01/04/2026
Having a solid network of people we trust to insulate, reinforce and comfort us as we journey along our healing pathways is such a bonus, but unfortunately isn’t always available.
For those emerging from a toxic family of origin, there is often a deficit of dependable people in their world, as the patterns, cycles and ways of being demonstrated and indeed inherited from caregivers, often set inner resources, nervous system regulation, attachment style and trauma status against them for life, until such a time they feel ready to unravel this inner jungle within therapy.
One of the goals of which being to work through aspects preventing them from attracting and acquiring their people, helping them to find them within their wisdom and not their wounds, as whichever basis these bonds have sprung from, whether from a self valuing or toxic place, will have an uncanny way of perpetuating the same within that relationship.
This is why people sometimes find that friendships and relationships naturally peel away on this journey, as these bonds no longer fit them and no longer serve the person they are becoming, having been created when they had no relationship with themselves, meaning boundaries were breached and inner wounds were opened to accommodate a bond built upon co-dependency and not interdependence.
People pleasing behaviours begin to melt away once self valuing is established, a whole self shift in perspective transpires, as they are now free from the shackles of guilt, shame and blame that had kept them locked within unhealthy cycles.
This journey building relationship with self and others, has intrinsically been informed, whilst safely nestled within our own therapeutic one.
It’s this wholesome container to our work that is the catalyst for much positive change, as we are actively exploring what’s happening between us and being so honest about our experiencing of the other within our bond, that it in and of itself becomes the springboard into which every other relationship is entered into.
