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Focused Hypnotherapy, Stamford (2025)

28/10/2025

Your subconscious is pretty much running the show.

So much of life is run on autopilot, learned and repeated action and information.

When we do anything we’ve done before or when we have a thought we’ve had many times our brain runs a sequence of responses automatically.

We become aware of this when the signal reaches the conscious brain by which time we just accept it as happening without really thinking about where it started or why.

It feels like we have little control over our brains, that they must be doing things intentionally or with a valid reason.

But, if you programmed it to start with, that means you are in control. You can re-program it to the new settings.

Your brain will do what you tell it to do. If you reinforce old behaviour and thoughts it will continue to run them. If you change them it will update them.

Willing yourself to change isn’t enough, you have to do the things you want to change and believe this is the best way.

If you want to be happy you have to do things that make you happy and notice what makes you happy and feel happy about that.

If you want to feel calm you have to create calm. You can’t wait to feel it, you have to actively look for it, notice where it is and then repeat it.

If you want to feel love, you have to create situations where you feel love. You have to spend time here in this connection.

If you want to feel like you belong, you have to look at our similarities not differences, look for the shared desires, see how you can be accepted.

All of this takes effort. It is supposed to, our brains thrive on challenge and effort. It’s literally what we were designed to do. It’s not supposed to just happen we have to make it happen.

So if you are really serious about getting control over your life you have to train your brain and teach it how to do that.

25/10/2025

Chat GPT is not your therapist Boo.

Use it to help plan, to find recipes, but do not take mental health advice from an AI.

If you really want to try self help buy a book by a trained and experienced professional with clear guidance on what you should do.
Even then tread carefully as some things are too big and hard for us to deal with on our own.

Can you cut your own hair? Yes.
Will it look good? I’ll leave that to you to decide.

23/10/2025

F*ck it all I’m done. No seriously, I’m out.

Is something you may hear if you’re walking past my house after a particularly challenging day juggling work, kids, husbands, dogs and peopling.

Am I dramatic - hell yeah. Do I care, F*ck no.

I am a drama queen always have been. I have no filter, my emotions are always fully on display (even when I’m trying really hard to be cool)

We are emotionally attached and emotionally driven (quite literally)

Energy is released from our physical body’s as a way of signaling to others how we feel and what might be happening. Long before we could tell people how we felt we showed them.

Our behaviour, tone, expressions, volume, movements all express our mood.

This is a mixture of personality and learnt behaviours.

We run automatic patterns and it happens before our conscious and intelligent mind has had chance to intervene.

How we handle this is again down to our unique wiring.

Here are just some of the less helpful things you might do after an emotional reaction:

Shutdown - if we don’t feel safe with emotions or know how to express ourselves withdraw our feelings
Shame - beat ourselves up and regret our reaction, disconnect and withdraw
Ruminating - winding ourselves up by replying the situation on a loop
Defensive - feeling a need to protect ourselves from being vulnerable
Reassurance - seeking validation
Fawn - seeking approval, apologising or hiding true feelings

Healthy self esteem allows us to be open and nonjudgmental to our reactions, to see our automatic responses as just that, to accept feedback from those we love without hurt or pain, to apologise for the reaction not the feelings, to identify what needs to happen to resolve the situation, to see our emotions as reactions not who we are, to accept those that know and love us understand who we really are beyond our emotional reactions.

If you would like to explore this I offer free discovery calls to discuss how hypnotherapy can help.

21/10/2025

Has your brain started to process every minor challenge in life the same way it would being chased by a lion?

The more anxious and vigilant your brains threat processing the less chance your conscious brain has to regulate it and tell it to de-prioritise the threat response.

This means even signals to rest and relax can get overridden and less powerful, the parts of your brain that can decide you are physically safe and out of danger is shouting but the message isn’t getting through.

The physical signals of threat keep getting sent from the body to the mind and the mind assess this as anxiety, this is why we can’t stop the loop of negative thoughts flooding our awareness.

So we have to get our body back into safety and then allow our subconscious mind to understand the association between the situation and the feeling of safety.

This is why our thoughts at night are triggered by what we do in the morning and how we feel throughout the day.

The more you can learn to release some of the stress and physical anxiety the better chance your thinking brain has to get involved and regulate yourself. The more you fire this message the better your connection and easier it becomes.

Practice calming your body and your mind will follow.

You can increase this with your imagination using safety as an anchor and grounding to allow your mind to see the situation as over and complete.

Speak to me to find out more about how this works

05/10/2025

Ever wondered what hypnosis actually is? I know I had some very interesting ideas about what it was before I experienced it, I was pleasantly surprised to realise I didn’t have to do anything weird and I could even do it at home in between sessions (what a bonus)

It actually felt like my brain was getting a massage, not literally of course but in the sense that it finally getting some attention and time to daydream but about nice and pleasant things for a change.

There are 3 stages to hypnosis that are used, the induction - to help you start to relax and let go, the deepener - to allow that feeling to continue and become more intense, where your conscious brain starts to do what we want it to, Trance - where the therapist is using your best hopes and desire for change to engage the subconscious part of your mind.

Together this process is only 20-30 mins in a session but it’s so powerful because we know change is better received when we feel safe and relaxed and when it comes from our own mind.

We can create positive future based scenarios where change has already happened and get to experience the benefits but also realise how it became possible for us to achieve.

You feel more confident and optimistic that the change is coming and in fact you leave believing it’s already started. This wires your brain the way you need it to to continue that process as your reticular activating system (fancy word for the bit that filters out what’s not important or meaningful) is now focused on what you want and alerts others regions of your brain to find opportunities to make that real.

The best bit of hypnosis is your mind is primed to see the positive possibilities of your future and because your mind always assumes what we imagine is real it now has a strong memory of the positive outcome to use.

So if you have discounted hypnosis before because you think it’s made up or woo woo, then you are missing a vital tool that promotes positive change.

If you want to see what’s possible then book a consultation with me and we can get your brain back in the game.

30/09/2025

Let me hear you say it you tasty little nugget.

You are a baddie and you need to remind yourself every day that the word is in fact better with you in it.

Be nice to yourself, what you tell yourself has a bigger impact on your life than anything else.

You will never mean girl yourself into enjoying life and feeling good

22/09/2025

Our brains are designed to maintain the status quo, through an assumption that all change is risky because we can’t be sure what the outcome will be.

Even changes that we have decided rationally we would benefit from.

This is because to create something we don’t have, we have to do something we aren’t yet doing, if we aren’t doing it our brain has found a solution that it believes more beneficial somehow.

We are built to repeat what we know as it saves time, energy, effort but most importantly we didn’t die last time we did it.

The new thing is the opposite.

Add to that the fear of getting it wrong, it might just be better to stick with what we know.

However our brains aren’t that clever. So we have to disrupt the status quo if we really do want to create a different future.

I have plenty of tips to help you do that. Follow to find out what they are!

19/09/2025

Say it and believe it Queen!

We all have bad days, don’t tell yourself that everything is a mess and you can’t do this.

It’s probably not really as bad as you think and you can do this.

You’re allowed to let things drop when life gets bumpy, just focus on what you can do that will help to get back on top again.

Get back on that thrown remind yourself why you’re bloody amazing and deserve to treat yourself like you are.

Ask for help, rearrange things that can be rearranged and take a min to recover.

You are stronger than you think and smarter than you give yourself credit for. You will work it out so don’t for one minute doubt that you won’t. ❤️

14/09/2025

There is no quick fix, simple solution, fast rewire when it comes to overthinking.

Overthinking becomes a habit, our brain gets a sense of false control as it tries to problem solve for the perfect plan.

However, it’s trying to get certainty from the future or make sense of the past that isn’t the best use of your time and leaves you feeling more confused, anxious and uncertain.

It also takes us further away from our true feelings and desires and stops us connecting with our intuition and insight.

Finally we become distant and distracted, stuck in our heads, disconnected and missing out on what’s actually happening now.

So the solution:

Create new and better habits.

The same we learned to habitually over think, we can learn to stop.

Habit changes require a new pattern and instruction, we cannot simply stop the thing we don’t what, we have to replace it with something better.

Try my 3 simple steps:
Habit 1: Call It Out
👉 Say “I’m overthinking” when it starts.
Habit 2: Gratitude Reframe
👉 3 small wins → shift your focus.
Habit 3: Single-Tasking
👉 One thing at a time = calm mind.

💡 Small daily habits rewire your brain.
✨ Save this to come back to when thoughts spiral.

12/09/2025

You might feel like a knackered pigeon, but we don’t want to channel that energy.

Instead tell your brain the truth, you are braver than you think and smarter than you realise.

You might not feel ready to get s**t done but that doesn’t matter. Telling yourself you are changes your mental state and you muster up the determination to tackle those important tasks today.

We aren’t doing this to push ourselves and do too much. That won’t help if you are really tired.

We are doing it because our brain will respond to whichever information we channel, so if we speak negatively to ourselves we feel bad, and that feeds the behaviour that we don’t want. It keeps us stuck.

Be nice to yourself today because you actually are a good person and you’re doing just fine 😘

10/09/2025

If you witness yourself telling any of these absolute nonsense lies then you need to correct them straight away.

Lie: I should be able to do this on my own.
Correction: it’s normal to need help, I help other people so why am I any different.

Lie: if I don’t get it right I’m a failure
Correction: here’s another opportunity to learn.

Lie: I have messed up today, I’ll start again tomorrow.
Correction: Well that wasn’t what I planned, let’s start that again.

Lie: There are people much worse off than me.
Correction: I am finding this hard.

These lies do as much use as a single sheet of toilet paper after a vindaloo.
You’re not making a hard situation any better.

So instead why not try something that can actually help and improve the situation.

Kindness, understanding and compassion.

Ready to rewire your thinking organ 🧠 to actually help you live a happier life

09/09/2025

My hand is up 🙋‍♀️

Not saying I’m completely irrational in the depths of hormonal flux, but let’s just say my impulsive, emotional brain has a tendency to run away with itself.

Find people that understand. I am your person.

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