessions face to face in Salisbury and online. You can book a hypnotherapy session with Charlotte by clicking here.
There are free hypnotherapy videos on my YouTube channel What Is Your Story Hypnotherapy that you can subscribe to and listen to see how I speak and work.
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