19/02/2026
Red flags are not just things to watch for in others. They can show up in us too.
Struggling to say no
Making excuses for other people’s behaviour
Avoiding vulnerability
Being highly self critical
Seeking validation from others
Having weak or unclear boundaries.
Noticing these patterns is not about blame or shame. It is about awareness. Awareness gives you choice and choice is where change begins.
If this resonates, be gentle with yourself. These behaviours often started as coping strategies.
With support, reflection and practice, they can shift.
Growth starts when we turn curiosity inward.