28/11/2025
Let’s keep it real!
We all have down days.
But even on your down days when your feeling emotional, upset, angry, and your imposter syndrome and limiting beliefs are kicking in big time.
You will still answer, as a default, when asked, ‘I’m fine’.
Inside you may be crumbling away through overwhelm and overthinking, doubt and lack of self esteem but you will still say ‘I'm fine’.
Yes hands up to doing this to in the past and yes I am a therapist and people think you have it all sussed out but I want to keep it real and say yes, I also have my own negative chimp on my shoulder. And sometimes they pop up occasionally with a vengeance and knock the stuffing right out of me!
On those days, my own default is now to say if asked ‘no I’m not ok’ and that ‘I am having an off day’. This allows the other person to be supportive if required and opens up a whole new conversation around mind health.
By now admitting this openly, rather than trying to hide behind the ‘I’m fine’ normal answer. I am not only allowing myself to be honest, authentic and very open with myself, but I am also giving others permission allowing themselves to do this too.
I personally find that this opens up a whole new frank open discussion and conversation.
When we are feeling low we don’t necessarily want anyone else to ‘fix it' for us, and we want to allow ourselves to feel of all the deep emotions which in turn helps us to understand why we are feeling that way.
This way we can really truly understand ourselves more and gain a huge amount of clarity about these emotions and feelings.
And yes we sometimes need someone to be alongside of us to help us do this.
If you need a safe space so that you can open up and release your emotions in a way you may not feel able to with those around you pop me a message today to find out more.
