Heart In Mind

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Therapy and Coaching
ADHD / Autism / Sensory / Nervous System / Trauma
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There can be something deeply destabilising about being told directly or indirectly that a system knows your child bet...
13/02/2026

There can be something deeply destabilising about being told directly or indirectly that a system knows your child better than you do. I have experienced this multiple times and it shakes you up. Questioning your parenting, questioning your values, leaves you questioning yourself.

Policies
Attendance targets
Behaviour frameworks
Uniform rules

They are designed at scale, a scale that says everyone should be the same

But your child is not a scale
They are a nervous system
A temperament
A history
A set of sensory needs
A human being who unfolds in relationship

You are the one who sees the subtle shifts
You notice when their shoulders tighten
You know the difference between “won’t” and “can’t”
You feel the change in their energy long before a report does

You are the one who is intune with their nervous system, you are the one that knows your child best

Systems are not evil
But they are not intimate

And intimacy is what children regulate through

If you are advocating
If you are questioning
If you are slowing things down
If you are choosing safety over compliance

Then you are attuned to your child and you are not being difficult

Trust the relationship
Trust what you see
Trust what your body tells you when something doesn’t sit right

You know your child in ways no policy ever will



Here is my ChatGPT caricature. Pretty spot on I would say ☀️
08/02/2026

Here is my ChatGPT caricature. Pretty spot on I would say ☀️

I am not against educationWe are diagnosing childrenfor reacting to environments that would dysregulate most adultsWe la...
08/02/2026

I am not against education

We are diagnosing children
for reacting to environments that would
dysregulate most adults

We label them:

Oppositional
Emotionally dysregulated
School refusers
Anxious
Defiant

But what if their nervous system is doing
exactly what it is designed to do in the
face of chronic stress?

Bright lights
Constant noise
No autonomy
Restricted movement
Restricted toilet breaks
Punishment for basic body needs
Pressure to perform
Minimal Safety

And we call the child the problem

When a young person shuts down,
explodes, refuses, withdraws,
this is not pathology

This is a nervous system in protection

We can not keep asking children to
tolerate what dysregulated them and then
punish them for not coping.

If we want different outcomes, we need
different environments

Stop pathologising survival responses

Start examining the systems



When paths meet, something new begins 🌿Gently flowing, naturally aligned.More to unfold 🤍 ...
06/02/2026

When paths meet, something new begins 🌿
Gently flowing, naturally aligned.

More to unfold 🤍

Over the past months, I’ve been deep in training with Inner You Conscious Connected Breathwork, learning, experiencing...
06/02/2026

Over the past months, I’ve been deep in training with Inner You Conscious Connected Breathwork, learning, experiencing, and slowly integrating this work into my own daily life

What I’ve come to understand is this:

So many of us don’t need to be fixed
We need to feel safe enough to release what our body has been holding

Breathwork is about creating the conditions where the body can soften, process, and let go at its own pace, without talking, without explaining, without analysing.

I’m almost qualified and will be launching conscious connected breathwork sessions this spring.

For now, this is just a gentle sharing.
An opening.
A beginning.

If something in this speaks to you, you’re welcome here 🤍

When a young person leaves a school environment that overwhelmed their nervous system,healing doesn’t look like “bouncin...
04/02/2026

When a young person leaves a school environment that overwhelmed their nervous system,
healing doesn’t look like “bouncing back.”

The body remembers what it had to survive.

What I am seeing in my practice is that recovery often comes with tiredness, withdrawal, emotional sensitivity, or a loss of motivation, this is because their nervous system is finally allowed to rest.

Healing isn’t about pushing a young person back to who they were before things became too much.

We have to allow them space to build something new.
Something safer.
Something sustainable.

✨ Pressure slows healing.
✨ Safety creates capacity.

If you’re supporting a young person in recovery,
this process doesn’t need rushing, it requires connection above anything else.

For parents this is hard, the pressure of school, the authorities and fear for your child, make this an extremely challenging time and it can take years.

Always come back to your heart connection, lean on others to support you so you can support your child.

Time, trust, and understanding matter more than timelines 🤍


Sometimes it can feel like you are starting the week on the back foot, Maybe last week was tough, Maybe you didn’t get t...
02/02/2026

Sometimes it can feel like you are starting the week on the back foot,

Maybe last week was tough,

Maybe you didn’t get the rest you needed at the weekend

Maybe you needed more time to rest and recuperate.

If you feel like you are starting the week already behind,

already measuring yourself against where you “should” be,
already bracing for another push…

pause here for a moment and remind yourself,

You are not failing
You are not lazy
You are not broken

Your nervous system is responding to what it has lived through

Sometimes slowing down isn’t a choice,
it’s a form of protection.

This week doesn’t need your urgency.
It needs your honesty, your care, and your willingness to listen to your body.

Move gently.
There is nothing wrong with you 🤍


School trauma doesn’t always leave when a young person does and I have witnessed this in the families I work with and in...
28/01/2026

School trauma doesn’t always leave when a young person does and I have witnessed this in the families I work with and in my own personal life.

For some, the impact of years spent feeling unsafe, unseen, or overwhelmed doesn’t fade with time, it settles into the body

The nervous system remembers:
the fear,
the pressure,
the constant need to mask or comply,
the feeling of being wrong for how you are

So when a young person struggles long after school ends,
it isn’t laziness, avoidance, or a lack of resilience.

It’s a body that has learned to survive

Healing from school-based trauma often takes time, sometimes years, and it requires something very different from what caused the harm

✨ Safety before expectation
✨ Belief before behaviour
✨ Patience before pressure

When we shift the question from
“Why won’t they cope?”
to
“What happened to them?”

we create the conditions for real recovery

For families, it takes its toll, constantly questioning “did I do the right thing?”, “should I have been tougher?”, “what if this never ends?”, “what if they don’t come out on the other side?” “how do I get my child back?”

It is heartbreaking to witness your child disappear in front of your eyes so it is really important as parents and carers that we have a close network of support around us, people we can go to when it all feels too much.

By receiving the support we need, we can pass that on to our children. They can ‘borrow’ our strength, love and compassion.


Gentleness is often misunderstoodIt doesn’t mean avoiding hard conversationsIt doesn’t mean staying quiet when something...
26/01/2026

Gentleness is often misunderstood

It doesn’t mean avoiding hard conversations
It doesn’t mean staying quiet when something isn’t right
And it doesn’t mean ignoring what your body knows

So many parents and carers hold themselves back
afraid of being seen as “difficult” or “too much,”
when really they are responding to something that doesn’t feel safe for their child

You can be soft and still advocate
You can be calm and still hold firm boundaries
You can lead with care and clarity

Gentleness and strength are not opposites
They are often found together

If you needed this reminder today, you’re not alone 🤍

Before you rush into the weekend…take a second to acknowledge yourselfNot for the big winsNot for what you achievedBut f...
23/01/2026

Before you rush into the weekend…
take a second to acknowledge yourself

Not for the big wins
Not for what you achieved

But for the small, ordinary things that took effort

Maybe this week you:
• got out of bed when it felt heavy
• made a cup of tea and drank it warm
• packed the bag / found the socks / did the school run
• put the bike out
• answered the email you kept avoiding
• cooked something
• held your child through a hard moment
• paused instead of pushing through
• asked for help
• said no
• kept going

There’s so much you do that no one claps for

But your nervous system feels it
And I see it too

So take a breath…
and offer yourself a tiny moment of gratitude

Not because everything is perfect…
but because you’re still here
Still trying
Still showing up

What are 1–2 things you’re grateful for this week?

I managed to body brush when I was feeling really anxious. It helped me sit with my anxiety. I managed to remember to eat breakfast for 2 days this week. Yours?

School attendance isn’t about dragging bodies through the doorIt’s about creating environments that feel safe enough to ...
22/01/2026

School attendance isn’t about dragging bodies through the door

It’s about creating environments that feel safe enough to walk into

We can pour energy into attendance policies, tracking, threats, and consequences…
but if a young person’s nervous system feels unsafe, they cannot access learning

Fear does not create engagement
Fear creates shutdown, collapse, masking, avoidance

And for so many neurodivergent young people, attendance isn’t a motivation issue
it’s a nervous system issue

✨ We cannot punish children into regulation
✨ We cannot consequence children into safety
✨ We cannot measure wellbeing by compliance

Attendance starts with trust
Engagement starts with safety
Inclusion has to be the culture. not a bolt-on

I see this in my work time and time again and I have experienced it in my own family. Recovery can take years!

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