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Live a calmer life, no longer stuck in the past or fearful of the future. Hypnotherapy for anxiety.

17/02/2026

Autistic Masking 💜

Copying others behaviour in an attempt to fit in and be the same.
Problems are not understanding the reason behind the behaviour and therefore not being true to themselves.
Masking is mentally exhausting and isolating.
The emotional overwhelm of trying to be someone else and pretending to understand and cope leads to exhaustion and burnout.
Often the meltdown happens when at home and makes emotional regulation impossible.

It can mean accommodations and support aren’t provided and a misconception that the person is coping or anxious.
It will create additional anxiety and problems attending school long term unless the masking is identified and appropriate support provided.

Therapy should be part of the solution- to provide appropriate emotional and mental support, to allow the child to advocate and create their own soothing and regulating.

It is not to place sole responsibility on the child to manage their own wellbeing, or to help them to fit into neurotypical settings by changing themselves.

15/02/2026

These are some of the ways I fill my own cup when I’m being nice to myself and taking better care of me.

It’s really important to make that effort, to treat yourself with kindness and respect.

To not skip meals or drinks because you’re too busy (prioritising other people’s needs)

To do things that make you smile, those non-essential non-urgent things that allow you to slow down and enjoy life.

What do you do when you’re making the effort to like yourself?

11/02/2026

Are you a chronic fixer?

See a problem and take on responsibility to fix it!

That’s not always the best response, watch till the end to find out why

10/02/2026

Will you listen to me?

04/02/2026

No evidence for s**t talking yourself actually being a positive therapeutic method

30/01/2026

Is it time to update your brains old patterns? If you have been running the same pattern for a long time it’s possible that it’s out of date.
Our brain uses those patterns to decide what might be happening now or the best way to respond to situations.
So if you think you need a new perspective or response it’s probably time to tell your brain what you want it to know and do instead.

Hypnotherapy supports you to create a better filing system and select the files you want to use.

29/01/2026

I know you know what you need and that you can work I out how to make that happen.

I believe you have the capability to achieve it.

I will always assume you know better than anyone what is important to you, what makes you happy, what doesn’t work and what has helped before.

The thing is when you go into panic mode or your stress bucket is too full and you default to automatic learnt behaviour or coping strategies, you’re not accessing this information.

When you are stressed and anxious you are diverting away from your solution focused thinking, your creative problem solving and the most likely outcome.

My only job is to get that part of your brain back on the task. I guide you through the fear and self limiting reactions and get you to the goal and preferred outcome.

I show you where that information is stored or if it’s not yet there we discover it together. I remind your brain which thoughts to listen to and when to take action.

I keep you on track and guide you away from old thought traps and learnt patterns that don’t work.

You are the navigator I am the passenger making sure we arrive at the destination you choose, keeping you on the right road and helping through traffic jams and unexpected diversions.

I believe you can find your own way, I just want to help you get there.

28/01/2026

You see other peoples reactions and compare yourself, questioning ‘am I doing this right?’

You observe others to see how you are supposed to react, because the manual they are all following doesn’t exist in your mind, it’s a different version.

You are constantly thinking ahead when you know there’s a situation which requires you to respond with an ‘appropriate emotional display’

You often feel you’re getting it wrong, and this worries you as you think people will judge you or worse not understand you.

You spin into a negative self critical spiral when your emotions betray you and expose your real self. The vulnerability doesn’t feel safe and this sends you into anxious rumination and overwhelm.

You feel lost and confused trying to navigate the Wild West of social communication.

Hey my autistic, AuDHD, ADHD friend.

I get it, I live it, I am this person too.

It’s true that not everyone has the empathy to understand.

But your bestie doesn’t care about whether you gave a world class performance, they just want you to feel safe to be yourself.
They might not understand why you reacted the way you did, but they do love you.

Choosing to let go of what we expect from others is love language for its safe here.

Safety in social situations is extremely rare for ND babes, we are always hyper vigilant, because we’ve been taught to fit in even if it means pretending to be someone you’re not.
It means fawning and masking, which both use a huge amount of our internal energy and brain capacity.
It means anticipatory anxiety whenever you know you have to rely on your learnt and conscious brain to get you through a situation, when you hope you’re subconscious automatic brain doesn’t make an appearance and give you away.

But when you’re in situations that feel safe, it’s a chance to remove that green screen and step out of character. To explore what it’s like to be you, without judgement and fear.

When you find these people, notice how your nervous system responds. This is where you get connection without the fear, it’s restoring and supporting.

For your bestie you are never too much or not enough, you are exactly who they choose and love. ❤️

27/01/2026

I am type 1. Hate mess but create it everywhere I go then feel too overwhelmed at the situation I’ve created so just freeze while constantly thinking about how messy it is.

I also live with a type 2 who hates the mess I create but can ignore it until the correct system has been devised to tackle the problem, with plenty of time to complete the task to the right standard.

I then ignore the system and create more mess trying to ‘sort’ everything out during a sudden adrenaline fuelled organising mission, which puts us back as this has now changed the original plan which type 2 cannot process and therefore needs a new system and period of readjusting.

Happy ND cohabitation

12/01/2026

Anxiety isn’t the problem.
Anger isn’t the problem.
Sadness isn’t the problem.
Fear isn’t the problem.

They are all natural and normal experiences and feelings.

Being anxious doesn’t mean something is wrong, it doesn’t mean you aren’t safe.
Being angry is healthy it’s good to feel mad, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
Being sad can mean anything, it’s just a feeling, it’s not a warning.
Feeling scared just means you’re not sure what will happen, or your brain thinks it does and it’s actually replaying the past.

The longer you have to ruminate and think about what might happen, what it means, you’re unlikely to be in immediate danger.

It means you are most likely physically safe and not in harm.

If you can learn to experience thoughts and feelings without your nervous system responding as if it’s really life or death, you can stop trying to avoid or distract yourself from the thoughts and feelings and they will just become normal and uninteresting.

The more interest or concern you place on them the more your nervous system pays attention and automatically attempts to ‘save you’ from the threat.

My approach is the imagine you don’t care about the feelings anymore and you can live your life as if they are incidental, normal, expected parts of living a full and interesting life.

Stop trying to remove the normal feelings and start living in spite of them.
You will be amazed how it changes your outlook and beliefs about life and the future.

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