Amend Therapy Practice

09/11/2025

***Lest we never forget the sacrifices so many gave for this country.****

29/10/2025

Dementia is a terrible disease. Watching your loved one disappear bit by bit is so hard. But your loved one is still in need of care, love and respect.
If you are caring for someone with Dementia, reach out, get support. Giving care continues to be possible if you too get support and care.

IF I GET DEMENTIA…..
I’d like my family to hang this wish list up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.

1a. Every time you enter the room announce yourself. “Hi Dad - it’s Amanda.”
NEVER ask- Do you know who I am??? That causes anxiety.

• If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality.
• If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.
• If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.
• If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.
• If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.
• If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
• If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am.
• If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.
• If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
• If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me.
• If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated.
• If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.
• If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.
• If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live. With a bus and activities!!
• If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.
• If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.
• If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.
• If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.
• If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.
• If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.
• If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.”

ᴄᴏᴘʏ ᴀɴᴅ ᴘᴀsᴛᴇ in Honor of someone you know or knew who has dementia. In Honor of all those I know and love and lost who are fighting Dementia/Alzheimer’s.

15/10/2025

Food for thought here for us all to consider. Distancing, cutting off are defensive stratergies designed to help us manage uncomfortable emotions. But are we only pressing pause on the problem, and not dealing with it?

21/09/2025

Emotional trust is precious.

18/09/2025

Don’t just use your feelings! In all your most important decisions, you need to use both your heart and your head.

16/09/2025

I have never been one for poetry. But this poem speaks to me, and in the violent, unsettled world we live in now, I can only hope it finds other people who will listen to it.

IF by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream---and not make dreams your master;
If you can think---and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build'em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings---nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And---which is more---you'll be a Man, my son!

15/09/2025

When there is a disagreement about your lives together in someway, take some time out with an agreement to return to the conversation at a given time........and make sure you do return to it. That way you cool down, have time to reflect and consider the other persons perspective, and build emotional trust by following through to return the conversation, thus avoiding resentment being created at unresolved arguments.

11/09/2025

Today we remember those whose lives changed through 9/11. Those who went to work that day, and didn't get to come home. Their families who have had to live each day without their loved one. Life can never be taken for granted. Live it to the best of your abilities, and try to make sure that those you care about know that you care about them.

09/09/2025

You may have heard grandparents talk about 'never going to bed on an argument'. Unresolved disputes fester, but will eventually dim with the passage of time. Often the only thing in the way of resolution then, is Pride. Don't let pride prevent you from staying close with your loved ones.