Paul Berry Counselling & Psychotherapy

30/09/2025

I recently came back to England for a couple of months, and whilst on a walk, I took this picture. It reminded me of a lecture by Prof. Robert Sapolsky. He said in a brief summary, depressed people cannot appreciate sunsets. How are you with sunsets?

21/12/2024

"You’re going to realize it one day — that happiness was never about your job, or your degree, or being in a relationship. Happiness was never about following in the footsteps of all of those who came before you, it was never about being like the others. One day, you’re going to see it — that happiness was always about the discovery, the hope, the listening to your heart and following it wherever it chose to go. Happiness was always about being kinder to yourself, it was always about embracing the person you were becoming. One day, you will understand. That happiness was always about learning how to live with yourself, that happiness was never in the hands of other people. It was always about you. It was always about you."

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17/10/2024

Moving towards secure attachment for couples is so important, most couples who see me are not securely attached. What does secure attachment in relationships look like?

https://paulberryzoom.online/relationships/securely-attached-couples/

28/08/2024

https://paulberryzoom.online/relationships/styles-of-connection/

Feeling stuck? Keep arguing in the same way? A negative cycle of interaction. Attachment styles, affect your relationships with others. Having an understanding of these can help couples see what is occurring below the surface of awareness. This is something that I can explain in early couples sessio...

25/08/2024

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20/06/2024

https://paulberryzoom.online/relationships/couples-therapy-too-late/

I do not wish to generalise too much but for the sake of brevity, I will in order to convey my message quickly. Couples often leave therapy until the situation is verging on collapse, it becomes a last-ditch attempt at saving the relationship. I would encourage couples to think about therapy before....

02/09/2020

In the current climate, your immune system is even more important. Start dealing with your mental health.

Film release date fall 2020. Stay tuned! If you would like to receive updates from us regarding the film, please go to: https://www.scienceandnonduality.com/...

02/01/2019

Research has now shown that sleep is far more important than any of us imagined ... a good read or listen.

https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/Why-We-Sleep-Audiobook/B077XHZZXY?ref=a_lib_c4_libItem_3_B077XHZZXY&pf_rd_p=4c1af09b-88bf-4c97-bfd2-e765f91b1968&pf_rd_r=2DR6CENFTB4JYPC6KS5C&

Check out this great listen on Audible.com. The Top Ten Sunday Times Best SellerTLS, Observer, Sunday Times, FT, Guardian, Daily Mail and Evening Standard Books of the Year 2017 Penguin presents the audiobook edition of Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker, read by John Sackville. Includes a bonus P...

30/01/2018

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-Help/dp/B004HLKORM/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1517302795&sr=8-1&keywords=attached+book

Relationships involve attachment patterns - this book is well worth a read.

Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking audiobook, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory - the most advanced relationship science in existence today - can help us find and sustain love. Attachme...