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Helena Clare Coaching, Sutton Coldfield (2025)

19/12/2025

Just going to leave this here….. 😁

DM Me for more details..

I’d love to help you start 2026 without the masks!!

15/12/2025

Who would you be if you weren’t so hard on yourself?

So many of us live under constant pressure.

To get it right.
To be better.
To keep everyone else OK.

And yet what’s often happening underneath…..is that we’re being unbelievably hard on ourselves.

So hard, in fact, that over time it slowly erodes our self-value and self-trust.

Those reasons we give for pushing, people-pleasing, perfectionising or staying quiet?

They’re not really reasons.

They’re masks.
Masks we learned to wear because somewhere along the line we started telling ourselves stories like:

“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m too much"
"I am not lovable.”
"I need to earn my place.”

But what if those stories aren’t the truth?

What if.....you could take the masks off and meet the real version of you underneath?

And treat her with kindness and compassion, especially when things don’t go to plan?

What if.....you could put yourself first, without the guilt?

Trust yourself again…..and let your light be seen instead of dimmed?

Who would you be if you let that happen?
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✨ If you’re ready rediscover who that is, to go deep and truly stop being stuck in the "hard on myself" space, my Stop Being Stuck Breakthrough work is there to support real, lasting change.

✨ And if you’re not ready to go that deep just yet, Unmasked - my brand new group coaching programme - starts in January and is a powerful place to begin gently removing the masks and reconnecting with who you really are.

You don’t need fixing.
You need space to be you.

And that changes everything.

I'd love to know if this resonates?

11/12/2025

When a 5* review says it all...

"As a busy mum, wife, and business owner, I found myself in a really difficult place. I was completely overwhelmed - anxious, exhausted, and constantly feeling like I was doing everything… yet not doing anything well.

I was pouring into everyone around me but completely neglecting myself. And the hardest part was that I knew it. I could feel it, I could see it, but I just couldn’t stop. I kept pushing, kept doing, and eventually I started to feel resentment towards the very people I love most.

In my business, I never felt good enough. My to-do list only ever grew, and with it, my anxiety. I felt like a failure, which knocked my confidence even more. Inside, I had so much going on that I didn’t know where to start. I didn’t know what help I needed, who to turn to, or even how to ask for support.

Although I’d had a few one-off therapy sessions before, I knew I needed something more this time. Something deeper. Therapy had given me the foundations - awareness on both a conscious and subconscious level - but I still couldn’t break the patterns that were running my life. I needed support, but I wasn’t fully sure what kind… maybe a coach? A guide? Someone who could help me connect the dots and actually move forward.

That’s when I found Helena. From the very first conversation, she put me at ease. She was knowledgeable, grounded, and used a variety of techniques that felt both powerful and gentle. Like anyone, I was nervous about investing in myself and unsure what results I would actually get. But after the first session, something shifted. I had all sorts of feelings and thoughts coming up - and instead of feeling lost in them, I kept delving deeper, knowing Helena was right there to support me. She gently guided me, reminded me of the tools she’d taught me, and made sure I always had something practical to lean on. The visual notes were a godsend too, helping me stay accountable and actually take action.

Her course, Stop Being Stuck, is exactly what it says on the tin. If you’re at that point in your life where you feel trapped, overwhelmed, or disconnected from yourself - this is exactly what you need.

I’ve broken patterns and behaviours I’d been repeating for years. My nervous system has reset in a way I didn’t think was possible - I’m calmer in so many areas of my life (even down to my driving… no more road rage!). I’ve accepted that life will always throw curveballs, but the real power is knowing how to stay in control of yourself when they come. And now, I can wholeheartedly say I’m no longer living in fear. I finally have the awareness, the tools, and the confidence to handle whatever comes my way.

And what I also love is that there’s another course that goes even deeper - and I know it’s there for me when I’m ready, with zero pressure from Helena. Just support, guidance, and a genuine desire to help women step into who they truly are."
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If this hits home, lets chat!

10/12/2025

Today, the “shoulds” are trying to take control…

And I have had enough..

You know, the voice in your head saying…

“I should be further along.”
“I should be doing more.”
“I should have this all figured out by now.”

And I am flipping fed up with them..

They’ve been stealing the joy and creativity from all things I normally love.

And I am pretty sure you have felt them too..

What I do know is…

“Shoulds” aren’t truth.
They’re protective patterns trying to keep us safe.

Safe from judgement.
Safe from failure.
Safe from being too visible or doing it “wrong”.

But when they take over, they create shame…
and shame shuts down our spark, our ideas, our momentum.

So this is what I am doing today to get myself out of it - gently:

✨ Naming the Should Voice
“Ah, there you are. You’re trying to protect me. I don’t have to obey you. And isn't it time you just f*&ked off?”

✨ A 90-second reset
Hand on chest, hand on belly, slow breath in + longer breath out.
Then: “What do I actually want right now?” followed by some self-havening (ask me about this - its a total game changer!)

✨ Bounce up and down like Tigger.
(Yes, really.)
Moving the body moves the shame.

✨ Asking whose rule this really is
Because most of the time… it’s not mine.
It’s often the mask that I’ve put on to keep me safe - perfectionism, people pleasing, persecution of self or others.
And you can take it off.

✨ Choosing one small act of rebellion
Posting something imperfect.
Doing the task I want to do first.
Taking 10 minutes off without guilt.

This is how I break the pattern - gently, without force.

And every time I break a “should rule”, something shifts.
My energy comes back.
My creativity wakes up.
And I start to feel more me again.

So just remember, if the shoulds have been loud for you too - YOU ARE NOT FAILING…

You’re simply being human… and your system is trying to protect you.

You get to choose something different.
And you get to do it gently.

Are the shoulds getting you down and you're ready to take the masks off thats causing them and let them go?

If so, I may have something that can help.. lets chat!!

09/12/2025

Most women don’t realise this…

They’re already leaders.
But they’re leading from the wrong place.

Not from truth.
Not from clarity.
But from the mask they’ve worn for years.

The capable one.
The strong one.
The one who holds everyone else.
The perfectionist.
The people-pleaser.
The “I’m fine” expert.

If that’s you… and you’re entering 2026 thinking:
I cannot do another year like this
- then read on.

Because I’m running something NEW in January.

And it’s for women who are done performing…

…and ready to lead their actual lives, not just the version people expect of them.
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LEADING UNMASKED

A 6 x 90 min session group coaching experience
Starts Thursday 15th January 2026
Live on Zoom
£250 (introductory price for this first round)

This isn’t confidence tips.
This isn’t “new year, new you.”
This is identity work.

We’re dismantling the patterns that run your life on autopilot:
✨ Imposter syndrome
✨ Perfectionism
✨ People-pleasing
✨ Overthinking
✨ The Jonah Complex (aka the fear of your own potential)

And in their place?
Calm.
Clarity.
Self-trust.

Leadership that starts from the inside - and shows up everywhere else.
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If you want 2026 to FEEL different, not just look different…

Message me or email me and I’ll send you the details.

Spaces genuinely are limited because this is the first-ever round.

Let’s start the year unmasked.

For real this time.

03/12/2025

I’ve been doing some deep work behind the scenes…

Clarifying who I am, what I stand for, and the kind of transformation I’m here to help people create.

So, let me reintroduce myself…

I’m Helena - part science nerd (my house is basically Big Bang Theory), part intuitive coach, part Tigger-with-a-heart.

My home is a blended whirlwind: two teen boys obsessed with physics and maths, a teen girl who sings nonstop, a partner who lives for Aston Villa, a floofy Schnoodle, a Tuxedo moggie and a family that thrives on quiz nights.

I’ve finally joined the Stranger Things bandwagon - a bit late I know!

I love understanding people, disrupting the patterns that keep them stuck, and I deeply believe everyone deserves a life that feels honest and grounded.

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I’m a Transformational Coach - The Pattern Breaker - helping people understand themselves on a deeper level so they can break the unconscious patterns that keep them stuck.

Not by “fixing,” but by creating safety, awareness, and emotional regulation so you can release the past and return to who you really are.

My work has evolved this year, and so have my offers:

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🌿 Stop Being Stuck Breakthrough (1:1) - £995

Deep nervous system + emotional regulation work for anyone looping in the same emotional patterns.

🌟 Beyond the Breakthrough (1:1) - £2995

Builds on Stop Being Stuck with deeper coaching to support your next chapter - grounded, steady, and clear.

❤️ Crossroads (1:1 Relationship Clarity) - £595

For anyone unsure whether to stay, leave, or shift their relationship. Not advice - clarity. We uncover what’s yours, what’s fear, what’s conditioning, and what’s true.

🌀 Paseda360 Unmasked (New Group Programme) - £250
Starting January!

Helps you understand yourself in a way that feels human, safe, and genuinely transformative.
✨ Remove the masks
✨ Understand the mind
✨ Shift protective patterns
✨ Build emotional regulation
✨ Move toward a more grounded sense of self

If you’ve ever felt like you’re performing life rather than living it- this is where that begins to change.

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My coaching isn’t about making you “better.”

It’s about guiding you back to who you already are beneath the noise, pressure, and patterns.

If any of this speaks to you, drop a 💜 or message me.

I’m here when you’re ready.

Helena x

PS: These are next year’s prices. Start NOW to benefit from current ones! DM me for details 💜

24/11/2025

Where the hell have I been?

I’ve been absent from socials for a while… for more reasons than I first realised.

Yes - I’ve had the worst dose of flu or Covid I’ve ever experienced. It knocked me right off my feet, and honestly, I’m still not fully back to my “tiggerific” self.

But also...

I’ve been breaking my own patterns.

I’ve been deep inside the nuts and bolts of my business - stripping it back, challenging what I thought was working, and getting brutally honest about what actually isn’t.
For me.
And for my clients.

And, OMG, it’s been confronting.
Really messy.
Very emotional.
Especially when it comes to money.

There were days when the easiest option would’ve been to give up, get a job, and retreat back into what looked like “safety”.

I even checked whether M&S were recruiting, because apparently they give the best staff discounts. 😉

But there’s another part of me - the part that refuses to pretend, the part that knows when something isn’t aligned anymore - and she simply wasn’t willing to settle.

She wanted to keep going.
Keep building.
Keep choosing a future that actually fits who I am, not who I thought I “should” be.

And somewhere in the middle of all that discomfort, clarity arrived.

I realised I’d been given a fresh start - a chance to refresh, refocus, and completely restart in a way that feels true to me.

Out with the old ideas, systems, and beliefs…

And in with a brand new way of seeing myself, my work, and the men and women I’m here to serve.

So yes - things are changing.
In my business.
In my life.
In the way I show up.

And it’s all happening on MY terms.

No more masks.
No more pretending.
No more patterns running the show.

Watch this space…

Because what’s coming is powerful, exciting, and deeply aligned.

And something tells me…
You may just want to be part of it.

07/11/2025

I’ve been sitting on this one for ten whole days…

Which has been torture for me and my inner tigger…

I am rubbish at keeping secrets (except the one about the dog - ask me about that another time!)🐾

But I can finally share that I’ve been selected as a Finalist in The National Coaching Conference & National Coaching Awards - Transformational Coach of the Year! 💫

Unfortunately, I’ve also spent those exact same ten days in bed with a really nasty flu 🤒

So it’s been this surreal mix of “wow, this is flipping amazing!”, “pass me another tissue…” and “more paracetamol please…”

But today, as I start to feel a tiny bit more human again, it’s hitting me just how special this is.

I am so unbelievably proud and incredibly honoured to be named alongside an absolutely phenomenal group of coaches…

And I really don’t say that lightly.

They are flipping incredible humans doing incredible work.

And maybe, just maybe…

…it’s time I start letting myself really see that I’m pretty flipping amazing too. 💜

This is my THIRD time (yes, you read that right!) being selected as a finalist, and every single time it reminds me why I do what I do…

Helping people reconnect with who they truly are, break free from old patterns, and choose a life that feels right.

So yeah… it’s a weird day, but a bloody good one.

And I’m feeling all the feels - grateful, proud, emotional, and maybe just a little bit sparkly inside ✨

And for once, it’s not just the feverish chills from the flu!

Thank you all for being part of my journey! 💜

28/10/2025

Locked, loaded, and ready to break another mindset myth…

You can’t consciously think your way out of a subconscious problem.

I keep seeing so many posts and receiving so many emails telling me to just “think differently”, “change your mindset” or “let go of your limiting beliefs”?

Like it’s some kind of magic trick.

Spoiler alert: it’s not.

And if I’m honest, I’m getting really frustrated with them..

Because it means they don’t understand the science…

You try. You push.

You grind through the habits, the affirmations… and for a while they work!

But somehow, you end up back in the same loop.

Frustrated. Stuck. Wondering if you’re the problem.

But your mindset isn’t just about your thoughts.

It’s about your nervous system.

The patterns your body learned LONG before you even knew what “mindset” meant.

No amount of trying to think differently or willpower can override a system that’s wired to protect you.

Work WITH your system, resolve the root cause, and suddenly, change stops being a battle - it becomes natural.

Yes it’s still messy at times, but with the right tools and support, you can manage the mess AND come out the other side!

That’s the work I do.

I help people go deeper than mindset, break through the loops that keep them stuck, and finally make choices from a place of truth.

So I have a question…

Want to really experience deep, long-lasting transformation that actually sticks?

Not just the temporary “mindset shifts”?

Let’s work together - I’ll help you go deeper than mindset, work WITH your nervous system and finally break the patterns keeping you stuck.

27/10/2025

I’m still buzzing!!!

I’ve just finished a half-day Stop Being Stuck session with a client…

…and wow.

We delved deep into the patterns, past events and beliefs that had been quietly running the show behind the scenes - the ones that still triggered them and kept them repeating the same cycles.

Together we resolved what had been keeping them stuck…

Patterns and perspectives like

❌I am not important
❌I can’t ask for help
❌My feelings don’t matter

Reframed how they saw their past…

And helped them finally take off the mask of their Pretender…

The People Pleaser AND the Persecutor of Others mask..

With freedom and clarity.

Next, we shine a light on what’s good!

All the flipping amazing things about them that have been hidden under layers of conditioning and worst behaviour habits.

Slowly building up their self-value and their self-trust..

So they can now begin to show up as their true self..

It was deep.
It was powerful.
It was transformational.

And I absolutely loved every minute. 💫

25/10/2025

My eyeballs are basically Tigger on a trampoline…

Send help!!

Currently I am using:

✅Short-sighted contact lenses (most of the time)

✅Reading glasses with my contacts (for work and checking out my phone)

✅Varifocal glasses (when I’m not wearing my contacts!)

Oh and there’s an astigmatism bouncing around too!

I don’t wear them all at the same time obviously - except the contacts and reading glasses..

But I really think it’s time to consider some new options…

As my kids keep taking the p1ss out of me for holding my phone at arms length when trying to send messages or check out my socials!!

Apparently I am now old… 😩

So, the big question?

Varifocal contact lenses - are they the magical calm my eyes need, or just more blurry chaos?

And if you’ve tried varifocal contact lenses - tell me about them!!

I need all the tips before committing!

PS pic of said contacts and reading glasses! 🤓

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