MZ Therapeutic Life Coach For Women

26/11/2025

Examples of Reacting vs Responding

Partner ignores you:
Reacting: “You never listen!”
Responding: “It really hurts my feelings when you ignore me like this, Can we talk about it calmly?”

Kids pushing your buttons
Reacting: Screaming at them.
Responding: Take a moment….”I need a pause right now, let’s take a breath together.”
This models emotional regulation too.. not easy tho! I see you 🤣

Message or email makes your blood boil:
Reacting: Quick, angry reply.
Responding: Step away, take a breath, reply when you’re calmer.

Interrupted mid-task:
Reacting: “Can you not? I’m busy!”
Responding: “Give me a minute to finish, then I’m all yours.”

Asked for help when drained:
Reacting: Saying yes anyway.
Responding: “I can’t today, but thank you for asking.”
Remember NO is a full sentence !

Plans change last minute:
Reacting: “This ruins everything!”
Responding: “Not ideal… okay, how can we make this work?”

26/11/2025

For years, I thought my reactions were just “who I was.”
Quick to snap when I was overwhelmed.
Defensive when I felt unheard.
Bristly when the house was loud or life felt too much.

But the truth was…
I wasn’t a “reactive person.”
I was a woman whose nervous system was tired, stretched, and running in survival mode.

And once I learned how to pause, even for two seconds everything shifted.

I stopped arguing from that hot, activated place.
I stopped snapping at the people I loved.
I stopped carrying guilt after every outburst.

Because responding is different.
Responding is slower.
It’s intentional.
It’s you coming back into your body before you speak.

It’s the deep breath before the words.
The hand over your heart.
The quiet moment where you ask yourself,
“What do I actually need right now?”

And that tiny pause?
It softened conversations that used to be hotheaded.
It brought more peace into my home.
It helped me show up as the woman I wanted to be, not the one my stress was pushing me into.

If you’re in a season where your reactions feel louder than your truth…
start with the pause.
Start with the breath.
Start with the softest response you can manage in that moment.

Your relationships including the one you have with yourself will feel the difference.

Lots of love
Mandy x

25/11/2025

3 things I do as a life coach to stop me losing my s**t (because yes, I’m human too)

When life feels a bit… much, these are my go-to resets:

1️⃣ I pause and notice what I’m feeling.
Instead of spiralling, I check in. “What’s actually going on in me right now?” Awareness always softens the edges.

2️⃣ I use my breath to bring myself back down.
A slow inhale for 4… a longer exhale for 6… sometimes with a soft hum to melt tension in my chest and jaw. It’s simple, grounding magic.

3️⃣ I place my hand over my heart and remind myself I’m safe.
A quiet moment of connection: “My body is a safe place to be.”
It brings me back into myself every time.

A little messy, a little mindful, always moving forward and that’s what I want for the women I support too.

Like and follow for nervous system regulation tips 💛

24/11/2025

Christmas can feel loud when your heart feels tender.

If you’re grieving this year, these five gentle ideas are here to help you move through the season with a little more ease, softness, and self-compassion.

You don’t have to force a smile, pretend you’re OK, or push yourself into spaces that drain you.

This Christmas gets to look different. It gets to be quieter, slower, and shaped around what you need.

Honour your energy.
Create small rituals that bring comfort.
Lean on someone you trust.
Leave early if you need to.
Lower the expectations and let the pressure fall away.

Grief changes the way we move through life and that includes the holidays.

Take it moment by moment. You’re doing the best you can. 🤍

If this helped you, share it with another woman who might need the reminder today.

28/10/2025

You’re not broken, your nervous system might just be overwhelmed. 💗

So many women I work with think they’re “too emotional,” “too sensitive,” or “just bad at coping.”

But what’s really happening is that their nervous system has been stuck in survival mode for too long.

A dysregulated nervous system doesn’t always look dramatic.

It can show up as:
✨ Overthinking everything.
✨ Feeling tired but unable to switch off.
✨ Snapping at loved ones, then feeling guilty.
✨ Saying yes when you mean no.
✨ Struggling to rest, even when you finally have time.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not failing.
Your body’s just been doing its best to keep you safe.
And the good news? You can gently teach it how to feel calm again.

Save this post if something resonated, and follow for gentle tools to help your body regulate and return to calm 🌿

21/07/2025

The Kindness Method by Sharoo Izadi

This was an easy first choice.. I bloody love this book. It’s one I go back to whenever I’m having a wobble…. And we all have wobbles!

Here’s why I love it..

The Kindness Method is a gentle, empowering guide to creating change through self-compassion.

Shahroo Izadi shows how being kind to yourself rather than harsh or critical can lead to real, lasting transformation.

She helps you understand the conversations you continually have with yourself and how they shape your habits.

She guides you through using mind maps to get clear on your thoughts, triggers, and motivations, so change feels achievable and kind.

How when things don’t go to plan, how you talk to yourself can be the difference between f**ck it or, that’s ok it’s just a blip, let’s get back on track. Game changer.

Practical, relatable, and perfect for anyone ready to break unhelpful patterns and build a more positive relationship with themselves ❤️❤️❤️

Yes there’s work to be done… but here’s the thing, all self help books require some work and this is often where we go wrong.,, we read them, but don’t actually put into practice what they are asking.

After reading this you will..

The Kindness Method

25/03/2025

It’s amazing to think that I have spent my entire career guiding women through personal and professional transformation. But I know first-hand how it feels to be stuck, knowing you want more but not quite sure how to get there.

My Story:
My journey started in 1988 as a holistic therapist, where I fell in love with the power of healing touch. Over the years, my passion evolved into teaching and mentoring, helping women step into fulfilling careers in holistic therapy.

In 2023, I found myself at a crossroads—successful on the outside, yet feeling a deep pull toward something more. That’s when I discovered Therapeutic Coaching, and it changed everything. It helped me release old patterns, reconnect with myself, and move forward with clarity and confidence.

Now, I help women like you do the same. Whether you’re feeling stuck after a major life change or simply struggling to move past limiting beliefs, I’m here to walk this journey with you.

Mandy 💕

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06/09/2023

You’ll find me here…. ❤️

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A quick search will bring up all therapists in the fields chosen that are FHT members.

Search here: www.fht.org.uk/findatherapist

08/08/2023

Trust the process…❤️

So true ⬇️