Helen S Rigby Coaching, surrey (2026)

11/04/2026

11th April. 💜💜💜

Today marks 8 years since I was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive stage 4 blood cancer. I started chemotherapy hours later because I was so unwell, so there was no time to process it or make a plan.

Looking back, as someone who tends to overthink… that was probably a good thing 😂

I’ve had some new followers here recently so it felt like the right moment to share a little of my story and say hello.

That day changed my life completely. It was terrifying, but it was also the day I started to get better. Now, 8 years cancer free, it’s a day I’ll always feel grateful for.

I won’t pretend it’s been easy. There are still moments where I think about how life might have turned out. But I’ve come to see it differently…

What a privilege it is to feel it all.
The grief. The change. The unexpected.

And then to realise I get to take the reins and write what comes next. My way. My rules.

That was the real wake-up call for me. How quickly everything can change… and how important it is to stop waiting and start living.

My life looks different to what I once imagined, but it’s fuller, more present, and filled with so much joy in the small, ordinary moments.

Life doesn’t always go to plan.
But there is still so much love and joy available to you.

It might just look different to what you expected 🤍

Helen xx

27/03/2026

8 years ago today I was rushed to hospital as an emergency after just landing back from my holiday. I had been In pain and had flu like symptoms for a few weeks but never expected it to be stage 4 Blood Cancer. My whole world was torn apart. I’ve been spiralling recently, I’d had rib pains for a while and my mind went straight to “oh god, I’ve got cancer and it’s spread and I’ve left it too long”. I realised today what date it was and that it was 8 years ago that I got rushed to hospital. I realised it’s no coincidence that I’m now freaking out. Even though it’s 8 years on, I’m still processing a lot of grief from that time of my life. My usual go to would have been to say I’m fine and carry on but I was gentle with myself today and so booked in with the doctor who gave me the reassurance that it’s just muscular and I’m fine. I think it can be hard to ask for help sometimes, to be vulnerable, to not always be the “strong” one so I had a big cry and realised that I just needed some extra guidance.
Anyway, I feel a lot better and sharing this in case anyone else has been through something similar and your mind spirals sometimes too. I feel that. I’m slowly learning to trust my body but also knowing when it’s time to go and get help! xx

27/03/2026

Cute London trip watching The Last Five Years 25th anniversary with my old London roomie 💜🎭💫xx

15/03/2026

Happy Mother’s Day, Mum! 🌼 thanks for being you and all you do for me. I couldn’t have got this far without you, I’d have been lost. Love you. 🥰. Sul y Mamau Hapus! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

Thinking of those finding today hard. To the loved and lost ones and to the women who are grieving not being mothers. You are not alone ###x

12/03/2026

One of the first questions I asked when I started chemotherapy in 2018 was, “Am I going to lose my hair?”

The nurse reassured me, “You will, but it might not all go. It might just get thin.”

A few months later, staring at my bald reflection, my friend joked, “The nurse was taking the p*** really, wasn’t she?”

She really was. I didn’t have a single hair on me. No eyelashes, no eyebrows… nothing.

What surprised me most was how free I felt when it all came out.

For years my hair had been a big part of my identity and how I saw myself. Women carry so much pressure to look nice, be pretty, be perfect. Don’t be too much, but don’t be too little either. Just somehow know what everyone expects from you.

It’s exhausting.

I was so afraid of how I’d look with no hair. Who would love me then? Who would want to date me?

What I didn’t expect was to feel unstoppable.

Somewhere in that experience I found an inner resilience and strength that nobody could take from me. And that feeling has stayed with me.

In a world where we’re constantly comparing ourselves to millions of images, it’s easy to forget who we really are.

This photo reminds me that we’re not our hair, our appearance, or our job titles. They’re part of how we express who we are, but they’re not the whole story. We’re always changing and evolving.

And whenever I get caught up in the noise (which still happens often), it reminds me to step away and reconnect with who I really am underneath it all.

Sometimes it takes losing something we thought defined us to realise what never could.

05/03/2026

🌸A small moment in an interview recently meant a lot to me.

Understanding my emotions has been a huge part of my transformation after cancer.

I can’t tell you how often I used to apologise for getting upset, or feel embarrassed for having emotions at all.

So when the lady interviewing me pointed out that I didn’t apologise when I became emotional, it felt like a really big moment for me.

We don’t have the healthiest relationship with emotions in our society. We tend to label them as good or bad, positive or negative, and then push away the ones we think we shouldn’t be feeling. It can end up making us feel very alone and stressed and even sick!

But they’re not good or bad. They’re emotions.

And maybe we don’t have to apologise for them.

I think we need more open conversations about that, and I’m here for it. ☺️

It’s funny how quickly “sorry” comes out when we feel something deeply.

25/02/2026

I’m really looking forward to putting on a workshop this Spring Equinox at . It sold out straight away so didn’t have chance to share on here so do be sure to sign up to my mailing list if you want to be first to know. I have lots of exciting workshops and events this year and would love to see you there. 🥰.
Who’s ready to step in to their purpose and power this year? 🔥💜💫

Sign up to mailing list is on my highlights and bio but feel free to send me a message and I’ll send you the link directly! Helen xx

14/02/2026

Ask yourself:

🎬 If your love life were a film, what would the title be?
(Notice if it’s a tragedy, a rom-com, a slow-burn, a comeback story… there’s already a pattern there.)

🎭 What role are you stuck playing… and ready to let go of?
The one who’s always rejected? The cool girl who “doesn’t care”? The one who waits to be chosen?

🧩 Which parts of you do you think you have to hide to be loved?
The emotional one, the ambitious one, the “too much” one? Just noticing this is the beginning of shadow work. Can you give that part a little love today instead of pushing her away?

📝 What narrative do you keep repeating about yourself and about dating?
“I’m too much.” “All the good ones are taken.” “Love never works out for me.”
What if that’s just an old script, not the truth?

📵 And can you stop comparing your story to what you see on here today?
Social media shows scenes, not the whole movie. Your path doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.

💗 We often get stuck in roles and patterns and project our worth onto being picked and validated. But the deepest work is choosing you first. The greatest love story you’ll ever live is the one you’re willing to have with yourself.

💗 Remember you’re not on your own in this. Your greatest love story is closer than you think.

11/02/2026

16 years without you Dad. 😔🕯️
A couple of days before my dad passed away, he asked me to go and get a Valentine’s card so he could write it for my mum. He died on the 11th so didn’t make it to Valentine’s Day. It was the last card from him she received and she gets it out each year. It breaks my heart when I think about that 💔. The biggest shock to my mum was that he would usually forget every year and this was the first year he remembered! Haha. We really miss you, Dad. ###

09/02/2026

We chased the northern lights but ended up feeling like we’d had a trip to the Moon! 🌒. It felt like we were in the middle of nowhere, it was stunning and so cool! Cool 😎 and cool 🥶haha. We just got a tiny glow from the lights but what an experience to be out there, to see the stars and have the full moon light up and take centre stage! And so she should!

23/12/2025

🎅🏽 Merry Christmas to you!🎄

Thank you for being here and for the support this year - it really means a lot. I hope you have a nice break whether it’s a quiet one or a busy one. It’s just my mum and me this year (which will be lovely), but you’re not on your own if you’re not having a big family Christmas!

A little December reminder 🤍

Keep doing the inner work.
Keep connecting to yourself.
And most importantly…. gently step away from comparison as the year wraps up.

You’re doing better than you think ✨

Love, Helen x

17/12/2025

🎂Somehow this tiny little thing is 45 today! (That’s me in case that is confusing 😂).

When I look at this photo, I think ahh look how loved she is! I used to absolutely love this time of year! To have my birthday and then Christmas just a week later!

For all the times that have been sometimes unbearable to experience, I’d do it all over again! To experience all that I’ve experienced and all the people I’ve met and loved along the way and to have had such a loving father for 29 years of it!

To age really is a privilege, to be alive is the miracle we search for. It’s not always easy but it’s something I don’t take for granted. Bring on the crinkles and wrinkles! And bring on the champagne whilst you’re there! 🥂

*i sometimes feel sad I’ll never get to see what my babies would look like so I guess this is the next best thing- here is what I looked like as a baby! 😆🥰🥰.

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