28/10/2025
October- ADHD Awareness month. ADHD in adult women tends to show up most vividly in real-world roles like family life, relationships, and work. How ADHD can manifest?
👧 In Family and Home Life
Adult women with ADHD often describe feeling like they’re “always behind” or “never caught up.”
Common challenges
* Disorganisation at home: Clutter, unfinished chores, lost items, forgotten appointments.
* Time blindness: Underestimating how long things take; running late for school drop-offs, meals, or errands.
* Overwhelm with daily routines: Managing multiple moving parts (kids, meals, laundry, finances) can feel impossible to juggle.
* Inconsistent routines: Difficulty sticking to meal plans, cleaning schedules, or bedtime routines.
* Emotional exhaustion: Feeling guilty or ashamed for not being the “organized mom/partner.”
Emotional impact
* Feeling like “everyone else can manage” when she can’t.
* Masking difficulties by overcompensating- working longer, skipping rest, or micromanaging details.
* High risk of burnout, especially for mothers juggling home, caregiving, and work.
💓 In Romantic and Social Relationships
Common patterns
* Forgetfulness or distraction can look like not caring — missing birthdays, zoning out in conversations, or forgetting promises.
* Emotional intensity: Big reactions, rapid mood changes, or feeling hurt easily (often linked to rejection sensitivity dysphoria).
* Impulsivity: Blurting things out, interrupting, or making big decisions in the moment (moving, quitting jobs, etc.).
* Difficulty managing conflict: Arguments can escalate quickly due to impulsive responses or difficulty regulating emotions.
* Uneven division of chores: Partners may perceive her as “unreliable” or “disorganised,” leading to tension.
But also...
* ADHD women can be highly empathetic, spontaneous, and creative in relationships.
* They often bring energy, humor, and warmth, but need partners who understand ADHD is neurological, not laziness or carelessness.
As a NT I utilise neurotransmitters and DNA 🧬 tests, which offer insights into how person’s body processes nutrients and help personalise symptoms management strategies.