My True Self Therapy

14/11/2025

This is what IFS helps you to do, show up for the younger pats of you in the way you needed back then, and allows healing to happen

There’s a difference between acknowledging what hurt you and rehearsing it until it becomes who you are.

At first, reliving the story feels protective. Your mind thinks, If I can just understand it enough, I’ll finally feel safe. But the brain learns safety through experience, not rumination.

Each time you revisit the wound without resolution, your nervous system fires the same survival pathways - tightening the loop between what happened then and what you feel now.

Sometimes we replay the story because we still feel unseen. When justice never came, when no one protected you or believed you, retelling it can become the only way your pain feels real.

In that sense, holding on isn’t weakness - it’s belonging. It’s your system trying to say, This mattered. I mattered.

But over time, that survival loop can start to shape how you see yourself - organizing your life around the very wound that deserved care, not identity. You start anticipating rejection, mistaking vigilance for strength, confusing protection for personality.

The way out isn’t erasing the story - it’s helping your body learn that being seen now is possible. Every moment of calm, connection, or self-compassion teaches your system a new truth:

The danger is over.
You made it through.
You’re safe to be witnessed in the present, not just remembered in the past.

08/11/2025

I love IFS, as it invites our systems to communicate with us in all of our senses and we listen gently snd carefully to the information

18/10/2025

06/10/2025

Gathered are a team of 12 experienced, trauma-informed local yoga and holistic practitioners — each bringing their own flavour of gentle movement, breath, meditation, and connection.
Inspired by time in Rishikesh, India, Breathe & Be is a calm, rejuvenating space for anyone needing a pause from life’s grind.
💚 A healthier way to unwind, heal, and reconnect — for individuals, parents, and older teens alike.

25/09/2025

17/09/2025

We often picture trauma as loud—yelling, fighting, violence. But trauma isn’t defined by noise.

Trauma is any overwhelming experience that your nervous system can’t fully process. It isn’t just what happened to you—it’s what happened inside you when you were left alone with the pain. It’s about how you perceived and responded to what happened to you.

That’s why silent treatment and love withdrawal can be so damaging. Being cut off from connection activates the same stress pathways as danger. Your body doesn’t know if you’ve been abandoned, so it shifts into survival mode.

As a child, that can teach you: “If I’m quiet enough, perfect enough, invisible enough… Maybe I won’t lose love.”

As an adult, the patterns resurface. Being shut out by a partner can trigger the same panic or shutdown: the over-pleasing, the walking on eggshells, the dread of disconnection.

The hardest part is there are no bruises, no raised voices—so you end up second-guessing yourself: “Why does this hurt so much? Maybe I’m just too sensitive.”

But this is trauma. Emotional withdrawal overwhelms the nervous system just like louder forms of abuse and it actually feels more life threatening. Nothing is more toxic than the presence of something painful.

And here’s the hope: what disconnection once wired into you, connection can slowly rewire. With the right support, your body can relearn that love and safety belong together.

Healing isn’t instant, but it is possible. Every step toward trusting connection again is real progress.

05/09/2025

Numbing yourself can feel like relief - like finally shutting off the noise.

And in the moment, it is relief. It’s your nervous system saying, “This is too much right now, let’s press pause.”

But here’s the truth: you can’t numb selectively.
The same wall that quiets grief, anger, or pain also dulls joy, love, and connection.

Your body is doing its best to protect you- but protection isn’t the same as healing.

Numbness may keep you safe for a season, but if you stay there, it slowly drains the color from life. You stop feeling the lows and the highs.

Real healing happens when those emotions get a safe place to move through you instead of staying locked inside. That might look like talking it out, letting your body release what it’s held, or working with a therapist who can guide you through the layers of grief and pain.

Because your emotions aren’t enemies to be silenced - they’re signals that need tending. And the more you learn to feel them safely, the more room you create for joy, love, and connection to return.

09/02/2025

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02/10/2024

When you say, “A part of me feels that . . . ,” you have already embraced the basic idea of IFS, whether or not you are aware of it.

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30/09/2024

Free well-being event on Sat 5th of Oct in the Queens Hall Narberth.

Demos, Talks and workshops using complimentary therapies.

Use this form to book one of the free workshops

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In collaboration with Gryff's Mind Space we are excited to announce our first Winter of Wellbeing event 👇
Winter of Wellbeing: Wellbeing and Holistic Day | Free event on 5th Oct 2024 at The Queens Hall Narberth

Together we have planned and designed a program of talks, demos, info sharing experiences, workshops and art therapy activities for our community plus refreshments

This is a wonderful opportunity to try, experience something new, or re-engage with an activity you have tried before

All activities are completely free - Main Hall activities are drop-in - workshops in the Balcony Room are via pre-registration only

Please complete the registration form https://forms.office.com/r/Z9dS9RryRv for workshops. A follow up call/ email will be sent to you to confirm your place - All partners are qualified specialists and therapists

05/08/2024

In partnership with the Paul Sartori Foundation, we are pleased to offer free counsellor-led peer support group sessions in Haverfordwest this Autumn. The face-to-face group will meet for six monthly consecutive sessions starting on Friday, September 20th, from 1 p.m. to 3 p.m. The number of participants is limited to 8, and places will be offered on a first-come, first-served basis. These sessions are open to anyone over the age of 18 who has been bereaved by su***de and lives in West Wales. We ask that couples and family members attend different groups to ensure that each person can express themselves freely. After a su***de, many of us struggle with overwhelming thoughts, constant what-ifs, and intense feelings such as sadness, anger, shame, and guilt. We understand that many people feel isolated and disconnected, not knowing what to do with their pain. Attending a peer support group can be beneficial as you can share your experience and feel understood without fear of judgment in a safe and supportive environment.

Email liss.listens@gmail.com to book your place.