Ellie Belfield Counselling

10/12/2025

I'm so proud of the podcast & I have created.

It feels really raw, relevant and practical for anyone who struggles with feelings of anxiety around texting.

For anyone with RSD, abandonment wounds or hypervigilant folk, this one's especially useful in acknowledging your pain while giving tips on self-soothing.

If you're struggling with anxiety impacting your daily life, know that you're not alone and help is available to you. 💛

Stay tuned for our episode coming out next Monday. 🎧

It doesn't always have to feel like this.

01/12/2025

“Doing those deeply unfashionable things - slowing down, letting your spare time expand, getting enough sleep, resting - is a radical act now, but it is essential.

This is a crossroads we all know, a moment when you need to shed a skin.

If you do, you’ll expose all those painful nerve endings and feel so raw that you’ll need to take care of yourself for a while.

If you don’t, then that skin will harden around you.”

- Katherine May, Wintering: The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times

07/11/2025

Loneliness. The silent epidemic that many of us feel ashamed to talk about. 🤎 👇🏼

We're confused, disconnected.

Spending more & more time on our phones, "socialising" through screens but feeling overwhelmed, overloaded and yet empty at the same time. 😶‍🌫️

Where do we belong?

If we could just be more extroverted maybe we'd finally fit in and feel good? 🤔

Or do we need to come to terms with "being alone" and enjoy it like some people claim they do?🤨

The truth is, you are not alone.

And we do need connection.

Even if you're an introvert who wants to sit in company with your knitting without saying a word, come along the first Sunday in December and share a warm cup of tea as we explore the themes of loneliness, identity, confusion and overwhelm. 🫂

Can't wait to welcome you 🤎

04/11/2025

It's a really confusing time.

🍏 coined the term "Alone Together" back in lockdown, but it feels like we haven't truly recovered since.

With an increase in working online, spending most days alone in front of a screen, more and more of us are feeling isolated and noticing the results of the life we're living:

🧠Short attention spans
🧠Emotional overwhelm
🧠Impulsivity

It can leave us wondering - do I have some kind of "disorder"? Or am I just responding to endless scrolling and time spent without other humans to bounce off?

Maybe it's both.

As someone with a PMDD diagnosis myself and constantly exploring the world of neurodiversity as well as looking at lacking needs in society, I'd love to discuss in a non-judgmental space with you.

Join me if you can this time in Middlewich - everyone gets a chair! 😍💛

A warm, cosy space with a hot drink and ample parking.

Message me for tickets - limited space 🤎

23/10/2025

23/10/2025

I truly love my job, it's a lifelong commitment to growth and reflection.

A good therapist will put all the effort into meeting you where you are, understanding your story and learning how best they can support you 🩷

There are CPDS behind the scenes, hours of thought, exploration, reading, supervision and thoughts about what might be best for each individual.

So we're definitely not just getting paid to chat 😂🫶🏼

13/10/2025

I used to avoid setting boundaries, fearing I'd seem mean or uncaring.

But it took a toll on my wellbeing. I was overwhelmed, irritated, and resentful. 💔

As puts it, I was covered in "tiny cuts" of overwhelm, irritation, anger, hurt, resentment.

I prioritized others' feelings over mine, until it affected my sleep, relationships, and enjoyment. 🤕

I had to make a change. I started setting healthy habits, like limiting WhatsApp use, intentional TV watching, and recognizing resentment as a need to set a boundary. 📺💻

It's been a game-changer for my mental health: now able to be present with my daughter and make time for my own self care.

Did you resonate with this? 💬

If you're ready to tackle your own energy leaks and find calm, I'm here to help as your therapist 💛

27/08/2025

Why I think the expression "stop chasing" is a bit pants: 🩲

It's very passive, and though I get the sentiment, as a therapist I think we need to look into what we are starting any time we stop something.

We MOVE the energy, it always goes somewhere. 🏃🏼‍♀️

So,

instead of people pleasing ➡ we're making more time to pursue our hobbies

instead of seeking validation from others ➡ we're building respect for ourselves through a consistent self care practice

instead of always being there for others even when it's not appreciated ➡ we're showing up for ourselves and focusing on what we can change in our own lives

It's not about sitting on the sofa waiting for the love of your life to come calling 🛋

It's about pursuing your own interests,

being your own biggest cheerleader

and building a strong foundation within

so that when potential relationships & career changes do come along,

you've got the resilience to cope with uncertainty and change. 🙏🏻

Learn how to chase your dreams in a practical way with me:

1 space left for the vision board circle (in person) THIS Saturday 🎨

2 therapy slots available starting in September 🗓

www.elenabelfield.com

12/08/2025

Negative self talk is one that comes up a LOT in therapy! 🔍

As therapists we are trained to notice these subtleties in the way you speak: whether your story is peppered with:

"do you know what I mean?"s (validation-seeking)
"that probably sounds like a load of rubbish" (self-doubt)
"I know I'm being a dick but.." (negative self image)

All of these words may seem commonplace, petty, even harmless...but actually they can do a lot to build ourselves into someone who is not assertive, highly unsure of themselves and deep down needing someone else to say "it's okay, you're okay." 🤗

As much as validation is something I do provide in therapy, I also help you to take a closer look at the way you are talking about yourself and what deeper beliefs may be hiding under these statements.

That way, you can start to be the first one to give yourself compassion and acceptance without having to wait for our next session to let yourself off the hook. 🧡

I'm not about keeping you glued to the seat opposite me for as long as I can, I am here to help you build the tools needed to be your own biggest cheerleader, with some trauma-informed integrative therapy along the way.

Did you resonate with this post - do you find yourself saying "I'm so stupid"?

It can be so ingrained, know I still have to catch myself sometimes!

As always, here when you're ready. 🫶

09/08/2025

Mercury is in retrograde, energy is high ☄️

It's the perfect time for reflecting, shedding and shifting.

Come and dream about what life could be if we allowed ourselves the power to choose. 💫

🎨 This will be a fun, creative and thoughtful session with numbers limited to ensure enough time for everyone to share if they want to.

We'll start with a guided meditation to help stir the imagination then we'll get sticking, gluing, scribbling & designing our boards to take home and feel inspired by.

Price: £22.50
Previous clients: £15

Please book via my website or DM with any questions :)

So excited to start offering circles again 🪷

31/07/2025

I've been thinking about how it can be so easy to overcomplicate or throw money at our problems. 💸

Maybe if I take this collagen my skin will be more glowy & I'll look better?

Or if I get this new top I will get a dopamine rush when the postperson delivers it to my house. 📭

Not saying that these things can't be lovely & helpful, but also questioning what's the feeling behind the behaviour...what's motivating us?

If we look around are there shifts we can make in the here & now without spending money or looking at screen.

Maybe it's a walk or a home cooked meal or a chat with a friend or a hug. What's the need behind our behaviours? 💌

Can we slow down and take stock rather than always trying to add? Just some food for thought on a greyish Thursday afternoon 🍃

29/07/2025

Slide #5 - did I make up a word or is that a thing? 😆

"Self-beration".

Discuss: