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Helena Clare Coaching, Sutton Coldfield (2026)

05/03/2026

Have you ever dodged a bullet?

A while ago I was invited to an assessment day for a coaching organisation.

Part of the day involved coaching someone for 20 minutes while being observed.

On the surface that sounds fine.

But something in me immediately felt… off.

Because the expectation was that in those 20 minutes I would lay all my cards on the table as a coach. Demonstrate my capability. Show what I could do.

And the more I sat with that, the more it rubbed up against my integrity.

I don’t do 20-minute coaching.

My clients and I spend at least 90 minutes in the room together. Because the work I do isn’t surface level. It takes time to build trust, to create psychological safety, to go beneath the story and uncover what’s actually keeping someone stuck.

Twenty minutes isn’t enough for that.

Twenty minutes is enough to build a bit of rapport and have a nice conversation.

And that’s not the kind of coach I am.

If I’m honest, the whole set-up meant I put my mask on.

My Perfectionist Pretender mask.

And when a coach is wearing a mask, guess what usually happens?

The client does too.

There was no real psychological safety in that room.
No time to create it.
No space for it.

At one point I was even criticised for not using silence enough.

Now, silence can be incredibly powerful in coaching.

But the thing most people miss…

Silence without psychological safety can feel like pressure.
Like you have to perform.
Like you need to fill the gap.

That’s not safety.

That’s tension.

Needless to say, I wasn’t offered the position.

And honestly?

I’m absolutely delighted. I feel like a dodged a bullet.

Because staying true to my coaching style, my integrity, and my ethics mattered more than performing well in a 20-minute assessment.

What I do isn’t sticking-plaster coaching.

It’s not surface level.

I create space to go deep, uncover the unconscious patterns keeping you stuck, and then bring you back out safely - so you feel held the whole way through.

And that work can’t be squeezed into 20 minutes.

So if you’re tired of surface-level coaching…

and you’re ready to actually get to the root of what’s keeping you stuck…

let’s have a conversation.

Helena x
The Pattern Breaker

03/03/2026

Magic is in the air….

There is definitely something in the air at the moment.. and it feels like magic..

Or even, dare I say it, hope!

Despite all the stuff in the news, which I am avoiding, because I just can’t cope with it..

But on my morning walk with Poppy today, there felt like a lightness..

The sun was up and actually showing its face…

The birds were singing and chatting away with each other…

Snowdrops, crocuses and daffodils are popping up everywhere..

And all the trees have buds of growth on them..

A sign of the wondrous things to come as spring gets into flow.

And bringing with it a sense of hope that the dark nights are coming to an end and the light is coming through.

And it felt good!

As I think we all need a little hope and magic at the moment!

Just wanted to share that with you all!

Helena x
The Pattern Breaker

(A selection of picks from my walk this morning! I have even spotted 🐝 and 🦋 over the last few days!)

03/03/2026

Magic is in the air….

There is definitely something in the air at the moment.. and it feels like magic..

Or even, dare I say it, hope!

Despite all the stuff in the news, which I am avoiding, because I just can’t cope with it..

But on my morning walk with Poppy today, there felt like a lightness..

The sun was up and actually showing its face…

The birds were singing and chatting away with each other…

Snowdrops, crocuses and daffodils are popping up everywhere..

And all the trees have buds of growth on them..

A sign of the wondrous things to come as spring gets into flow.

And bringing with it a sense of hope that the dark nights are coming to an end and the light is coming through.

And it felt good!

As I think we all need a little hope and magic at the moment!

Just wanted to share that with you all!

Helena x
The Pattern Breaker

(A selection of picks from my walk this morning! I have even spotted 🐝 and 🦋 over the last few days!)

02/03/2026

Sometimes the old you still shows up… and that’s okay

I read a post recently that hit me in the chest: “I often feel like I’m still shaking off who I used to be.”

Yes.

That person who was conditioned by family, life, or circumstances to shrink, apologise, perform, or constantly seek approval… sometimes she still creeps in.

Asking:
Am I enough?
Do I deserve to be seen?
Is what u say important?

What I do know now and coach people through every day: that old version of you doesn’t get to make the decisions anymore.

You do.

I’ve seen it in my own life and in my clients’ journeys.

Saying no to people who drain your energy.
Walking away from patterns that keep you stuck.
Choosing alignment over approval.

That’s not selfish.

That’s liberation.
That’s empowerment.

When you finally stop asking for permission - for your time, your space, your voice - you start to reclaim the life you were always meant to live.

If you’ve worked hard, played by the rules, been kind, given more than you received…

I see you. I hear you. I was you.

And I also know you can step fully into your light without guilt or hesitation.

Because breaking unconscious patterns isn’t just about changing your behaviour.

It’s about regulating your nervous system, rewiring your default responses, and owning your power at a core, identity-level.

The old you might show up sometimes. That’s fine.

But the new you? She’s the one calling the shots.💜

Helena x
The Pattern Breaker

27/02/2026

My dog Poppy is a toy Schnoodle.

Tiny.
Only just bigger than the cat.

But in her head?

She’s basically a wolfhound.

She barks at dogs several times her size like she’s head of security.

When she wants to get on the sofa, she won’t even attempt it unless there’s enough room for what I can only assume she believes is her Rottweiler-sized frame.

The confidence is… delusional.
And magnificent.

And it got me thinking about perspective.

Because none of us see life as it is.
We see it through a lens.

Like stained glass.

Some of us walk around seeing ourselves through:

“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m too much.”
“I shouldn’t take up space.”
“I’ll get it wrong.”
“I have to earn my place.”

And when you look through that window long enough, you start believing it’s just… reality.

But it isn’t.

It’s conditioning.
Old experiences.
Unresolved stuff in the nervous system.
Patterns you learned to survive.

Poppy isn’t objectively a wolfhound.

But she behaves like she belongs.

And I see so many capable, high-functioning humans doing the opposite.

Shrinking.
Second-guessing.
Waiting to be invited.
Needing the “right conditions” before they take up space.

You don’t need to become delusional like my 5kg Schnoodle.

But you do need to question the lens you’re looking through.

Because if your internal stained glass says “not enough”…

…you will keep creating a life that confirms it.

This is the work I do.

Not confidence hacks.
Not surface-level mindset tweaks.

Identity-level pattern breaking.
Nervous system regulation.
Resolving the stuff that keeps you small even when you’re more than capable.

If you’re honest…
what lens are you looking through right now?

And is it actually true?

If you’re ready to break the pattern instead of managing it, send me a message with the word LENS or book a call (link in bio!)

Let’s make sure you’re not living life like a wolfhound trapped in a toy dog body.

-or worse-

a wolfhound who thinks she’s a mouse. 🐾

Helena
The Pattern Breaker

26/02/2026

This…. 👇👇👇👇

This is something that I am finally starting to recognise…

It’s taken years of tough inner work.
Lots of learning and training.
Lightbulb moments.
Epiphanies.
Brutally honest self-reflection.
Feedback from colleagues and clients.
And 2 awards.

Yes. TWO.

And yet…

For the longest time, how I felt about myself and what was actually true were living in completely different houses.

On paper?
Experienced. Qualified. Impactful. Award-winning.

Inside my own nervous system?
“Are you sure?”
“Don’t get ahead of yourself.”
“Other people are better.”
“Keep your head down.”

It’s crazy, isn’t it?

How high-functioning, capable humans can hold evidence of their brilliance in one hand…
… and still feel like they’re winging it with the other.

But what I now understand is…

Feelings are not facts.
Old patterns are loud.
And the identity you built to stay safe will always try to keep you small.

But that doesn’t make it true.

What’s true is this:

I work deeply.
I care fiercely.
I help people resolve patterns that have kept them stuck for decades.
I change rooms when I walk into them.
And apparently… I win awards while doing it.

The gap between “how amazing you are” and “how you feel” is often just unintegrated evidence.

Not arrogance.
Not ego.
Integration.

And maybe the work now isn’t about becoming more…

Maybe it’s about allowing yourself to fully recognise what’s already there.

YOUR inner tigger 🐯

So if you’re someone who:
– Holds everything together
– Is the one others lean on
– Quietly questions yourself despite the evidence

This is your reminder.

You don’t have to feel extraordinary to be extraordinary.

Sometimes you just have to let the evidence land.

And I’m finally letting it land.

Helena 💗
The Pattern Breaker@

Thank you to Art of Brilliance for the fabulous graphic!

25/02/2026

Is it sad to get emotional over saying goodbye to an “old” car?
Asking for a friend….

It’s only three years old.
Nothing dramatic happened.
No breakdowns. No big story.

And yet… I feel weirdly sad. And have shed a tear or two as it was driven away..

Not because it’s “just a car”.
But because it’s been the backdrop to the last three years of my life.

The school runs.
The voice notes.
The deep thinking drives.
The singing at the top of my voice.
The tears I cried where no one could see me.
The moments I pulled myself together before walking into something hard.

It quietly held a version of me.

And I think that’s what I’m actually feeling.

We don’t just outgrow people.
We outgrow seasons.
Identities.
Chapters.

Sometimes the physical thing is just the marker that something has shifted.

It’s funny how the nervous system works.
Change - even good change -
still feels like change.

So if you’ve ever felt emotional about something “daft”…

Maybe it’s not about the thing.

Maybe it’s about who you were when you first got it.

And who you are now.

I will really miss that car.
And I’m allowed to.

Moving forward doesn’t mean pretending nothing mattered.

Helena x
The Pattern Breaker

PS. That was my son’s L plate!!

24/02/2026

Can I be really honest with you?

I’ve been speaking to a lot of female founders lately. Capable women. High-functioning. The ones everyone else leans on.

And there’s this quiet undercurrent.

They’re holding everything together…
but they’re tired of holding themselves in.

You didn’t start your business to feel like you’re managing your own personality.

Somewhere along the way, you started being the version of you that works.

The reliable one.
The strong one.
The sensible one.

But where’s YOUR Inner Tigger?

Not mine.
Not some loud, extroverted stereotype.

Yours.

The version of you that feels true.

The one who trusts her instincts.
The one who doesn’t second-guess every decision.
The one who feels like herself when she walks into a room.

For some women that’s bold.
For some it’s calm and steady.
For some it’s creative and instinctive.

But it’s yours.

And if you’re honest… I bet she’s been dialled down.

THIS is the work I care about.

Not “fixing” you.
Not making you more productive.
Not teaching you how to cope better.
But breaking the unconscious patterns that made you shrink in the first place.

As part of my Master Practitioner training, I have 3 case study places for 2026.

It’s a six-month deep dive into the patterns, pressure and internal narratives that are running you - even when you look successful on the outside.

There’s a half-day intensive.
Six 90-minute sessions.
Nervous system work.
Proper integration.

It’s offered at a reduced rate because you’ll be part of my Advanced Diploma case research.

This isn’t traditional coaching. Even if you’ve done coaching before, this won’t feel familiar. It’s deeper. More human. More real.

Because life-changing results don’t happen at surface level - they happen when you finally see yourself clearly, perhaps for the first time.

If you’re reading this and feeling that subtle “oh…” in your stomach - the one that says I’ve outgrown the version of me that works - then this is probably for you.

Message me if you want the details.

Three places.

Because growing your business shouldn’t require losing yourself.

Helena x
The Pattern Breaker

20/02/2026

Unleash Your Inner Tigger…

Working with me isn’t about wishful thinking. It’s about owning your power.

When we work together, you stop outsourcing belief.

You stop waiting for:

Someone to validate your direction.
Someone to cheerlead consistently.
Someone to “get it.”

Instead, you become the woman who backs herself - even when the room is quiet.

No apologies. No hiding. No pretending. No doubting.

You say the things that need to be said.
You do the things that need to be done.
And every choice you make moves you closer to the life that actually fits you.

This is more than coaching.
It’s identity-level transformation.
It’s stepping into your own power.

It’s finally, fully Unleashing Your Inner Tigger.

Helena x
The Pattern Breaker
Multi-Award Winning Transformational Coach

P.S. Even Ross approves. 😉

18/02/2026

THIS is your year.

The Fire Horse only comes around once every 60 years - a rare spark of energy, movement, and the pull toward something more.

Maybe this is the year you start noticing that restless tug inside you - the one that says you’re done playing small, done overthinking, done shrinking to fit what others expect.

Maybe it’s the year you start leaning into action, trusting that momentum is built in motion, not thought.

And maybe… just maybe…

THIS is the year you start to unleash your inner Tigger. 🐯

That version of you that’s playful, bold, curious, and alive - the one that’s been under the layers of “shoulds,” “musts,” and the masks you’ve been wearing to stay safe.

You don’t have to roar immediately.
You don’t have to leap blindly.
You just start noticing her, inviting her out, and letting her guide you toward what feels alive, true, and fully you.

And…

You don’t have to do it alone.

I will walk beside you as you uncover the patterns and old stories that have been keeping you stuck, peel back the layers, and reconnect to the authentic self that’s been waiting all along.

Step by step, you can create a life that actually fits you - one designed around your truth, your values, and what genuinely serves you.

So… the question isn’t are you ready….

It’s what’s stopping you?

Helena x
The Pattern Breaker

Ps I know the image is cheesy but I had fun creating it, and that’s what it’s all about!! 😁

17/02/2026

“You’re too passionate.”

I was told that once by a line manager.

Too passionate.

I remember thinking…

WTF? Is that actually meant to be criticism?

Because if I’m not passionate about what I’m doing, that’s when you need to worry.

Today I started with a new Stop Being Stuck client.
She’s also going to be a case study for my Master Practitioner.

And she is READY.

Ready to look at the stuff most people spend years avoiding.
Ready to feel uncomfortable.
Ready to stop pretending she doesn’t know what she already knows.

And I’ll be honest - I felt nervous this morning.

I always feel a bit nervous when I start with someone new.
Even now.
Even as a multi-award-winning coach.

Not because I doubt what I’m doing.
But because I care.

I care about getting it right.
I care about the depth.
I care that this isn’t just a nice chat - it’s proper identity-level work.

The nerves aren’t a red flag.
They’re a sign I’m invested.

And actually… I hope they never fully go away.

Because I’ve been in the opposite place.

There was a point, towards the end of my pharmacy career, where the passion had drained out of me. The energy wasn’t there. My heart wasn’t in it.

That scared me far more than any pre-session nerves ever have.

So yes - I still get that flutter.
I still want to do a bloody good job.
I still feel the responsibility when someone trusts me with their patterns, their stuckness, their truth.

And long may that continue.

If that makes me “too passionate”…

Good.

Helena x
The Pattern Breaker

12/02/2026

Unmasked starts tonight. And I’m super excited! 🥳
And yes… there’s still time to join (if you’re really really quick).

Because I keep hearing:
“I’ll do this later, when things calm down.”

But patterns don’t pause just because life is busy.
They quietly decide for us.

Unmasked begins this evening.

It’s for women who are done letting old strategies run the show - the ones that once helped… but now just exhaust.

If you know something needs to change, this is your window.

Not dramatic.
Not chaotic.
Just honest.

Message me now if you want the details before we begin.

We start at 7pm!

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