16/02/2026
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How often do we do exactly this in our lives?
Someone hurts us, betrays us, abandons us, disrespects us — and instead of tending to the wound, we chase the person.
We want answers.
Closure.
Apologies.
Recognition.
Validation that we were right and they were wrong.
But while we chase… the poison spreads.
Rumination deepens pain.
Replaying the moment reopens the wound.
Seeking explanations from someone who harmed you keeps you tied to the harm.
The mind believes healing will come from understanding why.
But often, there is no answer that will soothe the heart.
Because the injury was not logical.
It was human.
Buddhist wisdom is practical:
When you are poisoned, treat the poison first.
Your peace does not depend on their explanation.
Your closure does not depend on their apology.
Your healing does not depend on their awareness.
It depends on your turning inward with compassion.
Sometimes people hurt because they are unconscious.
Sometimes because they are afraid.
Sometimes because they lack the capacity you hoped they had.
Sometimes for no clear reason at all.
Chasing the snake keeps you in the field of danger.
Healing moves you out of it.
So instead of asking:
“Why did they do this to me?”
Ask:
“What does my heart need now?”
“What boundary protects me?”
“What lesson frees me?”
“What care heals me?”
This is not denial.
It is wisdom.
You are not excusing the bite.
You are refusing to keep the venom alive inside you.
Some wounds close without answers.
Some peace arrives without justice.
Some freedom comes without apology.
The Buddha’s teaching is simple and fierce:
Do not spend your life chasing snakes.
Remove the poison.
Tend the wound.
Walk away whole.
