Kintsugi Do Soulutions

Kintsugi Do Soulutions Non-binary/trans queer therapist/ transformational coach providing an integrated approach

I am a gender non binary/transgender therapist and transformational coach providing an integrated approach to helping my clients with the skills of humaning. I'm predominately female consciousness existing in a physical male body having after many years in my own process settled, so far, on a decision that surgical and hormonal intervention is not my path. I have over 3 decades experience in the field of personal development, training and well being. I am a qualified clinical hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner, EFT practitioner, Reiki healer, meditation teacher and martial arts instructor. My mission is to be of service and assistance to all individuals in their journey towards greater wholeness, acceptance and integration of all aspects of themselves. This includes the resolving of the struggle between the masculine and feminine that continues in so many of us. In particular, through the access point of Integrated Life Solutions I am seeking to bring my extensive skills and knowledge to those individuals and groups who do not fit into the heteronormative model of being a person, into the imposed gender binaries. I know from my own journey the challenge of finding help in my process from therapists, coaches etc free from subconsciously held societal prejudices. Subtle and non conscious as these may be, they are none the less often felt powerfully by those of us who have honed our sensitivity to such things throughout our lives to keep ourselves safe. I am not presenting myself as a specialist in LGBTQ specific issues, but as a resource to our community as a member of that community, a resource with whom you can feel comfortable and celebrated as yourself while we work on whatever aspect of your personal change and growth you bring.

10/01/2026

I wrote this last year, just changed the date to repost it.
My invocation/prayer out into the world for 2026 and beyond.
What I wish for all of you for 2026
I would love for you to be fully restored to well being in every aspect of your being,
to be at peace with all the ways in which you are an exotic thing that doesn't fit into the square holes provided,
to be thriving in all areas of your life,
to feel that you are singing your true song into the world and delighting in the joy of it.
Katie 💖

10/01/2026
"Marinated in trauma" is a description that I also arrived at. Growing up in a family, community, society where it is da...
10/01/2026

"Marinated in trauma" is a description that I also arrived at.
Growing up in a family, community, society where it is dangerous to be your authentic self, where there is existential danger in being seen for who you really are is a marinating in fear, insecurity and the internalisation of rejection and judgement
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSwEy41EcTG/?igsh=eGsxZmR1cmt3cjcx

https://www.facebook.com/61579008235449/posts/122140510970966941/?app=fbl
29/12/2025

https://www.facebook.com/61579008235449/posts/122140510970966941/?app=fbl

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝗯𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗠𝗶𝗻𝗱
𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗹 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗚𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗻𝘀 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗕𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗧𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗔𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗹 𝗘𝗿𝗿𝗼𝗿

The most common mistake people make about the subconscious mind is not underestimating it, but misunderstanding what kind of thing it is. The subconscious is not a container, a shadow realm, or an emotional archive. It is a regulatory system.

When the subconscious is treated like storage, people attempt to change it by adding content: insight, affirmations, reframes, intention. When these approaches fail, the failure is attributed to belief, effort, or discipline. The error lies elsewhere.

You do not change a governing system by speaking to it. You change it by altering its structure. The subconscious is not disorder beneath consciousness. It is the order consciousness obeys.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝗯𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗮𝘀 𝗚𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗟𝗮𝘄

The subconscious operates as a system of pre-conscious constraints. These constraints determine what enters awareness, what is filtered out, and what is executed automatically. They decide which perceptions matter, which emotions activate first, and which actions feel available or forbidden.

By the time conscious thought begins, selection has already occurred. This is why reactions feel justified before reflection, decisions feel obvious without analysis, and reasoning often arrives after the fact. The subconscious does not ask whether something is true. It asks whether it coheres with the existing structure.

“𝘜𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴, 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘥𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘪𝘵 𝘧𝘢𝘵𝘦.” - 𝘊𝘢𝘳𝘭 𝘑𝘶𝘯𝘨

𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗜𝘀 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗗𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗿

This distinction must be precise. Consciousness is not the driver of behaviour. It is the narrator of behaviour.

Most people believe they act, then feel, then think. In reality, structure selects first, emotion mobilises second, and thought explains last. This does not eliminate agency, but it explains why agency is so often misdirected.

When consciousness is mistaken for the source of control, effort is applied at the wrong level. People attempt to reason their way out of systems that do not respond to reasoning. No amount of insight alters a rule that remains structurally intact.

𝗪𝗵𝘆 𝗜𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗱𝘂𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗡𝗼 𝗠𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁

Insight fails not because it is false, but because it is incomplete. Insight operates symbolically and linguistically, while the subconscious operates procedurally and somatically. These layers do not automatically translate.

Understanding a pattern does not deactivate it. Naming a mechanism does not dismantle it. Seeing a loop does not break it. Insight without structural change produces awareness without movement, which is why highly intelligent individuals often feel trapped inside clarity.

“𝘖𝘯𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘪𝘨𝘶𝘳𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘣𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘬𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴.” - 𝘊𝘢𝘳𝘭 𝘑𝘶𝘯𝘨

Making the darkness conscious does not mean explaining it. It means bringing it under form.

𝗔𝗿𝗰𝗵𝗶𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗗𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗰𝗲

The subconscious is best understood as architecture. Architecture determines what can carry load, how force moves, and what accumulates over time versus what dissipates. When structure is absent, energy leaks. Motivation fails to hold. Discipline collapses under pressure. Emotion overwhelms direction, and desire fragments instead of consolidating.

This is why serious traditions of transformation converge on the same technologies: ritual, repetition, symbolic form, and initiation. These are not aesthetic expressions or spiritual theatre. They are structural instruments that create pathways where none existed before, allowing force to accumulate instead of disperse.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜𝘀 𝗠𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗯𝘆 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲

This does not mean the subconscious does not store information. It does. Memories, associations, emotional imprints, learned responses, and symbolic material are all retained within it.

But storage is not its defining function. Storage is subordinate to structure.

What governs behaviour is not what is stored, but how the system organises, prioritises, weights, and routes what it has stored. Two people can carry the same memory and live entirely different lives because the architecture interpreting that memory is different.

The subconscious is therefore not best understood as a warehouse of content, but as a governing system that contains memory. Its primary role is regulation, not recollection.

When this article speaks about structure, it does not mean discipline, belief, or mindset. It refers to the organisation of the system that determines how force is routed before conscious choice appears.

Structure decides which thoughts activate easily, which emotions escalate quickly, and which behaviours feel natural or impossible. It is not content. It is arrangement.

As in programming, identical data behaves differently depending on whether it is organised as a list, a tree, or a network. The content may be the same, but structure determines priority, access, and outcome. The mind functions in the same way.

The subconscious is not a storage space of thoughts. It is a network of weighted pathways. Some routes are reinforced and automatic. Others are weak or inaccessible. When a situation arises, the system does not deliberate. It routes energy along the strongest existing paths.

To change behaviour without changing structure is to rewrite surface logic while leaving underlying architecture untouched. The system may appear to change briefly, but it will always revert under pressure.

Structure is not what you consciously decide. It is what the system defaults to when you are tired, emotional, threatened, or unprepared.

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗲𝘀 𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝗜𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗱

Structures are installed at moments of heightened permeability. The subconscious opens most readily under emotional intensity, authority or hierarchy, repetition under pressure, and states of vulnerability or belonging.

This is why early experiences carry disproportionate influence, why trauma imprints deeply, why initiation rites exist, and why advertising works. The subconscious does not evaluate truth. It evaluates relevance to survival and coherence.

Once a structure is installed, it ceases to feel imposed. It feels natural, self-evident, and real. At that point, structure is no longer experienced as conditioning. It is experienced as identity.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 𝗼𝗳 𝗪𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿

Willpower is not a solution. It is a temporary override.

It is conscious effort attempting to resist a deeper system, and that resistance is metabolically expensive and structurally unstable. It fails not because the individual lacks strength, but because the system being opposed is designed to preserve coherence and conserve energy.

The subconscious is not persuaded by effort. It responds only to new rules demonstrated through form and consequence. This is why forced change produces relapse. The underlying structure remains intact.

“𝘏𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘶𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘧𝘭𝘺-𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘺, 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘵.” - 𝘞𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘢𝘮 𝘑𝘢𝘮𝘦𝘴

𝗥𝗲𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗜𝘀 𝗔𝗿𝗰𝗵𝗶𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗹, 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹

The subconscious does not change because it is convinced. It changes because new pathways are installed and reinforced.

This occurs through symbol that carries meaning without explanation, ritual that trains repetition without reliance on motivation, language that encodes authority and boundary, and behaviour that proves a new rule through lived consequence. Emotion may accompany this process, but it is not the driver.

Reprogramming is not catharsis. It is replacement.

𝗦𝘆𝗺𝗯𝗼𝗹𝗶𝗰 𝗦𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺𝘀 𝗮𝘀 𝗖𝗼𝗴𝗻𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗧𝗲𝗰𝗵𝗻𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝘆

Myths, stories, archetypes, and symbolic systems are not relics of a pre-scientific worldview. They are tools designed for a layer of the mind that does not respond to instruction or analysis.

The subconscious does not think in definitions. It thinks in images, roles, tensions, and movement. Symbolic systems speak its native language.

Archetypes function as stable patterns of perception and action. They provide pre-structured lenses through which experience can be organised. When an archetype is encountered, the subconscious does not ask whether it is literal. It recognises the pattern and activates the associated pathways.

This is why figures such as gods, angels, demons, heroes, and tricksters appear across cultures. They are not objects of belief. They are personified forces, each representing a mode of perception, a behavioural strategy, or a recurring psychological dynamic.

Symbolic systems such as the Tarot or the Runes function as symbolic grammars. They do not predict the future or impose meaning. They generate perspective, allowing the mind to interpret the same problem from multiple angles simultaneously.

This has two effects. First, repeated engagement with symbolic forms reshapes the subconscious by installing alternative interpretive pathways. The mind becomes less rigid and gains additional routes for meaning and response. Over time, this alters what feels possible, relevant, or inevitable.

Second, symbolic systems expand problem-solving capacity. They train the mind to perceive patterns rather than isolated events, relationships rather than fragments, and dynamics rather than static facts. They allow the subconscious to model situations in ways linear reasoning cannot.

In this sense, myth and symbol are not escapism. They are compression technologies that condense complex realities into forms the subconscious can process, store, and deploy under pressure.

Used consciously, they do not replace rational thought. They stabilise and enrich it by restructuring the layer beneath it.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗹 𝗡𝗲𝗴𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁

An unstructured subconscious defaults to preservation mode. Comfort is prioritised. Familiar pain is preferred over unfamiliar growth. Energy is conserved at the expense of meaning.

The result is a life characterised by cyclical motivation, repeated insight without change, chronic self-doubt, and internal division. This condition is often mislabelled laziness or fear. It is neither.

It is architectural absence.

𝗜𝗻𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝘀 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗹 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗳𝗲𝗿

Initiation is not symbolic theatre. It is the deliberate transfer of governance.

At initiation, responsibility moves from inherited structure to conscious construction. You stop asking how to fix yourself and begin asking what structure you are living inside. You stop negotiating with symptoms and begin redesigning the system that produces them.

The subconscious does not resist this shift. It welcomes order. It will serve whatever architecture you provide with absolute loyalty.

And if you provide none, it will preserve the past perfectly, indefinitely, and without malice.

𝗪𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗯𝘆 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗹𝗮𝗺𝗲 🔥
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