08/02/2026
Am I being abused? This is the most visited section on the website for the Lincolnshire Domestic Abuse Specialist Service (LDASS). This is explained in our latest podcast special where our local experts discuss the subtlety of coercive control and the tactics used by a perpetrator that mean a victim will not necessarily see themselves as such. It’s estimated that 35-38 incidents of domestic abuse will happen before a victim reports to the police.
From Ann at LDASS, and Detective Superintendent Rachael Cox, we hear about the warning signs for abuse like ‘love bombing,’ and the fact that a ‘perpetrator’s mask’ can stay on for a very long time. We hear about the red flags, like feeling you are losing your freedom, and how these will be interchanged with actions and behaviour from a perpetrator that give you false hope. These are the mind games that perpetrators use to keep you where they want you.
We also hear how it’s not so simple to ‘just leave’ – there may be a thousand different reasons that make this difficult for a victim. But, there is help and there is support.
Listen to our domestic abuse podcast special now on Amazon, Spotify and Apple. Links in comments.