Sophie Rae Counselling and Mental Health Services

27/03/2026

It’s a compliment. Honestly😊

Most parents quietly carry this question…
“Why does my child behave so differently with me?”

They hold it together all day. They cope at school. They manage with others.
And then they come home… and everything unravels.

The shouting. The defiance. The tears. The pushing back.

It can feel personal. It can feel exhausting.
It can even make you question yourself as a parent.

But what if this isn’t a sign of failure…
What if it’s actually a sign of safety?

Children often save their biggest feelings for the adult they trust most.
Not because you’re getting it wrong — but because your child knows, deep down, you will stay.

This post explains why this happens — and what your child is really asking for in those moments.

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26/03/2026

This is a long one for me, however it’s prudent to process before Friday rushes in ❤️

Let it go… not all at once, but one weight at a time.

Each emotion you hold is like a balloon in your hand.
The more you carry, the heavier your life feels.

Here’s what you need to release:

🤬Anger
Anger feels like strength, but it quietly drains you. It keeps you tied to the moment that hurt you. The longer you hold it, the longer you give that moment power over your present. Letting go of anger doesn’t mean they were right—it means you choose peace over poison.

😱Fear
Fear protects you, but it also limits you. It whispers worst-case scenarios and keeps you from moving forward. When you hold onto fear too tightly, you stop living fully. Release it, and you’ll realize most of what you feared never had the power you gave it.

😔Regret
Regret keeps you stuck in “what if” and “if only.” But the past cannot be changed, no matter how many times you replay it. The lesson matters, not the guilt. Let regret go, and take the wisdom with you instead.

😫Pain
Pain is real, and it deserves to be felt—but not forever. When you hold onto pain, you relive it again and again. Healing begins when you allow yourself to move forward, not when you keep reopening old wounds.

😡Hatred
Hatred is heavy. It consumes your thoughts and steals your peace. The person you hate may not even feel it—but you carry it every day. Letting go doesn’t mean you approve—it means you refuse to let them live in your mind rent-free.

You were never meant to carry all of this forever.

Feel it. 🤔
Understand it. ⁉️
Then release it 🎈🎈🎈🎈

Because the moment you let go…
is the moment you finally feel free❤️❤️

23/03/2026

The thought for this week …

20/03/2026

Website spring clean spruce up on the the first day of spring. Please do feel free to pass it on if you know anyone who might benefit ❤️

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18/03/2026

This sums this up beautifully ❤️

The mind suffers when it forgets where life actually happens.

When the mind is trapped in the past, it becomes depression — replaying old pain, regrets, and memories that can no longer be changed.

When the mind is overwhelmed by everything happening right now, it becomes stress — trying to carry more than the present moment was meant to hold.

And when the mind constantly runs ahead of life, imagining problems that haven’t even happened yet, it becomes anxiety.

In Buddhism, much of human suffering comes from the mind wandering away from the present moment.

The past is gone.
The future has not arrived.

Yet the mind keeps traveling between both, forgetting the only place where peace can exist — right here, right now.

Peace begins when we gently bring the mind back to the present…
one breath at a time.

Because the calmer the mind becomes,
the clearer life begins to feel.

Sometimes the greatest healing is simply learning to return to the moment you are living in.

Take a slow breath right now.

Are you living in the past, the future, or the present?

16/03/2026

A Monday note to self ❤️❤️

05/03/2026

Hear this as all to often a parents focus is what they can do for others, whilst forgetting you can do nothing for others if you’re running on empty!

02/03/2026

Create space for solutions to appear …

Our brains are incredible, but they’re not built to be storage units.

When you try to hold tasks, reminders, and ideas in your head, you increase cognitive load, which makes it harder to focus, regulate emotions, and decide what to do next.

Research shows that externalizing information (writing it down, saying it out loud, or using visual systems) frees up working memory so your brain can actually think and problem-solve.

That’s why getting things out of your head often brings immediate relief. 🧠

22/02/2026

Thoughts for the future and in particular Monday Mornigs! Have a great week…

10/02/2026

Not always easy however always true ❤️