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Trauma Therapist, Life Coach, Hypnotist, focused on wellness, healing, and personal growth. Welcome, I'm Jenny, owner of Inner Wisdom Wellbeing. Jen x
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Helping others find healing and transformation. 🌟

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🌟 I first qualified as a Holistic Therapist in 2014, and since then, I have been developing my skill base and my experience in Complementary Therapy's, including NLP, Timeline Therapy, Hypnotherapy and certified Trauma Informed Life Coaching. I work 1-1, virtual or in person. Many people have asked me over the years what a Complementary Therapist is, and my answer to that is we look at the bigger picture. We treat the whole of you and not just your symptoms. I will take everything into account, be it your mind, body or your soul.

11/03/2026

Lust vs Love how to Know the Difference 💔❤️💔

Lust can feel intense.

Love feels steady.

Here are some real differences people often miss:

Lust

• Focuses on physical attraction
• Moves fast and feels urgent
• Often based on fantasy or idealisation
• Can disappear once the excitement fades
• Is about how someone makes you feel
• Avoids deeper emotional conversations
• Can feel addictive and consuming
• Often lacks real emotional safety

Love:

• Sees the whole person strengths and flaws.

• Grows slowly and deepens over time.

• Builds trust, safety, and emotional intimacy.

• Stays when life is messy or difficult.

• Is about mutual care, respect, and support.

• Includes honest communication.

• Feels calm, grounded, and secure.

• Encourages growth, not dependency.

Lust says:

“I want you.”

Love says:

“I choose you.”

Lust burns fast.

Love builds something that lasts.

❤️

11/03/2026

Self Love Isn’t What Instagram Tells You It Is.

Self love isn’t just bubble baths, spa days and positive affirmations.

Real self love is often much quieter… and much harder.

Self love is:

• Setting boundaries even when people are disappointed.

• Saying no when you would normally people-please.

• Walking away from situations that drain your energy.

• Facing the parts of yourself that need healing.

• Taking responsibility for your patterns instead of blaming others.

• Choosing growth over comfort.

Sometimes self love looks like therapy, uncomfortable conversations, and finally admitting that something in your life needs to change.

It’s learning to sit with yourself instead of distracting yourself.

It’s learning to speak to yourself with kindness instead of criticism.

It’s recognising that the younger version of you did the best they could with the tools they had.

And the most powerful part?

Self love is realising you are worthy of peace, respect, and healthy relationships — and no longer accepting anything less.

Self love isn’t selfish.

It’s the foundation of a healthy life.

When you truly start to love and respect yourself, everything around you begins to change.

🩷Jen
Inner Wisdom Wellbeing 🌸

07/03/2026

Why Anger Often Shows Up After Abuse, Or Betrayal 💔💔💔

Many people who have experienced abuse ask me the same question:

“Why am I suddenly so angry?”

The truth is, anger after trauma or betrayal is not a personality flaw.

It is often the nervous system trying to protect and heal itself.

Here’s why it happens.

1. The Body Learns to Live in Survival Mode

During abuse, the brain activates the fight–flight–freeze response.

Stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline stay elevated for long periods of time.

Your body learns to stay on high alert.

Even when the abuse ends, the nervous system can still behave as though the danger is present.

This can show up as:

• sudden anger
• anxiety
• panic
• irritability
• emotional outbursts

Your body is not overreacting — it is trying to keep you safe.

2. Trauma Is Stored in the Body

Trauma is not just a memory in the mind.

It is also held within the nervous system and the body.

That’s why many survivors experience:

• tightness in the chest
• muscle tension
• headaches
• stomach discomfort
• waves of sadness or anger that feel unexplained

The body is holding onto unresolved stress and emotional pain.

3. Anger Becomes a Protective Emotion

After abuse, people often carry deep feelings such as:

• betrayal
• humiliation
• broken trust
• injustice

When these emotions are not processed safely, they can transform into anger.

Anger becomes the voice that says:

“What happened to me was not okay.”

4. Triggers Can Reactivate Old Trauma

Sometimes small situations in the present can activate the nervous system because they remind the brain of past experiences.

Triggers might include:

• certain words
• a tone of voice
• criticism
• feeling controlled

The brain reacts as if the old danger has returned, even if the current situation is much smaller.

5. This Is a Trauma Response, Not A Weakness

Many survivors blame themselves for their reactions.

But often the anger isn’t about the present moment at all.

It is the body releasing pain that had to stay suppressed during the abuse.

Your nervous system may simply be saying:

“I am still healing from what happened.”

Remember this
Feeling anger after abuse does not make you a bad person.

It often means your mind and body are trying to restore safety, boundaries and control.

Healing takes time.

And it is rarely linear.

06/03/2026

With what is going on in the world right now, we may all feel in a heightened nervous system state.

When collective fear rises:

You will see people become more reactive.

Leaders make more aggressive decisions.

Societies become divided.

This is a little reminder to people not to absorb the global anxiety into their personal energy.

Practices I recommend include:

Grounding being out in nature
Breathwork
Meditation
Limiting news intake
Staying connected to family and friends

05/03/2026

Some of my clients are living with fibromyalgia and it can feel exhausting in ways that are hard to explain to others.

The pain, the fatigue, the brain fog… it’s not “just being tired” it’s a nervous system that has been stuck in high alert for far too long.

Fibromyalgia is often closely linked to a dysregulated nervous system.

When the body has spent years in stress, trauma, overwhelm or emotional suppression, the nervous system can struggle to return to a state of calm.

The body begins to hold tension, inflammation rises, sleep becomes disturbed, and pain signals amplify.

This is where gentle healing practices like Reiki and meditation can be incredibly supportive.

✨ Reiki works by helping the body shift from fight or flight into rest and repair.

Many people with fibromyalgia live with an overactive nervous system, and Reiki encourages the body to soften, regulate and release stored tension and emotional energy.

✨ Meditation helps retrain the brain and nervous system to feel safe again.

Even a few minutes a day can begin to calm the stress response, lower cortisol, and create more space in the body.

Together, these practices can help with:

• Calming the nervous system
• Improving sleep
• Reducing pain sensitivity
• Releasing stored emotional stress
• Bringing the body back into balance

Healing fibromyalgia is rarely about “pushing through.”

It’s about learning how to slow down, listen to your body, and gently support your nervous system back to safety.

Sometimes the most powerful healing happens not through doing more, but through allowing the body the space to finally relax.

✨ Your body is not broken.

It’s asking to be heard.

✨

04/03/2026

Most people don’t realise this… but blame is a protection mechanism.

When something hurts, disappoints us, or triggers old wounds, the mind automatically looks for somewhere to place the pain.

And the easiest place?

Someone else.

“If they hadn’t done that…”

“If they’d just treated me better…”

“If they changed, everything would be fine…”

Blame feels powerful in the moment, but the truth is — it also keeps us stuck.

Because when all the power sits with someone else, so does the ability to change the situation.

The real growth begins when we gently turn the lens back on ourselves and ask:

• What is this situation showing me about my needs?

• What boundary have I not expressed?

• What fear or belief is being triggered in me right now?

• What part of this is mine to take responsibility for?

Owning our part isn’t about self-blame.

It’s about self-empowerment.

Because the moment you stop waiting for someone else to change…

You start reclaiming your power to choose differently.

And that’s where real healing begins. ✨

04/03/2026

You’re not burnt out… you’re misaligned.

Burnout isn’t always about doing too much.

Sometimes it’s about doing too much of what isn’t right for you.
When your values don’t match your environment.

When your energy is spent trying to be someone you’re not.

When your nervous system is constantly pushing against what your soul knows isn’t aligned…

Exhaustion becomes inevitable.
You can sleep more.
Take time off.

Try to “push through”.

But if the misalignment remains, the tiredness will keep returning.

Real healing often begins with asking the deeper questions:

✨ Where am I abandoning myself?

✨ What am I saying yes to that my body is saying no to?

✨ What part of my life no longer fits who I am becoming?

Sometimes burnout isn’t a weakness.

It’s a signal.

A nudge from your nervous system.

A whisper from your inner wisdom saying:

“This isn’t the life you’re meant to force.”

Alignment doesn’t drain you.

It energises you.

And when you start living, working and relating in ways that truly fit you…

Everything begins to feel lighter.

🩷
Jen x

02/03/2026

Uncomfortable truths about your mind…🤯

Your mind will lie to you.🥺

It will replay the past like it’s happening now.

It will predict a future that hasn’t arrived.

It will tell you you’re not good enough.

It will convince you to stay small because small feels “safe.”

Your mind is wired for survival not happiness.

It would rather you be anxious and prepared
than calm and expansive.

It prefers the familiar over the healthy.

Even if the familiar hurts.

It will:
👍🏻Overthink instead of act
👍🏻Avoid instead of risk
👍🏻Numb instead of feel
👍🏻Blame instead of reflect

And here’s the hardest truth…
If you don’t learn to observe your mind,you’ll obey it.

You are not your thoughts.

You are the awareness behind them.

Growth begins the moment you question the story.

✨ What story has your mind been telling you lately?

01/03/2026

March is not about becoming someone new.

It’s about gently returning to who you were before the world told you to harden.

Winter asked you to survive.

March asks you to soften.

To look at what you’ve been carrying.

To loosen your grip on old pain.

To trust that healing isn’t loud it’s quiet, steady, and brave.

Growth doesn’t always look like big leaps.

Sometimes it looks like:

• responding instead of reacting
• resting without guilt
• setting a boundary without explaining
• choosing peace over proving a point

You are not behind.

You are unfolding.🪷

Let this be the month you stop fighting yourself and start walking gently back home to you.

🩷

26/02/2026

“People are not their behaviour.”

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I say this a lot in my therapy room!!!

And sometimes it really lands.

Sometimes it really challenges people.

Because when we’re hurt, it’s easier to label the person than understand the behaviour.

“She’s toxic.”

“He’s selfish.”

“I’m just anxious.”

“I’m broken.”

But here’s the truth…

Behaviour is something we do.

It is not who we are.

Most behaviour is a response.

A coping strategy.

A protection mechanism.

A nervous system in fight, flight, freeze or fawn.

An old wound trying to keep us safe.

Anger can be protection.

Control can be fear.

Withdrawal can be overwhelm.

Perfectionism can be a desperate attempt to feel enough.

That doesn’t mean harmful behaviour is okay.

It means there is usually something underneath it and
when we separate the person from the behaviour, something powerful happens:

✨ Shame reduces.

✨ Accountability becomes possible.

✨ Change becomes possible.

If I believe I am anxious, broken, jealous or too much then I stay stuck.

If I can say, “I notice I react this way when I feel unsafe,” now we have space to heal.

You are not your worst moment.

You are not your trauma response.

You are not the coping strategy you learned at six years old.

You are the person underneath it, and that’s the part we work with. 💛
Jenny x

25/02/2026

💭 Grief Isn’t Just About Death…

And…. It Doesn’t Always Look Like Grief!

Most people think grief only happens when someone dies.

But we grieve so many things in life:

• A relationship ending

• The version of someone we thought they were

• A childhood we didn’t have

• A parent we needed but didn’t receive

• A job we outgrew

• A home we left

• Fertility struggles or miscarriage

• A diagnosis

• The life we imagined

• Trust that was broken

• The person we used to be
Grief is about loss.

Loss happens in many forms.

The thing is… unprocessed grief in adults rarely looks like sadness.

It often looks like:

• Anxiety that won’t switch off

• Fear of losing the people you love

• Overthinking everything

• Snapping over small things

• Emotional numbness

• Overworking and never slowing down

• People pleasing

• Control

• Feeling distant in relationships

• Saying “I’m fine” when you’re not

Many of us were taught to carry on.

To be strong.👊🏻

To not make a fuss.

But grief doesn’t disappear just because we suppress it.

It settles in the nervous system.

Sometimes the anxiety isn’t random.

Sometimes the control isn’t about perfection.

Sometimes the hyper-independence is protection.

Grief is not weakness.

It’s love with nowhere to go.

And when it’s gently explored in a safe space, something shifts.

The body softens.

The anxiety reduces.

You stop bracing for more loss.

If you’ve been feeling “off” and can’t explain why.

You might not be broken.

You might be grieving.

And grief deserves compassion 🤍

Jen 🩷

17/02/2026

ARE YOU LIVING IN FIGHT OR FLIGHT WITHOUT EVEN REALISING?

So many people think anxiety is just “who they are.”

It’s not.

It’s a nervous system that never learned how to switch off.

When you’re stuck in fight or flight, your body believes you are under threat even when you’re sitting on your sofa.

Here’s how it can show up:

• You’re always “on” and struggle to relax

• You overthink everything and expect worst-case scenarios

• You feel easily irritated or overwhelmed

• You can’t switch your mind off at night

• You people-please to avoid conflict

• You struggle to fully trust or feel safe in relationships

• You feel exhausted but wired at the same time

• You startle easily or feel on edge for no clear reason

This isn’t weakness.

This is a survival response.

At some point, your system learned that being alert = being safe.

But here’s the truth:

You cannot heal, connect, create or feel joy when your body thinks it’s in danger.

✨ The good news?

Your nervous system can be reset.

Here are gentle ways to begin:

🌿 Slow your breathing (longer exhales than inhales)

🌿 Get your bare feet on the earth

🌿 Cold water on your face or a short cold shower

🌿 Shake your body out to release stored stress

🌿 Hand on heart — speak to yourself kindly

🌿 Reduce caffeine and constant stimulation

🌿 Create safety in small daily rituals

Regulation is not about forcing calm.

It’s about teaching your body it is safe again.

Safety doesn’t come from controlling everything around you.

It comes from learning you can handle what arises.

If you’ve been living in survival mode… this is your sign.

You are not broken.

You are wired for protection.

Now it’s time to rewire for peace. 🤍

Jen

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Hello I am Jenny Wedgbury, Holistic Therapist, Teacher, Healer & Spiritual Coach.

I work with people who want too;

Remove specific blocks and want to start manifesting abundance✔

Trust in themselves and have faith in the Universe✔

Live a more peaceful, balanced way of life ✔

Stop attracting the same relationships over & over again✔

Get their love- for- life back✔

Discover you inner power✔

Stop living in the past✔

Who want to make those positive changes for themselves✔

Want to feel like themselves again ✔

I've have been there when you feel like you've lost yourself completely, you looking in the mirror and you’re no longer recognising that refection that is staring back at you!

2007 my world fell apart, I was going through a marriage separation, I was a single Mum and I walked away from my home, with virtually nothing!

I knew inside that I had done the right thing, even though at the time I felt empty inside.

The Universe will take you off your path if you haven't been listening or noticing the signs it’s sending. It took me a very long-time to realise what was happening to me.

But I’m here to tell you it will all be ok ❤

Make that change for “YOU” today.

Jen x x

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