The Butterfly Room

23/12/2025

I wanted to take a moment to truly thank the whole team for all they do every day and especially at Christmas time. To Laura, Jassy, Giulio, Jasmine, Kat, Ashley, Meggan, Joy, Rommy, Beth, Andri, Karen, Rachel, Tamsin, Naomi, Melissa, Amy, Christine, Nichola, Jennifer, Keely and Emma thank you, may you have a slow down, restful time for replenishing and smiling with your loved ones. Thank you for all your hard work and dedication to all of our families, often going above and beyond, you are all amazing and very much appreciated.
Merry Christmas
Claire xx

23/12/2025

Wishing you all a Christmas, however this may look, from staying at home and eating nuggets to going to the park at 8am. You do what works for you, take a minute to breathe and know you are truly amazing, four all you do for your families! Your children need you and to them you are their would. So thank you to all you wonderful parents out there. ###

23/12/2025

23/12/2025

28/11/2025

There were many mentions of children hitting in the comments yesterday.

When a child hits, it’s easy to see defiance.

But what if we paused and looked deeper?

This post explores what’s really going on—and how we can respond with calm, not control.

NOW AVAILABLE - WHEN A CHILD HITS: a PARENT & EDUCATOR TOOLKIT.
Electronic download available at link in comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.

27/11/2025

If you’ve ever found yourself mid-lecture, wondering how you got there — you’re not alone.
In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to slip into long explanations, over-talking, and trying to get a child to understand right now.

But here’s the truth: children don’t learn from lectures.
They learn from reflection — and reflection only happens when both adult and child feel safe, calm, and connected.

Guiding a child through reflection can actually help you deregulate too.
It slows the moment down, reduces the pressure to “fix it immediately,” and shifts the focus from frustration to understanding.

You start to see the why behind their reactions — the feelings, needs, and overwhelm that drove the behaviour.
And when the adult feels calmer, the child’s nervous system follows.

If you’d like structured reflection prompts, co-regulation strategies, and guides for tricky moments, they’re all inside my Managing Big Feelings Toolkit. Find it via the link in comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.

Follow for more on reflection, consequences, and brain-based parenting this week.

27/11/2025

Here's a little bit of information about the amazing founder of the Butterfly Room Laura which I thought would be insightful.

As a Chartered Psychologist I have spent the last 10 years researching and working with children with ASD / ADHD and other social and emotional difficulties. We know that Autism is more readily diagnosed within males than females therefore one would argue that the statistics are under reported. Autism is a neurological disorder impairing a persons Social Interaction, communication and imagination. These difficulties cause emotional regulation difficulties, issues developing & maintaining friendships and educational issues. Along side of ASD / ADHD - the co morbidity of having a mental health disorder is around the 90% mark. That means that 90% of children whom are autistic, or have ADHD suffer with a mental health condition such as anxiety disorders, depression, OCD, Psychosis , eating disorders etc. Through my research, experience and also my own lived experience as an SEN parent I know that waiting lists for mental health services is long , and when the support arrives it is often generic and short term which is why I opened The Butterfly Room.

12/11/2025

I thought I would take a moment to explain a bit about what we do here at the Butterfly Room.
The Butterfly room specialises in supporting children with ASD/ ADHD and their co morbid mental health. We support children suffering with anxiety, panic disorders, OCD, challenging behaviour, emotion regulation difficulties, TICS and psychosis. We provide a safe, calm, understanding environment for children and families offering flexibility (and fun!) for children whilst helping them overcome their challenges and fulfil their potential.

The Butterfly Room is proud to be able to deliver a range of therapeutic interventions, provided by a range of therapists including; Behavioural Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Art Therapy, Play Therapy, Counselling and Psychotherapy. We work with children from as young as 4 years old and support children, young people and adults. We work closely with many other agencies and services within Hertfordshire and Bedfordshire along with a large amount of both primary and secondary schools.

As well as Therapy we also complete ASD screenings below is some information on our screenings.

The ASD screening assessment is a one hour appointment where you and your child will meet with one of our trained assessors and your child’s social communication, social affect, theory of mind and play will be observed along with obtaining relevant information from the care giver to determine if your child is presenting with any behaviours that are indicative of ASD.
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Please note that this is not a full or formal ASD Diagnosis, and the Screening Assessment does not use standardised diagnostic tools as it is a semi structured observation appointment to highlight strengths and differences.
​Following the screening assessment you will receive a detailed report outlining observations and concerns for you to share with your GP, School and any other services that you may wish too
Feel free to ask us anything either by pm or by commenting on our post.

12/11/2025

Diversity Kids 💗

03/11/2025

Bonfire night tips for you

10/10/2025

Today is World Mental Health Day 💚 as I mentioned earlier.
I want to remind you that your life matters — not just today, but every single day. Even when the world feels heavy or the light seems far away, please hold on. You’ve made it through so much already, and that strength will carry you forward. You are not alone in your struggles. You are valued, you are needed, and you are loved — even when your mind tries to tell you otherwise

10/10/2025