Inner Wisdom Wellbeing - Jennifer Wedgbury

17/02/2026

ARE YOU LIVING IN FIGHT OR FLIGHT WITHOUT EVEN REALISING?

So many people think anxiety is just “who they are.”

It’s not.

It’s a nervous system that never learned how to switch off.

When you’re stuck in fight or flight, your body believes you are under threat even when you’re sitting on your sofa.

Here’s how it can show up:

• You’re always “on” and struggle to relax

• You overthink everything and expect worst-case scenarios

• You feel easily irritated or overwhelmed

• You can’t switch your mind off at night

• You people-please to avoid conflict

• You struggle to fully trust or feel safe in relationships

• You feel exhausted but wired at the same time

• You startle easily or feel on edge for no clear reason

This isn’t weakness.

This is a survival response.

At some point, your system learned that being alert = being safe.

But here’s the truth:

You cannot heal, connect, create or feel joy when your body thinks it’s in danger.

✨ The good news?

Your nervous system can be reset.

Here are gentle ways to begin:

🌿 Slow your breathing (longer exhales than inhales)

🌿 Get your bare feet on the earth

🌿 Cold water on your face or a short cold shower

🌿 Shake your body out to release stored stress

🌿 Hand on heart — speak to yourself kindly

🌿 Reduce caffeine and constant stimulation

🌿 Create safety in small daily rituals

Regulation is not about forcing calm.

It’s about teaching your body it is safe again.

Safety doesn’t come from controlling everything around you.

It comes from learning you can handle what arises.

If you’ve been living in survival mode… this is your sign.

You are not broken.

You are wired for protection.

Now it’s time to rewire for peace. 🤍

Jen

16/02/2026

✨ What We Are Not Changing, We Are Choosing ✨

Read that again.

If we are not changing it… we are choosing it.

Every time we say:

• “That’s just how they are.”
• “It’s always been this way.”
• “I’ll deal with it later.”
• “It’s not that bad.”

We are choosing it!!

Not because we consciously want the pain.

Not because we enjoy the discomfort.

But because staying the same can feel safer than stepping into the unknown.

Growth requires responsibility.

Healing requires honesty.

Change requires courage.

Sometimes we stay in patterns because:

We’re afraid of conflict.

We don’t feel worthy of more.

We fear failing.

We don’t trust ourselves to handle what comes next.

But here’s the truth, every day you tolerate what drains you, you are confirming to your nervous system that this is acceptable.

But you deserve more than “acceptable.”

You deserve aligned✔️
You deserve peaceful✔️
You deserve expansive✔️

Change doesn’t have to be dramatic.

It can start with one boundary.

One honest conversation.

One different choice.

If nothing changes… nothing changes.

So ask yourself gently today:

👉 What am I currently choosing by not changing it?

👉 And am I ready to choose differently?

The moment you take ownership, your power returns.

💛

13/02/2026

If you want to break a habit…👊🏻👏🏻

You don’t start with the habit.

You start with your identity.

This is where most people get it wrong.

They say:

“I’m trying to stop drinking.”

“I’m trying to stop overthinking.”

“I’m trying to stop chasing unavailable partners.”

“I’m trying to stop people pleasing.”

Trying keeps the old identity alive.

🔥 You don’t get what you want.

You get what you believe you are.

Lasting change happens when you shift from “I want to change my behaviour” to “This is who I am now.”

Instead of

“I’m trying to be confident.”
Say:

“I am becoming a woman who backs herself.”

Instead of:

“I’m trying to stop reacting.”
Say:

“I am someone who responds calmly and powerfully.”

Instead of:

“I’m trying to stop picking my lashes / nails / skin.”

Say:

“I am a woman who soothes herself in healthy ways.”

Your brain will always act in alignment with your identity.
So if deep down you believe:
“I’m anxious.”
“I’m not chosen.”
“I’m the one who gets left.”
“I’m the emotional one.”

You will unconsciously create behaviours that prove that identity true.

Identity drives standards.

Standards drive behaviour.

Behaviour creates results.

💥 The real question isn’t:
What habit do you want to break?

It’s:
Who do you need to become?

Because when your identity shifts, the habit no longer fits.

And here’s the powerful part!!

You don’t wait until you feel like that person.

You decide.

You embody.

You practice.

You raise your standards.

You move as if.

That’s how transformation happens.

Not by willpower.

By identity.

09/02/2026

Breaking the cycle of negative self-talk isn’t about forcing yourself to “be positive.”

It’s about gently teaching your mind that it is safe to speak to you with kindness.

Negative self-talk is usually not the truth…

It’s old protection from criticism, rejection, bullying, or past hurt a voice that learned to keep you safe by expecting the worst.

The cycle often looks like this:

Trigger → Negative thought → Painful feeling → Protective behaviour → More negative thoughts

And round and round it goes!!!

Healing begins with small, compassionate awareness:

✨ Notice the thought without judging it

✨ Remind yourself: “This is a learned voice, not my truth.”

✨ Ask: “Would I speak this way to someone I love?”

✨ Replace it with something gentle and real:

“I’m struggling today, but I am still worthy.”
❤️

True confidence doesn’t grow from criticism.

It grows from feeling safe inside yourself.

And the most powerful truth of all.

That harsh inner voice is usually a wounded part of you trying to protect you.

When we meet that part with compassion instead of shame,
the voice softens and healing begins. 🤍

06/02/2026

01/02/2026

February Reminder ✨
February isn’t here to rush you.
It’s a softer month. A quieter one.
If your energy feels low, emotions feel closer to the surface, or motivation has dipped — you’re not broken. Your nervous system is asking for care, not pressure.
This is a time to:
🤍 slow down
🤍 soften expectations
🤍 listen inward
🤍 rest without guilt
You don’t need to bloom yet.
Roots grow in the dark first 🌱
Be kind to yourself this month.
Support is always here.
— Jen ✨

01/02/2026

February – A Gentle Turning Point 💫

February often arrives quietly.

The excitement of a new year has softened, the days are still short, and many of us feel a dip in energy, motivation, or mood.

This month isn’t about pushing forward or “doing more.”

It’s about listening.

✨ Listening to what your body is asking for.

✨ Noticing emotions that are surfacing now the noise has settled.

✨ Honouring the slower pace your nervous system may need.

Winter is still with us, and nature hasn’t rushed either.

Roots are deepening beneath the surface, preparing for growth that will come in its own time.
If you’re feeling:

More emotional than usual.

Tired or unmotivated.

Irritable or withdrawn.

A little disconnected from yourself.

Please know — nothing is wrong with you.

This is often a sign your system is asking for rest, compassion, and regulation rather than discipline.

This February, I invite you to:

🤍 Soften your expectations of yourself
🤍 Create moments of stillness
🤍 Breathe deeply into your body
🤍 Allow emotions to move instead of suppressing them.

Small acts of care make a big difference:

A pause.

A hand on your heart.

A few conscious breaths. Asking for support.

You don’t need to bloom yet.

You’re allowed to rest, recalibrate, and gently reconnect with yourself.

I’m here to support you through this season 💫

Love ,
Jen x

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28/01/2026

For those who know me, I am deeply passionate about Reiki because it speaks the language of the nervous system — not through words, but through safety.

So many of us are living in survival mode without even realising it.

High alert. Tight chest.

Shallow breath.

Always bracing for the next thing.

You can’t “think” your way out of that.

Reiki gently meets the body where it is and reminds the nervous system what it feels like to soften.

To exhale.

To be held without having to explain or perform.

When the body feels safe, healing begins naturally.

That’s why my sessions aren’t just Reiki.

I weave in meditation to guide the mind out of overthinking and back into the present moment — where the body can finally rest.

Meditation creates spaciousness, helping the brain shift out of fight-or-flight and into a calmer, more regulated state.

Breath work is the bridge.🌈

The breath is one of the fastest ways to communicate safety to the nervous system.

Slow, intentional breathing tells the body: you’re not in danger anymore.

It regulates the vagus nerve, lowers stress hormones, and brings you back into your body — not stuck in your head.

Together, Reiki, meditation, and breathwork create a deeply regulating experience:

✨ the body relaxes
✨ the mind quiets
✨ emotions are allowed to move and release
✨ the nervous system learns a new baseline of calm

This work isn’t about fixing you because you’re not broken!!

It’s about remembering what safety feels like in your body again.

And from that place… everything changes. 💫

Love Jen x

21/01/2026

Lots lacking motivation this week!!

Myself included…

But, we actually don’t need more motivation!!

We actually need need less distraction!!!

Most people aren’t stuck because they don’t want it badly enough.

They’re stuck because their energy is being leaked in a thousand tiny places.

Notifications.

Overthinking.

People’s expectations.

Doom-scrolling.

Old patterns.

Unhealed emotional noise.

Motivation isn’t the problem.
Attention is!!

When your mind is constantly pulled outward, you lose access to your inner drive.

Not because it’s gone — but because you can’t hear it.

Clarity creates momentum.

Stillness creates direction.

Focus creates results.

Every distraction costs you:

Presence

Energy

Self-trust

Follow-through

And the more distracted you are, the more you think you need “motivation” to compensate.

But the truth is this:

When distractions fall away, motivation returns naturally.

You don’t need to hype yourself up.

You need to quiet the noise.

Less input.

Fewer opinions.

Cleaner boundaries.

More intentional pauses.

Discipline isn’t about forcing yourself forward.

It’s about protecting your attention.

Because when you stop scattering your energy…
Your purpose doesn’t need motivation , it simply pulls you forward on its own.

Jen x 🌟

19/01/2026

You can learn a lot about life, and about yourself, by noticing what people lack.

Not in a judgemental way.

But in an observant, self-aware way.

When someone avoids accountability, you learn the importance of taking responsibility for your actions.

When someone struggles with communication, you learn how powerful clarity, listening, and calm expression really are.

When emotional intelligence is missing, you learn how essential empathy, regulation, and understanding emotions truly are.

When there’s little self-awareness, you learn how vital reflection and personal growth become.

When honesty is inconsistent, you learn the value of truth, even when it’s uncomfortable.

When boundaries aren’t respected, you learn how necessary it is to have and uphold your own.

And when integrity is absent, you learn how much character matters when no one is watching.

Sometimes the biggest lessons don’t come from people who inspire us by what they do right, but from those who quietly teach us what we never want to repeat.

Every interaction is information.
Every experience is a lesson.