Out of the Blue Counselling - Lori Thackham, Therapist

02/10/2025

💭 Do you ever notice the same patterns repeating in your relationships?
Karpman’s Drama Triangle is a simple model that can help us spot these dynamics and understand why we sometimes feel stuck.
In counselling, I use this framework to support clients in exploring patterns safely and building healthier ways of relating.
👉 Read more in my latest blog: https://www.outofthebluecounselling.org/relationship-patterns-explained-how-the-drama-triangle-plays-out-in-our-lives/

01/09/2025

🚨 Nationwide Emergency Alert Test🚨

This Sunday 7th September 3pm.

The UK’s new emergency alert system will send a loud siren, message, and vibration to every compatible phone even on silent. Survivors of abuse with hidden phones could be put at risk if the device is discovered.

You can opt out in your phone’s settings to protect your safety.
✅ iPhone: Search “Emergency Alerts” in settings → Turn off Severe & Emergency alerts
✅ Android: Search “Emergency Alerts” in settings → Turn off Severe & Emergency alerts (and other threat categories if listed)

18/07/2024

29/12/2023

This is a post I have shared before, but thought it was a lovely one to share again as we approach a New Year.

01/08/2023

I think this is quietly powerful 🩷

Every young person should see this.

💡 thepresentpsychologist

26/10/2022

A couple of spaces have become available for the Creative Workshop. The workshop is free of charge, for more information contact the details on the below poster 👌🏻

30/05/2022

My new therapy room

16/05/2022

Great advice from a colleague’s post - bringing self awareness to moments of stress give us choice to break patterns that don’t work and create new ways of dealing with things

I like that this can be true for both children and adults - asking ourselves this question when we find ourselves shouting will help us to empathise with our child - why are they yelling too? The solution is to stop, breathe and try to recognise the need or the trigger and try to find a solution together.

11/05/2022

A clip sharing useful tips about managing panic attacks. It describes how you can learn to self regulate and these tips and techniques are very much the way I approach working with panic and anxiety.

The amygdala can be re-caliberated for anxiety relief using this easy to apply tip.