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It's a time to talk about something difficult and make sense of things in your life. In our day to day life, we can usually find ways of dealing with problems.

Welcome to my Private Practice

If you are considering how therapy can support you through challenging life events, I am here to help you by providing a safe and confidential space in which you can begin to explore what may feel impossible to resolve by yourself; without fear of being judged and experience, perhaps for the first time, a real feeling of being heard. However, sometimes it is hard to talk to people who know us so well, and, in that moment, you need that one person who takes the time to listen and focus on you. Whatever makes you take the next step in contacting me, my purpose is to wholeheartedly welcome you to a place where you can feel at ease and start to make sense of your feelings, thoughts and emotions. I look forward to hearing from you.

29/11/2021

This man died yesterday at a relatively young age - but how he lived, loved and achieved is a testimony to what a human being can accomplish if self belief and the right attitude is allowed to flourish. We all have choices. Taking the easy option tends to guarantee a lack of self fulfilment. We have one great life and a choice of how to spend it. Know what you are capable of. Surprise yourself at what you can do rather than regret it when it’s too late.

31/10/2021

Feels appropriate for this time of year. We ALL have mental health. When it gets tough it’s important we can seek help without feeling shut down. Talking helps. Talking always helps.

20/10/2021

For those that need this right now feeling any kind of loss of life, love or identity that has left them bereft.

Bereavement is incredibly tough. I’ve trained extensively in providing support to those experiencing bereavement. I have hundreds of client hours under my belt. I know all the grief models, I get it.

Sharing this now as the recent bereavement of my Father has rocked my world and made me question how I’m meant to feel personally. So many people have told me I will be ok and swiftly moved on to talk about what’s going on for them. Or just avoided asking at all. There have been those who have stated that I’m lucky I can cope, as I’m a therapist. Utter bo****ks.

Grief is not straightforward, it’s painful, dark, immensely sad and shocking. It’s also reflective with happy memories that can bring a smile that starts to curl on my face, only to be stopped at the thought of ever being happy again without the man that I have known all my life and now he’s gone.

So my professional side knows I will be ok. Just don’t tell me right now or assume I’m over it. I’m not. I don’t want to be. I will talk about it as and when I need to. My recovery from grief is never going to match anyone’s opinion of where they think I should be right now, simply because they can’t know what it means to me. Equally, my training can support those in grief, but I can never know exactly how my client feels, as we are all uniquely different.

I miss my Dad. I will love him forever. My grief, my way and in my own time. I’m just not ok right now, but I will be. I’m getting on with life and living with my grief.

I give myself permission to feel what I need to feel right now. If you are struggling, I hope you do too. Talking helps. It always helps.

15/07/2021

We tend to trust what goes on in our brains. If you can’t trust your own brain, what on earth can you trust? Usually this is a good thing - our brain is wired to alert us to threats, attract us to potential mates, or find answers to problems we face on a daily basis. However, there are times when you may want to second guess what your brain is telling you. It’s not that your brain is purposely lying to you, it’s just that it may have developed some faulty or non-helpful connections over time.

It can be astonishingly easy to create faulty connections in the brain. Our brains are inclined to making connections between thoughts, ideas, actions, and consequences, whether they are truly connected or not. The tendency to make connections where there is no true relationship results in a problem when it comes to assessing what we see or hear. We assume that because two variables are associated, one causes or leads to the other.

It is all too easy to view a coincidence or a complex relationship and make false or overly simplistic assumptions - just as it is simple to connect two events or thoughts that occur around the same time when there are no real ties between them.

When we make this mistake with the context of our thoughts and beliefs, this is known as “cognitive distortions.”

So my glass of beer for breakfast isn’t what it seems. Anyone for spinach, carrot, ginger, cucumber and apple? Delicious. What you see isn’t always the truth.

13/07/2021

Just this. Life is tough enough. Accepting yourself as the person you feel comfortable being is one of the biggest lessons we can learn in life. Get comfortable in your skin. No one has the right to demand you change. That’s their stuff to sort out.

12/07/2021

Great book - but that statement is a lie. Simply no one can ‘make’ us unhappy. We have choices. We can control how we interpret, decipher and figure out situations where others are involved. What’s missing when we feel as though certain people have control over us to make us unhappy is a lack of confidence in our self-belief and self-worth.

How do we change our mindset? Try working on the ‘stuff’ that makes us doubt what we are capable of, what we can achieve if we just believe in ourselves, remove ‘stuff’ given to us by others who also have an equal lack of confidence as they don’t recognise that their cruel words come from a place where they are personally unhappy.

It’s as simple as that. I just wish it could be for everyone that feels their unhappiness is caused by others. It isn’t - it never is. Our confidence just needs boosting and maintaining. Talking helps. Talking always helps.

07/07/2021

Feels like this kind of day. Apologies for those offended. Those that know me properly, know I don’t use this profanity, but today, it’s the one that works for me and it may well work for you. Actually, I’m not apologising. It works.

Sometimes we forget to really live life. Struggling with the difficulties in life can become overwhelming. On those days, talk to someone, share it, process it and acknowledge that difficult day and then try to move on to living and loving this life that we’ve been given.

Some difficulties are overwhelming, I’m never going to trivialise anything a client shares with me in sessions. Know that you are heard, never judged, that you are safe and appreciated.

We all have choices to grab happiness – even if it feels fleeting. At times of despair, fleeting happiness could be just the boost we need.

On good and great days, make that one precious life you have mean something amazing. Do something every day that slightly scares you. Take that step out of your comfort zone that prevents you from loving your one brilliant and amazing life. Make those memories. Connect, engage and feel good. Appreciate every breath you take. Don’t assume old age is a given – it’s not, it’s a gift.

As says, don’t waste that s**t. It’s precious.

05/07/2021

When you have that feeling of everything is alright with the world, check out your surroundings. Maybe you’ve just received that message, phone call or card through the post. Or perhaps it’s sitting with that special person or group of people that you trust – where you feel safe and included. That these people are really looking out for our welfare. Go back to that feeling – that’s confirmation you’ve experienced Oxytocin being released. That’s just the best feeling.

Oxytocin (also known as the ‘Love Hormone’) levels fluctuate in relation to our perception and processing of social information. Whether we are in the ‘in group’ or ‘out group’ - whether we feel safe or threated. It releases naturally when we trust someone, it enables us to feel responsibility to others and facilitates social bonding.

Be aware that too much and we may be overly dependent on relationships and lack the ability to make independent decisions. We may also want our group to be restricted or elite. Too little, and we may feel isolated and lost. Not just personally, but professionally too.

You live on your own, experiencing yet more isolation due to the pandemic. No chance to connect physically? It can still be achieved – Vitamin D (through sunshine – open a window!), Music (turn up the volume, sing, dance!), do what you love, keep yourself safe and feel that love hormone right there in the room with you. Equally, connect with someone you think will benefit too. Paying it forward is as good as receiving. Guaranteed.

20/05/2021

Well that’s all good in hindsight. Great for someone else to chip in with that golden nugget at a time of emotional turmoil. Alright for them.
When we are in the middle of a life where we’re not happy, can’t move forward, impossible to go backwards, we get stuck.
This was meant to be what we dreamed of, but it turned out to be a bit of a turkey. Maybe if we try a little bit harder, it will work out ok. Maybe not.
Racing thoughts of fear and anxiety raging through your mind.
Feeling isolated from those around you, not wanting to burden them or risk judgment about your perceived failure, feeling insecure and hurt.
And self-help books are definitely not helpful.
Shifting deep-rooted feelings, especially if they are making us so unhappy can be achieved with the support and safe space that therapy provides.
Talking helps by working on core beliefs, assumptions and processing the feelings attached to the experiences that formed them.
How about help to retrain a way of thinking into a more positive perspective of you, including self-compassion and understanding. That’s priceless.

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+447738085876

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http://www.mariamarchanttherapy.com/

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