Shoshen Holistic Healing

08/11/2025

Before healing, I called anxiety love.
After healing, I call peace love.

When you stop chasing chaos, you realise calm isn’t boring…..it’s safe.
And safety is where real love grows.

21/10/2025

Not long now for our regular wellbeing evening in Stanley, as always I will be here doing reflexology and this time joining me is the wonderful purnauk.com with their amazing sugar free, individually wrapped gummies.

Always a brilliant night with lots on offer.

Come long and treat yourself to some relaxation and grab a bargain or two.

18/10/2025

18/09/2025

✨ Gummy spotlight ✨

🍒 Let It Go
With Cranberry and D**g Quai, this one is designed to support balance and women’s health. Cranberry helps with urinary tract health, while D**g Quai (often called “female ginseng”) has been traditionally used for hormonal balance and is especially supportive during menopause. A little daily helper for flow, balance and feeling more in tune with your body.

🖤 Black Seed (Black Eyed Peas)
Packed with Black Cumin Seed (Nigella Sativa), these gummies are a powerhouse of benefits. They’re known for immune support, reducing inflammation, aiding digestion, supporting healthy skin, and even helping heart health with cholesterol and blood pressure.

Both are sugar free, gluten free and made with clean ingredients. Just one a day and you’re sorted 💕

Not an ad, just me loving my growing gummy collection

https://purnauk.com/product/menopause-cranberry-flavour/

https://purnauk.com/product/black-seed-gummy/

16/08/2025

✨ Day 4: Overcommitting & Burning Out

💭 Showed Up As:
Saying yes to everything. Overloading my plate. Taking on more than I could handle, then resenting it later.

🔍 Where It Came From:
When you grow up feeling like you have to earn your place, rest feels unsafe. I thought my value came from what I could do for people, not who I was. If I wasn’t endlessly useful, I feared I’d be replaced.

🌱 How I’ve Been Unlearning It:
Checking in before I agree to anything: Do I actually have the energy for this? Am I saying yes from joy, or from fear of disappointing someone? Reminding myself that boundaries aren’t selfish, they’re self-respect.

💡 What I Know Now:
I don’t have to exhaust myself to be worthy. People who love me will still love me when I’m rested.

Love,
Gaynor x 💛

15/08/2025

✨ Day 3: Picking Fights When Things Feel Too Good

💭 Showed Up As:
Nitpicking tiny things. Reading between the lines when there’s nothing there. Starting pointless arguments because calm felt… suspicious.

🔍 Where It Came From:
When your nervous system has been trained on chaos, peace feels like a threat. My brain learned early on that love could switch off without warning, so I’d test it. Push. Prod. See if they’d still stay when I made things messy. It was protection disguised as drama.

🌱 How I’ve Been Unlearning It:
Pausing before reacting to the “urge.” Asking myself, is this about now, or is this my past speaking? Learning to let safety feel safe, not boring or dangerous. Communicating when I’m feeling anxious instead of creating a storm to match it.

💡 What I Know Now:
Not every calm season needs to be interrupted. Some things really are as good as they seem, it’s my job to let them be.

Love,
Gaynor x 💛

15/08/2025

Last gym session before I climb my first wainwright on Monday 💪🏻
Now time to rest these little legs of mine

13/08/2025

✨ Day 2: Overcommitting Until I Burn Out

💭 Showed Up As:
Saying yes to everything, work, favours, events, emotional support, until I was running on fumes. Then cancelling, disappearing, or resenting everyone because I had nothing left to give.

🔍 Where It Came From:
As a kid, I felt like I had to prove my worth by being useful, helpful, or “on” all the time. ADHD made me swing between hyperfocus (saying yes because I felt unstoppable) and complete shutdown (when I realised I was drowning). Add anxious attachment into the mix, and I was terrified that saying no would mean losing people.

🌱 How I’ve Been Unlearning It:
Pausing before I agree to anything. Asking myself, “Do I want to do this, or do I feel like I should?” Practising the awkward, uncomfortable “No, I can’t” without over-explaining. Learning that my value isn’t in how much I do for others, it’s in who I am when I’m rested, regulated, and present.

💡 What I Know Now:
Burning myself out doesn’t make me more loveable, it makes me disappear from my own life. Boundaries aren’t walls, they’re doorways that let the right things in without draining me dry.

Love,
Gaynor x 💛