08/11/2025
As it's coming up to our 8th year anniversary I thought I would share a message to my past self, and hopefully this helps anyone else who needs to hear this.
I hear that you’re struggling right now, and you’re doubting yourself as a mother. You feel broken because you’re not well, and your baby means the world to you, but you feel like you’re failing at the one thing you wanted to get perfect.
You’re not failing you’re transitioning like a beautiful butterfly.This healing journey isn’t easy, you’re fighting a battle that no one can see. You tell people but they struggle to understand so you keep going the best you can, which takes so much strength it's exhausting.
Your worth isn’t measured by how quickly you bounce back, but by the quiet courage it takes to keep moving forward, even when it feels hard. Remember to embrace days of rest and days to pause, these days are nurturing and guided by self- love and self- compassion.
The good days don’t have to be the Instagram-perfect ones. They can be the simple days when you slowed down stayed in your pjs and held your baby on the sofa a little longer, counting their fingers, smelling their hair, without guilt of completing to do lists.
Striving for perfection and looking ahead, wishing tomorrow will be better than today, can be draining. I can see that every day you do your best and that’s enough.
Your baby doesn’t need a perfect mom. They just need a loving one.
It's ok to sit in this present moment, take a deep breath and acknowledge each small win, and give yourself love, gentleness, and compassion for the moments that feel wobbly.
Please remember: even though you feel alone in what you’re going through, you’re not. There's a community of moms out there who feel the same as you. When you speak your journey you will inspire other moms, helping them to heal on their journeys and you will heal too.
In the mean time remember you deserve the same care and gentleness that you give to your baby.
